Why compete? When you can show love?

Hi all! Happy Wednesday to you.
I’m the type of person who gives love to others when great things are happening in their lives. In my opinion, I have no time to be jealous because I know my blessings and time will come. However, many of us have this need of competing with the next person or being a “one up”.

What is the “one up” person? It’s a person who no matter what’s going on in your life they always find a way to prove that they have accomplished the same plus more. For example, if someone purchased their first car and its Honda Civic; the “one up” could say, “I purchased my first car too and it’s a Mercedes Benz”. Yes, now that is good news, but it also comes off as competing. 
Why is it so hard to just be happy for others or for them to have their time to shine? The world is big enough that we can all be successful in some way or another. Has this happened to you? Can you admit that deep down you have been that “one up” person or jealous person? Hang in there and trust that your day will come. You get what you put out in the universe, so try to project love and wellness. 
Thanks for reading!
Nicole Cherise ❤️

Respect is needed

Happy Monday!

Something that weighs on my mind constantly is having respect. Many people have plenty of followers and fans, but how many can say that they are truly respected by all?
Respect is earned and it should be given back out, however, with so much negativity in the world, it seems as if that’s non existent. 
I challenge us all to believe differently. We are all human. Yes, we look different, worship and vote differently, but we are still loving creatures with feelings. We should respect each other like we expect to have it in return. If you want change, it has to start with ourselves first.
Thanks for reading!
Nicole Cherise❤️

Chapter 31

Today is my birthday. 

I’m thankful to be here.

Lord, you KNOW my heart. My strengths. My short-comings. Therefore, you know the hardships of Chapter 30. 

I don’t, but won’t ever take Life for granted. Many haven’t made it where I am today and for that, I’m grateful. 

Nicole Cherise ❤️

MTV’s “are you the one?” Show 

Hi all! Happy Wednesday ☺️.

Have you all ever seen or heard of this show? My family put me on to this show and now I’m intrigued. It’s 20 people (10 guys and ladies) who were matched by experts based on their personalities, families and ex partner’s input. At the end of each episode the couples get to pick a person in hopes that they could be a match. After doing so, the host will let them know if there are any matches there. If there are matches they don’t lose any money in their “bank”, if Not, then they begin to lose money. 
What I find interesting is that a lot of the couples were looking at their potential matches at the surface only. Usually, the experts believe a good match would be someone that brings balance to the other’s life and/or lifestyle. Despite this being a show for monetary gain, many are like the rest of the world, trying to find love. 
Have you ever met people who you were attracted to but once you two started to date, you had absolutely nothing in common? Or if you met someone, but they weren’t your “type” but had great qualities that you want in a mate? Isn’t this always the struggles when it comes to dating? When we are young, looks seems to be the biggest asset that we may want in a mate, however, as time goes on, we all need someone who is more than just a beautiful face to look at. 
What truly defines your perfect match? The appearance or the substance?
Thanks for reading! 
Nicole Cherise ❤️

Life is so delicate

Hi friends! I know I have been MIA for a week and I actually was in MIA over the weekend. During my break from blogging, a lot of things happened. As I am constantly thinking about life, no matter where I am, I continue to learn the delicacy of Life.
My husband gave me the wonderful gift of going to Miami beach (south beach) for my birthday. We traveled with 3 other couples and truly enjoyed ourselves. Even though I was having the time of my life, I was juggling my emotions because this Saturday will be the first birthday without my father. My mind also was on my best friend’s family who were in need of strength because another young soul was battling for her life (she now has passed). Lastly, of course, my husband and I thought about our son the entire time. 
With all the madness in the world, I was truly happy to have landed to and from our destinations safely. When you are young with no responsibilities, you don’t worry about much besides school, friends, sports, shopping, etc. As we get older and start to see the inevitable stage of life that we are all guaranteed to pass, you can’t help yourself to be humbled. Many didn’t make it to our age, many didn’t get to have children, many didn’t get to travel like we have, and many are just existing and not living. 
I’m doing my best to be strong. I’m trying to be strong for my family, my best friend and her family and for Me. For my own sanity. The only way I know how is by reflecting and giving thanks for getting this far in life. 

Thanks for Reading
Nicole Cherise

Men and women are visual but in different ways

Happy where is the love Wednesday folks! 

It amazes me all the time the differences between men and women. One thing we all have in common is wanting to be respected, feel loved and be IN love as well. However, besides those feelings of butterflies, we also visualize things differently.
After conversations with my DH, reading online post, I’ve learned that men are logical thinkers and big on visuals especially when it comes to their mate. I’ve noticed that one of their biggest fears is their significant other “letting themselves go”. Some men do hold their significant other as a “trophy”, so appearance in that sense is very important. 
Now women, in my opinion, we are visual in regards to our mate’s actions. For example, if in the early stages of the relationship, you took us out on dates, gave flowers, cards and confessed how much we mean to you, intellectual conversations etc. and then it just slowly but surely Stops…. Yeah, that’s a problem. Actions speak louder than words, so it’s a turn off when this stops for us women. 
I guess in both men and women, we fear the “comfortable or laziness” that our mate can enable over time. I think the best way to stay on track is to be HONEST. Communicate with each other and be able to accept what is said. If your mate truly loves you and wants you to work out more, spend more quality time, look presentable or show that you still have butterflies, then try to do that. 
Thoughts? Thanks for reading!
** these are one aspect of a relationship not all***
Nicole Cherise ❤️