Hun, don’t forget you’re human

The saying “Being Strong is the only option” is a True inspirational statement. However, I believe we need to add: “but don’t forget that you are human”. Many of us are raised by people that we see as strong and they taught us to keep it together when trying times come.

We aren’t always advised to cry it out, or to seek therapy because society associates those things as a sign of weakness. The reality is, society does not want us to be Vulnerable. The interesting thing is that being vulnerable comes from our inner emotions…. Emotions something we are born with.

From birth we learn to cry to get the attention of our caregiver. When we feel uncomfortable or scared we seek protection from our caregiver (you can check out Bowlby’s development theory for that). Why does that change as we grow? As stated previously, as we grow our caregivers want us to be strong and I believe it’s because we won’t always have them to protect us from this world.

As a woman, I can say this IS a struggle for me daily. I’m sensitive, empathetic, prideful and strong, but I get overwhelmed because I want to do everything and be everything for everyone. I want to be Wonder Woman for my family, but often I fall apart. Wearing so many hats and masks does take a toll on our mental well-being but yet it doesn’t matter until we have a breakdown.

I’m learning that it’s ok to NOT be ok and It’s ok to voice that. We are wives, mothers, daughters, sisters, grand daughters, cousins, teachers, nurses, lawyers, ministers all in one and so many depend on us to be that for them. These same people need to understand that we Are Human too. For many of them, this won’t be easy for them to understand, but it’s vital that you make them understand your needs.

Ladies, I hope this resonates you to acknowledge that it’s ok to need a “time out”. You are human, and deserve to receive the love and support that you desire. Hold on, don’t give up.

Thank you for reading!

Nicole Cherise ♥️

Injustices

They are cute, handsome, adorable, and so cool but when does that shift happen? The shift of them becoming a threat? A Target? A menace? My heart aches for the grieving Mothers who had to bury their sons due to injustices that have lingered for centuries. Enough of turning the other cheek. It’s time for many to admit that Wrong is Wrong. If you can say that “All Lives Matter” then, you “Should” be outraged as well. This is not a hatred post, it’s a MY SONS’ Reality Post. #nicolecherise #mysons #godson #socialinjustice #justiceforgeorgefloyd

Nicole Cherise ♥️

10 years battling MS!

Hello everyone!!!

It’s been a while and I thought it would be great to come back on a day that’s so important to me. One this day 10 years ago I was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis (MS). It was a day that brought so many emotions but mostly ANSWERS AND CLARITY.

Through this battle, I’ve grown tougher skin, resilience, and a strength that was unknown to me. Wobbly legs, Numbness all over my body, nerve pain, headaches, confusion, memory issues, trigeminal neuralgia, uncontrolled shakes and falling because my legs give out on me; are most of the symptoms that my battle consist of. With this battle, I don’t fight it alone.

My family, friends, church family, and work family and MS Warrior family, have been extremely supportive throughout the journey. Because of them, I’m inspired to have purpose and to NEVER give up. Therefore, I’m so blessed to have a great support system.

Here I am today, ready to give birth at any moment and reflecting on a monumental day in my life. Thank you all for your support, donations to our “Nicole Cherise” team and most importantly prayers. I love you all, thanks for reading!

Nicole Cherise ♥️

Pandemic Lessons

Of course, there is another aspect of what’s posted on this picture. Many people have enjoyed the family time by being entertained with Tic-Tok, games, binge watching movies or shows etc… However, only a few truly have that sense of Calmness.

These people accept what’s happening, take precautions, but refuse to let the Pandemic get the best of their lives. I feel this way about what one of my best friends. Anytime we chat she has this calmness to her. Now, that doesn’t mean that the pandemic hasn’t caused plans to change or be postponed due to the current bans but she’s doing an amazing job by continuing ON.

Unfortunately, I too, struggle with the events that are taking place. I’m almost 9 months pregnant and anxious for the next few weeks. I’m mainly home, so I’m developing cabin fever and it truly has had an effect on my emotions, but Safety for me and the little guy has to come first.

What are the things you’ve noticed about people during this Pandemic? What have you noticed about yourself?

Thank you for reading!

Nicole Cherise ♥️

One lesson to be learned

I struggle with this a lot because I’m still at a place in life where other’s thoughts and words matter and can affect my day. It truly shouldn’t and I’m aware of that and I wear my heart on my sleeve so it doesn’t help.

One thing that my therapist and many others say is that you can’t let others have control over your emotions. No one, should be able to control my feelings, how I think, or why I make the decisions that I do. So, with that being said, I share with you ways that may help if you struggle with this issue like I do.

  1. Don’t take EVERYTHING personal.
  2. Most talk a big game, but can’t follow their own advice.
  3. They are HUMAN not a higher power.

I’m sure there additional ways that can help but those are my top reminders for now. What about you?

Do you have techniques on ways to protect your peace?

Thanks for reading! Have a great weekend!

  • Control

    This happens quite often. We like to be in control and have control, but we really Don’t. We tend to believe we have all the answers, but what happens when you hit that brick wall and begin to break down?

    The anxiety and panic kicks in and we can feel lost. I say to you friends, it’s ok to NOT have all the answers. You CAN be wrong. You’re human and will make mistakes. Humble yourself, chill out with the arrogance now before you don’t have any other options but to.

    Reminder, you’re not alone, you got this.

    Nicole Cherise ♥️