It’s been a while and I thought it would be great to come back on a day that’s so important to me. One this day 10 years ago I was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis (MS). It was a day that brought so many emotions but mostly ANSWERS AND CLARITY.
Through this battle, I’ve grown tougher skin, resilience, and a strength that was unknown to me. Wobbly legs, Numbness all over my body, nerve pain, headaches, confusion, memory issues, trigeminal neuralgia, uncontrolled shakes and falling because my legs give out on me; are most of the symptoms that my battle consist of. With this battle, I don’t fight it alone.
My family, friends, church family, and work family and MS Warrior family, have been extremely supportive throughout the journey. Because of them, I’m inspired to have purpose and to NEVER give up. Therefore, I’m so blessed to have a great support system.
Here I am today, ready to give birth at any moment and reflecting on a monumental day in my life. Thank you all for your support, donations to our “Nicole Cherise” team and most importantly prayers. I love you all, thanks for reading!
Of course, there is another aspect of what’s posted on this picture. Many people have enjoyed the family time by being entertained with Tic-Tok, games, binge watching movies or shows etc… However, only a few truly have that sense of Calmness.
These people accept what’s happening, take precautions, but refuse to let the Pandemic get the best of their lives. I feel this way about what one of my best friends. Anytime we chat she has this calmness to her. Now, that doesn’t mean that the pandemic hasn’t caused plans to change or be postponed due to the current bans but she’s doing an amazing job by continuing ON.
Unfortunately, I too, struggle with the events that are taking place. I’m almost 9 months pregnant and anxious for the next few weeks. I’m mainly home, so I’m developing cabin fever and it truly has had an effect on my emotions, but Safety for me and the little guy has to come first.
What are the things you’ve noticed about people during this Pandemic? What have you noticed about yourself?
I struggle with this a lot because I’m still at a place in life where other’s thoughts and words matter and can affect my day. It truly shouldn’t and I’m aware of that and I wear my heart on my sleeve so it doesn’t help.
One thing that my therapist and many others say is that you can’t let others have control over your emotions. No one, should be able to control my feelings, how I think, or why I make the decisions that I do. So, with that being said, I share with you ways that may help if you struggle with this issue like I do.
Don’t take EVERYTHING personal.
Most talk a big game, but can’t follow their own advice.
They are HUMAN not a higher power.
I’m sure there additional ways that can help but those are my top reminders for now. What about you?
Do you have techniques on ways to protect your peace?
This happens quite often. We like to be in control and have control, but we really Don’t. We tend to believe we have all the answers, but what happens when you hit that brick wall and begin to break down?
The anxiety and panic kicks in and we can feel lost. I say to you friends, it’s ok to NOT have all the answers. You CAN be wrong. You’re human and will make mistakes. Humble yourself, chill out with the arrogance now before you don’t have any other options but to.
While being in the third trimester of pregnancy, I’m exhausted, my body changes are starting to catch up and I’m almost at the point of being “done”. My fellow preggies Know what “Done” mean during that final stretch of pregnancy LOL.
During moments alone, I reflect on my reasons for continuing to strive for excellence. No matter what, I always divert back to my “why?” which is my Family. With the addition of another little person on the way, I don’t have room to give up or to lose.
What about you? When you start to have doubts, what is your “why?” that puts things back into perspective? Whatever it may be, never lose it. Keep it close to your heart so that on days when you feel like giving up or having doubts, it can pull you out of the hole.
Do whatever it takes. There are many ways to keep focus on what means the world to you. You can write it down in a journal, record a personal voice memo, create a vision board, the options are endless friends. You got this!
When the wounds are fresh, it hurts like hell. The Pain runs deep. At some point we have to decide if we want to heal ourselves or let the wound get infected, which could lead to serious consequences.
When we choose to heal, we apply medication to clean and protect the wound from infection and oh man it stings! Then we wrap it with bandages, sometimes the assistance of stitches may be needed, but we patiently wait for a scar to form.
How does this apply to the emotional wounds in our lives? The Pain is real and does feel physical for some cases. However, at some point we have to choose healing because the toxicity of the hurt we endured can ruin any chance of happiness or peace that we desire.
Sometimes we need assistance from a counselor/therapist to help with the deeper wounds that can’t just be wrapped up at the surface. It requires more work, resources and tools to find peace, but it IS obtainable.
The scar appears. The hurt isn’t fresh anymore, but the scar will always be a reminder of where we were and where we came from. We, Are Healed…..
I was reading a devotion today and it spoke about how parents should make everything for their child a learning experience. As we know children asks a Ton of Questions or they try their best to figure out physical obstacles and usually need assistance.
I take pride in considering myself a learning mom. SVJ, has taught me a lot about parenting, patience and humility. I will be first to say “I don’t have it” and I’m not referring to monetary exchanges (low key sometimes lol) but more so in reference to “The Answers“.
I believe there is nothing wrong with telling your child or any child, that You don’t know the answer. I’d suggest even saying “let’s research together to see what we come up with”. I also believe that we can question the “norm”. It’s quite interesting to think out of the box.
I’m sure there are plenty of parents with this philosophy while I’m sure others feel the need to give an answer just to quiet their kids or their response is the status quo. Trust me parents, I’m not judging you at all. I’m just suggesting more ways to help our kids explore by us being Realistic.
What’s your thoughts parents? Are you honest with your kids and tell them that you don’t know? Do you allow your kids to question the norm? Let me know below! Thanks for Reading!