This has to be said. If you see him/her other than a partner then what is the goal? To have a grown child to boss around and take advantage of? If you ask me that sounds like manipulation and inner insecurities. You Both should bring things to the table and be RESPECTED as each other’s equal. Life is too short for anything else 💯
Sometimes we hit a brick wall. Sometimes it feels like the walls are caving in on us. Sometimes we don’t have many more places to run away to. Sometimes, the very thing that gives so much pleasure also gives a lot of pain. Sometimes we can’t help but wonder if that silver lining is EVER going to appear?
The hardships of it all and you just want ONE person who could understand. You want that person to get it but they don’t. Please Try not to blame them, it’s not their fault. Their story isn’t ours even if they play a role in it. They have their own issues to tend to and may not have the bandwidth to tackles yours as well.
No one is to blame. No one should feel shame. No one owes us anything. But we do owe it to ourselves to try with ONE step each day. Try to be kinder to ourselves. Try to show up for ourselves. Try to make moves for ourselves. Try to be the Favorite and Best version of ourselves.
Please do yourself this favor. We have so many views on what relationships should look like instead of just going with the flow. We have the tendency to not think out of the box and get upset with the failed expectations.
I know we use the model that we saw growing up or we decide to rebel against it. Either way, what we saw or read about in the fairy tales does not equal the LAWS of how a committed relationship should look like. Get to KNOW and GROW with your person and have fun.
What are your thoughts? Have to you decided to model after your family views? Have you rebelled against it? Or have you said, I create my own? Let me know, let’s chat about it ☺️
Many would think that it’s weak of me to cry, or disliked the fact that I wore my heart on my sleeve. I would get angry anytime that my eyes filled with water while chatting with someone. Until one day someone shared that it was my strength and a part of my beauty.
How many can relate? We have to be kinder to ourselves. Possibly change our perspective as well. Be Well friends ❣️❣️❣️
While being in a committed relationship, it’s important to understand the differences in family dynamics that our partner has from us. It’s important because you can establish the accountability that is required, boundaries and possibly a New start to your own Belief systems.
For example: if one person grew up in an authoritative household, he or she might have the same kind of approach in communication techniques or come off bossy. Yet, their partner might have grown up in a more liberal home where they express their feelings more openly. This pair, could clash a lot.
So, take the time out to have the necessary discussions. Try to let your guard down and be open to the new possibilities that could present themselves.
Have any of you had to do this? Would you do this? Let me know in the comments!!
Acceptance•Agreement with or belief in an idea, opinion, or explanation.•The action or process of being received as adequate or suitable, typically to be admitted into a group.
Do you find yourself aiming for acceptance by family, friends, your workplace or community? It’s truly not easy to keep up with. We truly need to Accept ourselves FIRST and all that it brings. We have to Know who we are and move through life accordingly.
The country has experienced chaos due to the Covid-19 pandemic. Life as we know it has changed. Masks wearing, social distancing, working from home etc. However, during this time, I had the joy and honor of watching my youngest son grow.
Vaughn Nicolas turned 1 on 4/23 (yesterday) and it indeed was a joyous moment yet an emotional one too. V, has brought so much happiness and laughter to our family, and we truly are complete. However, with any milestone, I think about the members of our family who are not physically here to view these moments. I also get emotional because it means he will grow into his OWN independence and not need me as much and he’s the last one for the team. So no more little babies 🥺.
Either way, I’m beyond blessed to have his presence, to smell him, hold him and Love him! I’m thankful to be chosen to be his mama, and will do my best to nurture him and his big brother until my last breath.
I’m glad to blog again and why not start back with a post about our little Prince?! 🥰
Are we truly taking the time out to Breathe? Are we trying to create a Safe place for our hearts? Do we even know how our traumas from childhood affected us into our adulthood? Prayer, meditation, exercise, writing, reading… Do what it takes to bring some peace to your hearts and Souls. Then let the Growing Begin