Month: March 2014

What role are you Modeling?

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I remember in elementary school learning about Role models and leaders of our country. When I wrote about this topic, I’d always write about my parents and Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. I felt my parents were hard workers, made sure all of my needs were met and even supplied me with the “Wants” I desired. In my eyes they paved the way for my success and future.

Now, I do understand that no one is perfect or was raised in a “perfect” home setting but I do believe you either accept it or aim to do better. We all know the saying that the apple doesn’t fall too far from the tree, however every decision you make starts with a Choice.

Take the moment to ask yourself, do you like the role you are modeling? What do you believe your role is? And what is the ideal role you should model?
Please don’t lie to yourself and say that you “have no role or don’t need to be a role model”. Those are lies and negativity that you are projecting to the universe. You are Somebody and there is always someone watching.

Think about it friends. What are you projecting out? and how it could affect those watching you.

Nikki Rob., MA

New Season, New You

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So this time of the year a lot of people start their spring cleaning. Many clean their homes, get rid of the old and bring in the new. Many graduations take place, students are entering a new chapter of their lives. New cars are purchased and ahh the joy of the new car scent. Many weddings take place and the scenery of flowers blooming is epic in pictures. Different religions view spring as sacrifice and newness as well.

What about spring cleaning you?
Perhaps it could be a physical, mental or spiritual detox that is necessary? Maybe even a new LOOK? Whatever it is that you decide, let it be good for your own personal growth. Make more room in your mind for positivity. Only let positive like-minded individuals invade your space. Bring on the newness and let go of the baggage. You need better so go out and get it!

HAPPY SPRING

Nikki Rob.

Change of Scenery

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Hey guys!

I know I normally make post on Saturdays but I was away for the weekend and currently flying as I type.

Change can be good and so can a change of scenery. 

Now a change of scenery doesn’t have to mean you move physically but it can be your mindset, employment, everyday activities, etc. Whatever a change of scenery means to you can be very beneficially especially if you feel things are becoming routine and you lack interest in you’re usual day to day stuff. 

Go for it! Take a chance and do something you possibly never thought of doing. You never know it can be a great start to new beginnings.

Good luck!

Relationships and Situationships

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Relationships
Marriages, domestic partnerships, long term, engagements, long distance etc.. Are people who establish that they want to be together and should be on the same page to achieve a common goal. They have to communicate, give love and respect to their partner in order for the relationship to work. Pretty clear huh? What about situationships?

Situationships

I’m sure you have heard your friend tell you how they met this wonderful person and how they really like each other but then when you ask whats the hold up they reply: “they have a situation”. This situation usually means they are in an unhappy relationship.

Situationships can be with marriages, long term dating, domestic partners and of course long distance but what can you do about it? If someone is involved in a unhappy relationship and is hesitant to leave it may be because of the time invested, financial comfort, convenience of basic needs ( food, clothes, shelter), child(s) or not wanting to be alone. Unfortunately, not only is it not fair to the person you are with but it’s unhealthy too. Being filled with resentment, hurt and fear does nothing but add extra stress in your life and could lead to risky life choices (cheating, substance use, etc..) Seek ways to fix the issues rather it be counseling or calling it quits BEFORE involving a third person to your “love triangle”.

If you are the new love interest of this person who has a “situation”, demand more for yourself. You can’t give your all to someone when he/she is giving you only a fraction. Maybe next life time you two can be an item or even better, when they can prove that are not in that unhappy relationship, worked on themselves and moving in a positive direction then give it a try. They have to work on themselves and show growth because the last thing you need is recycled baggage and habits the he/she did in the last one.

Relationships and Situationships… Can you relate?

Later

Nikki Rob., MA

Rebooting

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Many of us are like the energizer bunny, we keep going and going…
Between family, career, friends we are constantly busy. The older you get more and more weekends seem to be filled with events that you must attend.

When do you take the time to slow down? When do you stop to have “me” time? It’s important to have personal time because it balances us. Suggestions could be:
Exercising, reading a book, going for a walk, meditation/prayer time etc…
Give yourself time to reboot for a peace of mind during your busy lifestyle.

Do you need some rebooting?