No one likes to take responsibility for the bad outcomes or experiences we face daily, it’s easier to point the finger to someone else.
Let’s say a student has detention after school.
Parent: why are you serving detention?
Student: Ms. Day only singled me out and there were other kids doing the same thing. She doesn’t like me
Parent: ok other kids acted up, but what do YOU do?
Student: I was playing and talking while she was teaching. But the other kids dared me to do it.
How many times have we heard this dialogue? Even into adulthood. We will still make excuses or find a way for the lime light to not be on ourselves or we have to take someone down with us.
I hear quite often about people in relationships getting mistreated. As hurtful as it may be, we must think about our role in the events. Has this person showed you a pattern of the same behavior? Did you set the tone of what you wanted in the beginning? If you allowed someone to have a lot of benefits in the beginning of the relationship, there really isn’t much to look forward to. Your mate has to earn your love and respect.
If you are reprimanded on your job for lateness there is nothing to blame but yourself. Yes traffic can be horrible, kids can be sick, a flat tire could occur but what makes you think your employer cares? Take responsibility and wake up earlier so that you can make it to work before your schedule time.
So accountability friends. We have to do better and handle our responsibilities.
Nikki Rob., MA