Month: July 2015

Feel good Friday’s 

  
Have you felt worry or confusion about your current circumstances?

I can say as someone who battles MS, I remind myself that things will getter better even when I feel that I’m not ok. We are warriors not victims and don’t let anyone tell you different. When I hear the word victim, I think of pitty and the attitude of “why me?”. Reality is that if something doesn’t happen to us, it’s a possibility that it could happen to a loved one. 

To feel good is to start from within. Try to have a positive attitude, do things that make you happy and surround yourself with others who make life more enjoyable. Do not claim defeat and do not give up on yourself. You are stronger than you think!

-Nicole Cherise 

Where is the love Wednesday: loyalty

How much does loyalty mean to you? Do you live by the loyalty code? Are you Loyal?

Time and time again, I hear people say “loyalty outweighs everything” or “blood makes you related but loyalty makes you family”. I have to say that my loyalty lies with my family and closest friends. I’m not a confrontational person, however, if you disrespect them then you just disrespected me. I have their back and they have mine so the loyalty is reciprocated. 

What about those who show loyalty but it’s not given back? We all have been there. That family member who always needs you but turns ship when you need them; that childhood friend who always disappears when dark times happen; the “love” of your life who claims they hold you down but is disrespectful on many levels; the employer who promised a promotion  but it never happened. It truly hurts and is frustrating.

Stay true to those who are true to you back. Like Drake says ” know yourself, know your worth”. How do you Know someone is loyal? They are loyal when you don’t have any doubts in your heart about him or her. 

-Nicole Cherise 

Motivational Monday’s : Dream on.. Different meanings

Good day all! 

We all have dreams and high hopes of something we want or need. We’ve all probably have said the phrase “Dream on” before but in what tone? Are you saying to yourself ” I need to have _____ so I will continue to dream about it or I need to have ____ but it won’t happen so dream on”? 

With hard work and dedication, it is possible to make your dreams a reality. At the same time, if you continue to have a negative outlook on your dreams, you are building a wall that blocks your success.

What could help? Speak with others who are like-minded or have achieved what your calling is. These people can give you insight to lead you in the right direction and a real successful person won’t act selfish in sharing the necessary steps. Things will grow, slowly but surely but it starts with you.

Good Luck!!!

Nicole Cherise

Feel good Friday’s : thoughts on my recent 30th birthday and thoughts of where we “should” be in life.

Hi all!!

So on yesterday, July 23rd, I turned 30 years old. In the past, the older I turned, I either was emotional because I felt I wasn’t where I was “suppose” to be or extremely excited. As I looked in the mirror yesterday I said to myself that I didn’t look a day over 25! Lol so my face was in constant bliss.  

 A few days before, a coworker said to me, “Nikki at 30, you have accomplished so much. You are married, have a son, job and your own place. Much better than it was for me when I turned 30. I just thought I’d be in a different place in life”. This “place” in life and where we are “supposed” to be is difficult and is not fair to ourselves.

I’ve done this  when I turned 25. I was sad because I felt that things weren’t mapped out like I wanted them to be and life was a tornado in my head. I wasn’t engaged yet ( Steve proposed that Christmas), still lived at home, not the career I wanted, and was recently diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis. However, as time went on I realized that everything happened for a reason. Things also fall into place when they are supposed to. People jump into marriages, live together, have children or constantly make compulsive decisions all because it’s what they believe they should do but not necessarily ready for. We get pressure from family, friends, society and ourselves when we should just relax and let things happen naturally. Now don’t get me wrong, do I believe it’s wrong to have plans and goals? No not at all, you should strive for greatness, but don’t beat yourself up about it. 

So I say this in close, things will happen at the right time. It may not be YOUR “perfect” time but it will come. In the mean time, love yourself and what you have now!

  
Nicole Cherise 

Where is the love Wednesdays : friends that are jealous

Hey guys! Sorry for the late post. Today has been pretty busy but I’m  here now!  Today’s topic is : friends that are jealous.

We all know that jealousy is an unfortunate trait that we all may have at some point in life, however, is it appropriate in friendships?

Jealousy- wanting what some one has. Many throw the phrases ” ohh I’m jealous” or “I’m jelly right now” in a joking manner and it could be in the best regards. However, On the other hand, there are people who are upset and really mad that they don’t or can’t have what you have. 

In my opinion, friends that are genuine would Not be seriously jealous of your progress or possessions. I’ve always had an attitude  that if one of my friends did well, we all did well. There is no need to be mad or down that certain things hasn’t happened for me because I believe what can happen for one, can happen for me as well. We all have choices and our outlook on ourselves are important. 

If you are a jealous friend, please stop. While you are busy being jealous, you are missing out on the blessings coming your way. So instead of being jealous, tell yourself ” when it’s my turn, I will be as happy as my friend is. I’m happy for him/her and I’m looking forward to us both winning”. Keep the good vibe rolling friends. 

Nicole Cherise 

Motivational Monday’s: Jessica Alba

    Look at this!!!
A few weeks ago I shared the story on Facebook about the success of Jessica’s Honest Company. I don’t know about you but that is very inspirational. She was very passionate about products for the body and home etc. Now she has a $200 million net worth and was on the cover of Forbes magazine. 

Friends this could be anyone. Use your gifts and passions to build your empire! 

Nicole Cherise

Where is the love Wednesday’s: friends with benefits 

Friends with benefits… Is this really possible?

Many people believe it’s possible to do this and if it’s works, good for you. In my opinion, I don’t believe these type of “arrangements” work. I believe that the following could happen: 

  1. The friendship will fizzle
  2. One person may develop stronger feelings
  3. Drama with other people your “friend” may be seeking.

However, on the flip side, many couples start off this way because of previous relationships. Both people know what they want but are taking their time before committing to titles and the boundaries of a relationship. 

If you are participating in a “friends with benefits” situation, make sure you are honest with yourself and each other. Life is short and you do not need to waste precious moments on things that are not meaningful.

What are your thoughts?

*sorry for the late post guys!*

Nicole Cherise 

Motivational Monday’s: 2 choices

If you are not happy about something in your life, you have 2 choices: Accept it or Change it.

It seems hard but it’s the truth and the reality.

I can admit that lately I’ve been going up and down with my weight and it’s made me feel down about myself. However, the reality is this: I have a choice to accept the way I look and feel sad or change it by doing what I need to do so that I can be happy. 

What goals are you trying to make but it just seems like it’s impossible? A career move, your dream home or fitness goal? Trust, if it was meant to be easy, it would be done by all. Making the choice to change also means that you need positive energy surrounding you. Do not be around Debbie downers or doubters. No worries you Can do this! I believe in you but you Need to believe in You. 

Let’s encourage each other daily, we will make the best choice.

Nicole Cherise