Hi Friends! I’m sorry that I didn’t post yesterday. It was a busy day, but I’m here today with a topic.
In a previous post, I wrote about having cheerleaders in your circle and the benefits. I also wrote about the Debbie downers to look out for. With writing that, I want to make a point that when someone tells you something you may not want to hear, it’s not always jealousy or “hating”. Constructive criticism is a healthy way to receive information and it can be the truth.
We tend to see this when it comes to life choices. Rather, it’s career decisions, relationship situations, conflict amongst family and friends; sometimes when someone doesn’t agree with you it’s not always a negative. Everyone is not always out to get us, we create that in our thoughts as a defense mechanism instead of tackling the problem head on.
We, as people, need to understand that we are in this journey called life together. A true colleague and loved one is going to tell you the truth. This is also how you weed out the “fake snakes” in your circle. I’d be scared if my loved ones agreed with everything I’ve said or thought ALL my ideas were destined to work!
So you are in the search of love, but yet you are currently being mistreated. The older we get, people understand that relationships have bumpy roads and certain tests need to be presented. However, I always tell my friends be careful what you share when you are emotional because Family and Friends do not forgive like we would. Therefore, if those close to you see that you as an individual is being broken down and your significant other is bringing out the worst in you, they are Not hating. Sometimes it takes someone looking from the outside to tell you that. Real supporters of Us will tell us if we are wrong and will not always be the “hype” man.
So where is the love? It starts from within, and it gets projected out to who are very close and dear to our hearts. I’m so thankful for my family and friends. They truly keep me on my toes, give me the truth and constructive criticism.
Do you have that type of support? Are you always in a battle of trying to recognize if someone is telling you the Ugly truth or is Jealous? If so, or you know someone who has this issue, feel free to contact me ☺️