When there is no peace in a relationship, it’s run its course.

Hi friends,
As we grow closer to the new year, many have resolutions and begin to get rid of toxic things and people. Some of the things include relationships. 
Through observation, I’ve noticed many engagements, but I’ve also noticed break ups. It’s truly an emotional season, but if it needs to happen for your sanity then so be it. Life is truly challenging most of the time, therefore, we don’t have time for nonsense. 
How do you come up with the conclusion that it’s time to move on? 
The spark isn’t there. What drew you to each other seems far and distant. You are therefore no longer happy or become bored. 
Constant fighting=equals no peace. We deal with turmoil from enemies, strangers, our jobs, etc. the last thing you need is to constantly go to war with your significant other.

Love and respect have dwindled. Despite any issues a couple can go through, when you feel it’s worth saving, you will fight for it. However, when love and respect is no longer given, that adds fuel to the fire.

Those are just some reasons why it could be time to re-evaluate your relationship. It’s important to remember that EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION is Key. It’s not fair to dump someone without giving them a chance to correct themselves to salvage the relationship. Unfortunately, if you have and it’s becoming more draining than uplifting, it’s time to give the deuces ✌🏾. 

Nicole Cherise ❤

It’s a gift…

Hi friends, 

I hope all are enjoying the holiday festivities. I was catching up on some episodes of “this is us” and one scene inspired this post. 
It was the scene of Randall of a boy and purposely not getting straight A’s in Math because he didn’t want to be smart compared to his friends. He felt bad getting high grades when his friends didn’t. It made me think back to high school. 
I knew girls and guys who were bright their entire lives, but felt it wasn’t cool to be smart anymore. All schools have cliques and sometimes good grades didn’t always align well with the “cool kids”. That doesn’t mean that “cool kids” are intelligent, but for some “passing” was good enough. 
I saw this happen as a child and I see it even more as an adult. People love to fit into these society groups, instead of being themselves. If you are a straight A student then be just that. If you are gifted with athletic abilities that’s fine, do not perform less because your friends weren’t picked for the team. 
We are all gifted and shouldn’t be ashamed of it. You continue to be you. If your friends or family can’t understand that then that is their problem, not yours. Let your light shine through friends. 

Nicole Cherise ❤

No Expectations

In life we can find ourselves having expectations from people, jobs, and even ourselves. Sometimes, these expectations are Not met and we can become depressed about them. 

For some, they seek spiritual guidance and are able to believe that good will happen or will eventually come. While I know others, this is not an easy task to do. 

For myself, with certain issues in life, I would get sad and angry and felt that life was a disaster. Stressed about finances, school, work, friendships but I’m now at the point where I feel enough is enough. We can’t cry over spilled milk. If I know in my heart that I’ve tried my best and things still didn’t work out, then it just wasn’t meant to happen. It doesn’t mean that it won’t ever happen but just not in the timing that I want. 

Not having expectations does NOT mean you are a pessimist but it can protect your heart from disappointment. Things will work out, more than likely right on time. 

Thank you for reading!

Nicole Cherise ❤

They should encourage a better you

So, you are in a relationship and everything was going great until they try to Change you. In relationships we can get “comfortable” in our appearance or fall short of doing the things we did to win our mate. 

Our significant other may encourage us to do better and be better, but if he or she is saying that You aren’t good enough, that’s a harsh reality. When someone we love and care about tell us that we need to redo things and change up our style, it’s ultimately telling us that we need to change who we are to become their “ideal” or “perfect mate”. 
So what do you do in that situation?

You can express your feelings in hopes that your SO will calm down with the put downs or you may have to accept that it’s not a good fit. Either way, staying true to self is key. 
You have to love yourself as yourself because becoming someone else could bring you to a dark and depressive state. Remember, there is someone out there who will love and accept you as you are.
Thanks for reading,
Nicole Cherise ❤