I hear men say “we can split things and work together” yet, expect their mate to cook, clean, etc..
I hear women say “I’m independent, I don’t need anyone to pay my bills” yet they won’t even look at a mate who makes less.
What is your preference? We are grown, State your views!
Thanks for reading!
As long as I don’t feel I’m paying for everything I am content. Even though we split bills or whatever, each individual has personal bills they have to take care of too. Honestly, one individual will always contribute more. A female can be independent in more ways than one, yet still have a man build with her financially. There is nothing wrong with that.
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Yes yes! Thanks for your comment. I feel that those financial decisions are to be made by the couples. Technically if it works for them, there is no right or wrong. But I don’t like when people contradict themselves.
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Complex question that depends on the situation (dating, living together or married). If a partner spends frivolously while the other saves frugally…hmmmm.
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Ohhhhh yes that can be messy! I agree. Thanks for commenting dear!
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I, too, hate contradictions and double standards.
I’ve only lived with one partner part-time for a few weeks, but I agree that you have to do what works for you. In that short time, I made sure to buy groceries-including his favorite beer- and help keep the space clean.
Standards need to be clear and honest when you get together or move in together, not expected because he’s a man and I’m a woman. No fantasies of his mama or his ex reincarnated to wait on him hand and foot. I personally cannot stand a lazy man, so, for instance, if I was a stay at home mom, I’d still prefer and appreciate him pitching in physically, not just with bills or household expenses.
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Great response! I think that’s the MAIN issue double standards on both ends! Thanks so much for your comment love!
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