Month: October 2015

Feel good Friday’s: they should accept you for you.

  
When you accept and  love someone for who they are, and they know it, you will get the best of them. It’s hard to find people who can say they love us flaws and all and is willing to be our biggest supporters. This doesn’t mean that you are free to be a jerk and they have to put up with your shenanigans , however, it’s great to know you are surrounded by a genuine person(s). 

Nicole Cherise

Where is the love Wednesdays: associate with like-minded people

  

Hey all!

We are all different which means we love different as well. I saw this post on Pinterest and I feel it’s accurate. Too many times we often find ourselves getting upset because we love harder or go out of our way for others and don’t get the same in return. You can love people from a distance, but try to gravitate to those who are lovers like you. 

This doesn’t just mean romance, this refers to friendships as well. Surround yourself with like-minded individuals so that your positive energies can feed off one another. 

Have you ever felt that you would give and yet those around you only want to receive? When did you realize this and was it hard to let go? I’d like to hear from you!

Nicole Cherise 

Motivational Monday’s: positive thoughts

  
Many ask, “Nik with all that is going on in your life, how is it easy to put a smile on your face? Or for you to remain positive?” I want to say that I am no different from any of you. I have things that I struggle with that I leave to God in prayer, I get sad, mad and want to go off on people like anyone else lol. What I realized is during my studies of psychology, I always believed in CBT (cognitive behavior therapy). I believe that if we replaced our negative thoughts with positive ones, our behaviors could change for the better. Let’s face it, people gravitate to those like them or those that they want to learn from. No one truly wants to associate with people who are constantly performing or thinking negatively. I’m able to smile because I realize that crying over things I can’t change just makes my eyes red and puffy. I smile because regardless of the hardships of life, I do have support, I’m not alone. I truly believe if you start to give yourself daily aspirations, you will feel better from within. So, maybe a personal goal can be to replace your doubts with a positive fact about yourself. I hope this helps friends!

Nicole Cherise

Where is the love Wednesdays: downers

Hey all! Something that I’ve noticed, is a person telling others a new adventure they want to do and people automatically throw their negative experiences into the equation. Now, it’s one thing if a person asked for feedback or for other’s opinion, but if that’s not the case, why do people feel the need to do that?
If someone is excited about their dream that they are pursuing, I say encourage before criticize. Let your friend, family member or associate know that you happy for their choice for growth/exploring first. If and only if they ask for your feedback, it’s ok to do so. I don’t recommend lying, but be honest and assure them that you wish them well. No one wants a “downer” in their corner and you don’t want to be that person labeled as a “downer” either. 
Has anyone ever experienced this? If so, did you change your mind about your adventure? Or did you feel the person(s) was being a downer and/or jealous? Let’s hear it!
Nicole Cherise

Motivational Monday: My testimony

Hi all!
I hope everyone had an awesome weekend! I did as well, however this morning was another story. Last night I was experiencing nerve burning in my arms and legs. This happens here and there as one the many symptoms that I experience with MS. My neurologist prescribed gabapentin which helps arrange for patients with neurological pain. I felt better within the hour. However, this morning I woke up very drowsy and out of it! My arms and legs were weak and the inside feelings felt horrible. What made me even more upset was holding my 10 month old son, but being scared of dropping him due to the lack of strength I felt in my arms. 
I know there are many religions and many who are not religious, but I tell you, I am a believer in God and Jesus. After barely being able to change my son’s pamper, I cried out and prayed for strength. I always do, but today with my son watching me, I had to give my sadness and worries to Him so that I could make it to work and carry out the best of my day. I started to walk around and stretched and started to feel a little stronger. I’m still not 100%, however, I managed to “look” not how I feel. 
I share with you because I don’t want you feel defeated for long. Yes, things that we are going through can make us feel like we are in a whole, but remember you don’t have to stay there. Even if praying isn’t an option for you, meditating or self affirmations can help. If that doesn’t help, try not to be prideful, seek resources that can assist you with your issues. I’m here for you as well friends! Drop your email and we can chat. Have a good one! 
Nicole Cherise

Clashing dreams

Hey all!

So I was watching an episode of  vh1’s “blank ink crew” and discussed an engaged couple (ceaser and dutchess) who have different dreams. While listening to ceaser and dutchess’ dreams it made me think of how many couples I’m sure struggle with the issue of clashing dreams. 

What do you do? Can you compromise? I personally believe that a couple Can find common ground and achieve both their dreams. It will take a lot of time, patience, honesty and plan building for it to work. I also believe that it has to be done for the better of the couple and family. So if your significant other is wanting to make a major decision just make sure it’s not for selfish reasons and at the same time don’t place negativity to their dreams because of your own insecurities/selfishness either. 

What are your thoughts on this topic?

Nicole Cherise 

Where is the love Wednesdays: Marriage and the big day

Hello all!

This past weekend has been a great one! My DH and I witnessed two weddings of our friends. I always enjoyed attending weddings because I feel it’s sacred, it’s one of the times that you have the honor of seeing the love shared by the couple. It also brings brings great memories of my big day. I am a person who believes in love and I felt with it is “where is the love Wednesdays “, I could speak on marriage and the big day. 
The Big Day
I remember re-writing my wedding vows over so that I wouldn’t stumble over my words when I read them. As I was writing my hands were shaking and tears filled in my eyes. I couldn’t believe after a 20 months of being engaged, the day finally came. From the moment I meant my husband down the isle, it seemed like time stood still. As we exchanged our personal vows, it was so surreal. Once we were pronounced husband and wife, it seems like the day flew by! I tell all my friends who are engaged or newly weds that the day goes by so enjoy every moment. 
Life after your wedding
Marriage is beautiful. You and your spouse are now immediate family. In the event if anything ever happens to you, your spouse is the next of kin. Many may not understand how important that is but your spouse comes first and should. You have to remain best friends, honest, intimate, understanding, playful and last but not least, date forever. I recommend dating forever because as time goes on its very easy to fall into a “routine” and get stuck in a rut. Therefore, continue to have date night, spend quality time together and go on “new adventures” together.  
So to the new couples: many blessings to your marriage and enjoy each other! For the veteran couples: Keep it fun and never forget why you decided to make this big step in your lives. To the engaged and committed couples, love is the root for the union, start now to have those accomplished roots. Remember make Love not War. 
Nicole Cherise

Motivational Monday’s: don’t give up hope in happiness

  
Isn’t this the truth?!!! 

Hello everyone, I hope you had a wonderful weekend. I really think this quote is so appropriate for us all. We must realize that happiness doesn’t always mean perfection. First, no one is perfect so to think you are perfect or will find a “perfect” anything is already setting you up for disaster. Instead, focus on happiness and whatever or whoever that may be. 

Don’t lose hope in happiness. It’s there, we just have to be accepting to welcome it. 

Have a good day!

Nicole Cherise

Feel good Friday’s: leave your worries behind

Happy Friday all!

So today I’m getting my 5th Tysabri (MS med.) infusion and I’m listening to Heatwave’s “groove line” song. Not only does this song make me want to get up and dance but the lyrics, “leave your worries behind” sticks out to me. 

We all are going through so much and we worry and stress over many things. How many of us actually just throw our hands up and say “oh well” and put a smile on our face? In fact I remember as child being in dance school, the choreographers would tell us “no matter what happens, don’t stop, the show goes on”. I think we all need to practice this way of thinking. The reality is there are something things that are out of our control and we aren’t perfect. So we don’t always have to fix everything and then get bummed out because we didn’t succeed. 

Take the time to breathe and enjoy all the goodness that is around you. Concentrating on things you can’t change is draining. So try to find some joy and “leave your worries behind”.

 
Nicole Cherise  

Where is the love Wednesdays: no compliments for being an adult

Hey everyone!

Happy Wednesday! Today’s topic is “no compliments for being an adult”. 
It’s sad to me when I hear people brag about things that should be a given, such as having a job, a place to live, vehicles and a for having a positive attitude. What’s even more sad is when people talk about a prospect mate based on “being an adult” as if it’s a luxury. Is this truly what our society has come to? I remember a time where people would brag about their mate being doctors, lawyers and them driving a Mercedes Benz etc. Now the bragging is: “Nikki he has a job and drives a car”. I understand that we all have different lifestyles and situations, but after 30 years old that’s not a big deal. I am not trying to be a “Debbie downer” on anyone but I just wished it was more to talk about when others are finding a mate. 
What are your thoughts? Is this truly what it’s like in the dating scene now? Have you found yourself doing this as well? Speak on it. 
Nicole Cherise