Month: March 2016

Where is the Love Wednesdays: Family Matters

Hi friends. Happy hump day šŸ™‚

  
Today started extremely rough as I was not feeling well however, my mother stopped by and helped with my son. Hubby and I are very thankful for our family and it made me think of the importance of family. 

We all know the saying: “you can’t pick your family”. This is true and we can all admit that we have some family members that could irk our nerves from time to time or some members aren’t close with others. However, when it comes down to it, family can be all that you have. We don’t always have to get along 100% of the time but the love and blood is never broken. 
We all have different dynamics but do you feel family is important? Let me know your thoughts. 
Nicole Cherise 

Motivational mondays: daily affirmationsĀ 

Hi friends!

Today is a good day to be awesome! Why you ask? Because you made it to see another day. I try to tell myself this daily. I know it’s not easy because of the things we struggle with but if we tell ourselves these daily reminders it can help. 

  1. I’m not perfect and that’s fine.
  2. Even when it rains, I’ll bring my own sunshine.
  3. Today, I will love myself more than yesterday.
  4. I can be a better family member and friend.
  5. I will follow my dreams.

If you practice any faith, I also recommend praying or meditating as well. Hang in there friends, trust and believe you are not alone. Things will improve, slowly but surely. 

Nicole Cherise 

Feel good Friday: Our struggle is not in vainĀ 

  
Lately, this has been me. I’ve been feeling that the battle with MS is serving a purpose. It’s extremely difficult, especially when you don’t know what “normal” feels like anymore. I walk with my head held high, I smile even when I’m not happy, but it’s those moments that only my husband sees. He sees the tears, the pain, he carries me when I can’t walk. 

I share that not only because it’s MS Awareness month, but also because not all diseases are visible and I know in my heart this journey has been for a reason. I’m going to continue to fight, I can promise that. Friends, I know and understand that not all are vocal about their struggles or issues but you are not alone. Your strength that is gained from the struggle is a part of your story. Let’s stick together in this race, we call life. Don’t give up. 
Nicole Cherise

Where is the Love? : is it truth or jealousy?

Hi Friends! I’m sorry that I didn’t post yesterday. It was a busy day, but I’m here today with a topic.

In a previous post, I wrote about having cheerleaders in your circle and the benefits. I also wrote about the Debbie downers to look out for. With writing that, I want to make a point that when someone tells you something you may not want to hear, it’s not always jealousy or “hating”. Constructive criticism is a healthy way to receive information and it can be the truth.
We tend to see this when it comes to life choices. Rather, it’s career decisions, relationship situations, conflict amongst family and friends; sometimes when someone doesn’t agree with you it’s not always a negative. Everyone is not always out to get us, we create that in our thoughts as a defense mechanism instead of tackling the problem head on. 
We, as people, need to understand that we are in this journey called life together. A true colleague and loved one is going to tell you the truth. This is also how you weed out the “fake snakes” in your circle. I’d be scared if my loved ones agreed with everything I’ve said or thought ALL my ideas were destined to work! 
So you are in the search of love, but yet you are currently being mistreated. The older we get, people understand that relationships have bumpy roads and certain tests need to be presented. However, I always tell my friends be careful what you share when you are emotional because Family and Friends do not forgive like we would. Therefore, if those close to you see that you as an individual is being broken down and your significant other is bringing out the worst in you, they are Not hating. Sometimes it takes someone looking from the outside to tell you that. Real supporters of Us will tell us if we are wrong and will not always be the “hype” man. 
So where is the love? It starts from within, and it gets projected out to who are very close and dear to our hearts. I’m so thankful for my family and friends. They truly keep me on my toes, give me the truth and constructive criticism. 
Do you have that type of support? Are you always in a battle of trying to recognize if someone is telling you the Ugly truth or is Jealous? If so, or you know someone who has this issue, feel free to contact me ā˜ŗļø
Nicole Cherise 

Motivational Mondays: sometimes you Do need a circle of cheerleaders

Hi friends! I hope you all had a good weekend. 
Today’s post is about needing a circle of cheerleaders. No, I’m not referring to athletic cheerleaders, career ones. They can be family, friends, colleagues or strangers such as a life coach. A lot of times we become too comfortable in our current situations and aren’t using our full potential to be a success. 
I suggest having that person or circle and you all can encourage each other. However, be very careful in your selection of these people. Make sure they want to see success for all, not just themselves. Also, pay attention to how they view your plans/goals because if they are being “Debbie Downers” that can be very discouraging. 
Do this friends and get to work! Lol. Do you have a circle? Mentor? Or life coach that is helping you head in the right direction? If so, please express the benefits of having that support. 
Thanks for reading. Please feel free to share with others.
Nicole Cherise 

Feel Good Fridays: work on self instead of wishing for others production

 Hi all!

Happy Friday! I hope this week was a good one and I hope the weekend is an even better one. You all know that I love Pinterest and the quotes that other post. But this one stuck out. 
The sayings goes “people always believe the grass is always greener on the other side”. I believe the grass is greener where it gets proper nourishment. So when I saw this quote I was too excited because the writer truly nailed it! 
Why should you spend your days worrying about the next person or trying to keep up with the “Jones'”? Work on self and you will reap the benefits. I’m always watching these beautiful models with their awesome physique and then I get down and say I wish it were me. Some I can consider inspiration and I will follow what they are doing to maintain their “perfect” body and once again I’m comparing myself. After a while I have come to the conclusion that if I want to be in better shape, I need to start from within. Earlier this month, I had blood work done and my new doctor called me one night and gave me the run down of everything. I knew my glucose level was probably high, and I have a history of high cholesterol. Therefore, I was extremely nervous to hear my results. To my surprised, I was doing better than I thought! My cholesterol is now considered borderline high, which, when I was 22 it was extremely high and my old physician said I could have a heart attack by 25. My glucose levels are in between but I’m not diabetic, thank God! So, he has me on a 3 month plan to exercise more and choose better food options. I know for myself, I also need to concentrate or stress management. 
Instead of concentrating on other figures of others, I will focus on getting myself healthier. I believe when that happens, so will the physique I wish to have, will come too. Friends, I hope this can be applied to you and in your life. This can be about finances, career, lifestyles and relationships. If you nurture yours, you will see results. Hope this helps! Until next time!
Nicole Cherise 

Where is the love Wednesdays: never get too comfortableĀ 

Hi friends,

Today’s thoughts are getting too comfortable in your relationships.  Everyone loves to the “honeymoon phase”, where you enjoy listening to each other speak, physical touch, smiling/flirting with each other, etc… So then how does things change?

We get comfortable and slowly those things which brought you together can dwindle and if not careful enough you could drift apart. So what to do? Continue to date! You must do the things that got you this close to begin with. With social media and ther era of technology, these things are taken up valuable time and making a disconnection amongst people. Be romantic!!! If you did it in the beginning, don’t stop now. 

Yes, relationships go through it’s different seasons but the last thing you want is to feel arkward around each other because that leads to getting attention else where. Therefore, communicate to your significant other constantly, so you can remain on the same page. 

What are some tips that you suggest to spice things up? Or to bring that old thing back? 

Nicole Cherise

Motivational Monday’s: you can still come out on top!

Many times we feel like we are thrown against a wall like the lemons that life threw at us. Please hang in there. Get ready for your major comeback. Last night I had a tough time as I was thinking of all craziness going on in my life, however I know that my new season is Near. Your season is coming too, and you have to claim it. Regardless of what it is, relationships, career, legal issues or finances. Things will get better, but in the mean time, strut your stuff and act like the champion that you are. 

 

Feel Good Friday’s: you Are doing your best

  
Hi friends!

This is a reminder for us all. 

I will admit that I’m my toughest critic. Even when it comes to this blog, there are times when I think “ok not much responses equals I suck at this” lol. Even when it comes to family and friends, I’m always thinking what can I do to be a better wife, mother,  family member and friend or bring awareness to MS? The truth is…..

I AM DOING THR BEST THAT I CAN! 

Guess what?…. So are YOU!

It’s one day at a time and you are only one person. Things will get better. You will meet goals, gain those visions, get that relationship, things WILL be fine. So smile for now and know you are doing your best!

Nicole Cherise