Spending time during the first year of marriage

Hi all!

I wanted to discuss the importance of spending time during  the first year of marriage. Any stage of marriage is very important but many say the hardest is the first year. I believe it’s because two souls are becoming one and learning to juggle the “newness” of marriage to your relationship. 

On 8/9, my husband and I will celebrate 3 years of marriage. We are high school sweethearts and we basically grew up together as a couple. I believe this has helped us during the first year. We are each other’s best friend and loved spending time together. Which brings me to say that for newlyweds: Please spend time with your spouse.

With having a busy schedule from work, we tend to see our co-workers more than our family aka your new husband/wife. So, if you don’t make time for your spouse, what are you truly doing with your time? You must find a balance. Even though you are married it doesn’t mean that you lose your identity or should distant yourself from friends but it would be good to always consider your spouse on some “down time”.  

What are your thoughts? Do you think spending time with your spouse weighs a lot during the first year? 

Thanks all!

Nicole Cherise

6 thoughts on “Spending time during the first year of marriage

  1. Unfortunately I’m not married yet lol. BUT I still want to chime in :). My friends have told me that the amount of time spent together doesn’t change, although how they spend their time together does. Has that been the case for you?

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    • Hey!! Thanks so much for your response! For us, it was easy because we have been together so long, so once we got married it was still natural like before. So watching our shows, talking, going to gym together, date nights, dancing in the city etc were still happening. I’ve known some couples who had a hard time with certain aspects of quality time because of still wanting to act like a “single” person with their single friends. So while you shouldn’t lose yourself in your relationship but respecting your loved one’s time should happen too, married or not. 🙂


  2. Great post TWIN! Great advice. You know my story… as I begin to mentally prepare for marriage (eventually) I am considering all of the positive changes that marriage can bring. I look forward to the “together-alone” time I will have with my husband after work and all my normal busyness. I recognize that we will each need true alone time but I look forward to the time we will spend together cultivating the relationship and growing deeper in love. I truly believe married life has 100x the potential to be better than the dating world. LOL. I expect we will pray together, exercise together, make meals/eat together, and hopefully do active dates on the weekend.

    My 10 cents. 😀 Great post!

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    • Thank you so much twin for reading! Yes dear it comes with learning each other and the “newness” . Baby steps and what works for you is for you. I just believe in the first year, spending time is a Necessity.


  3. Sadly alot of people get complacent when it comes to relationships and marriage oh I already have the person no need to put in extra work. There in lies the downfall or the end of something that had the potential to be great. Yes I agree people should spend quality time with their spouse to build a greater bond. Relationships and marriage should be considered a job, one has to put the effort in to make it work.

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