I’m 29 and will be 30 in July. From reading my blog you will know that I am happily married to my HS sweetheart and we have a beautiful son. Hubby and I have been together since 2000 and when we got married on 8/9/12 and it was the best day of my life. Many couples in my age range are either married or getting married and I’m very happy about that. I believe in marriage and if it were up to me, I would strongly urge couples to do so when they are ready.

Many couples have their own do’s and don’ts when it comes to what should or shouldn’t happen in their marriage. Therefore, what may work for one couple doesn’t necessarily mean it will work for another.
However, with that being said, all couples will agree that Respect in a marriage is needed.
When you are single (not married), you have freedoms and may feel that you don’t have to answer to your significant other, when you get married that changes. Your spouse becomes your equal and a reflection of you. No, I do not believe you should lose your identity just because you have tied the knot, but the happiness of your spouse should be a priority. The moment you place something or someone over your spouse, He or She will feel like they are on a back burner and in some cases possibly abandoned. Those actions will cause friction and resentment which could lead to the “D” word if you allow it to. It doesn’t matter how long you have been married rather it be 5 months or 25 years, when the respect is gone, so is the romance, partnership and last but not least the friendship.

For all newly engaged and married couples, I always give the one piece of advice “REMAIN BEST FRIENDS”. When you view your spouse as a best friend, you will do all you can to assure them that they are loved by you, you will aim to please them and their happiness ultimately makes YOU HAPPY. Respect, in order to get it, you have to give it. It’s a MUST in a MARRIAGE.

Nicole Cherise

If you are a couple that struggles with this, please feel free to email me :nicolecherise723@gmail.com

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