Category: Career

Where is the Love? : is it truth or jealousy?

Hi Friends! I’m sorry that I didn’t post yesterday. It was a busy day, but I’m here today with a topic.

In a previous post, I wrote about having cheerleaders in your circle and the benefits. I also wrote about the Debbie downers to look out for. With writing that, I want to make a point that when someone tells you something you may not want to hear, it’s not always jealousy or “hating”. Constructive criticism is a healthy way to receive information and it can be the truth.
We tend to see this when it comes to life choices. Rather, it’s career decisions, relationship situations, conflict amongst family and friends; sometimes when someone doesn’t agree with you it’s not always a negative. Everyone is not always out to get us, we create that in our thoughts as a defense mechanism instead of tackling the problem head on. 
We, as people, need to understand that we are in this journey called life together. A true colleague and loved one is going to tell you the truth. This is also how you weed out the “fake snakes” in your circle. I’d be scared if my loved ones agreed with everything I’ve said or thought ALL my ideas were destined to work! 
So you are in the search of love, but yet you are currently being mistreated. The older we get, people understand that relationships have bumpy roads and certain tests need to be presented. However, I always tell my friends be careful what you share when you are emotional because Family and Friends do not forgive like we would. Therefore, if those close to you see that you as an individual is being broken down and your significant other is bringing out the worst in you, they are Not hating. Sometimes it takes someone looking from the outside to tell you that. Real supporters of Us will tell us if we are wrong and will not always be the “hype” man. 
So where is the love? It starts from within, and it gets projected out to who are very close and dear to our hearts. I’m so thankful for my family and friends. They truly keep me on my toes, give me the truth and constructive criticism. 
Do you have that type of support? Are you always in a battle of trying to recognize if someone is telling you the Ugly truth or is Jealous? If so, or you know someone who has this issue, feel free to contact me ☺️
Nicole Cherise 

Motivational Mondays: sometimes you Do need a circle of cheerleaders

Hi friends! I hope you all had a good weekend. 
Today’s post is about needing a circle of cheerleaders. No, I’m not referring to athletic cheerleaders, career ones. They can be family, friends, colleagues or strangers such as a life coach. A lot of times we become too comfortable in our current situations and aren’t using our full potential to be a success. 
I suggest having that person or circle and you all can encourage each other. However, be very careful in your selection of these people. Make sure they want to see success for all, not just themselves. Also, pay attention to how they view your plans/goals because if they are being “Debbie Downers” that can be very discouraging. 
Do this friends and get to work! Lol. Do you have a circle? Mentor? Or life coach that is helping you head in the right direction? If so, please express the benefits of having that support. 
Thanks for reading. Please feel free to share with others.
Nicole Cherise 

Feel Good Friday’s: you Are doing your best

  
Hi friends!

This is a reminder for us all. 

I will admit that I’m my toughest critic. Even when it comes to this blog, there are times when I think “ok not much responses equals I suck at this” lol. Even when it comes to family and friends, I’m always thinking what can I do to be a better wife, mother,  family member and friend or bring awareness to MS? The truth is…..

I AM DOING THR BEST THAT I CAN! 

Guess what?…. So are YOU!

It’s one day at a time and you are only one person. Things will get better. You will meet goals, gain those visions, get that relationship, things WILL be fine. So smile for now and know you are doing your best!

Nicole Cherise 

Motivational Monday’s : goal getter 

Hey beautiful people! I hope you had a wonderful weekend. So everyone has heard the phrase “go getter” but what about a “goal getter”? Something that we all need to do is set goals and do our best to meet them. I also know that when it comes to goals, we often think, short term and long term goals. I think daily and weekly goals can work too. Let’s say you have a fitness goal of losing 10 lbs, a weekly goal could be to drink more water and less soda. 
To be a Goal Getter:

  1. See your vision
  2. Put it down on paper or on a board
  3. Try every day to get closer to your goal

I truly believe that by doing those little things can help you achieve weekly goals. 

Nicole Cherise 

Motavional mondays: making “to do” lists

Hey People!
I hope you all had a wonderful weekend and you are enjoying your Monday so far. I’m curious to know, how many of you do a “to do” list?

I’ve read multiple articles, blogs, and tips from successful people and they all create a “to do” list at night for the next day. 

By creating a list, it helps you become more organized, and you’re able to set your pace for the day. I plan to incorporate this into my life, especially during the work week. I feel that with the busyness of life, we actually forget to complete certain tasks and it may feel as if we have gone through a whirlpool during the day. If we can create a list for the grocery store because we want to stay focused with our spending, then we could all benefit from having a daily “to do” list.

Would you all like to try it?

Has anyone ever done this? Or is anyone currently practicing this skill? Let me know!

Nicole Cherise 

Motivational Monday’s: keep working towards your dream

  
I know and understand that there are some who have to work harder than others to accomplish their dreams. I too, get frustrated when I think about my student loan debt, and the need for more financial resources, however it’s important to not quit. 

We will be told no, actually quite a few times and I truly believe after the “no’s” a yes WILL come. It’s doing the actual foot work that makes the difference. Even if it means taking baby steps, make it your business to set short term and long term goals. 

Keep working friends, don’t give up on your dreams. I believe in you.

Nicole Cherise

Motivational Monday’s: Your Passion

Passion… We all have it but are we Pursuing it? Most of the time we are not following our passion or living out our dream and it’s because we are scared. We are scared of failure and scared of success. 

What I suggest is to do your pros and cons list. Pros of what would and could be great if you followed your dream; and cons of what won’t work. That way it’s in your face and you can make a clearer decision. 

Regardless of what the passion is, a hobby, second form of income or new career, don’t settle yourself short. You can do it and you will, just make that decision to leap. Hope that helps!

Nicole Cherise 

Motivational Monday’s: stay humble

  
Hello all! 

One thing we must always remember is to stay humble and don’t let our arrogance get the best of us. 

There is nothing wrong with being confident and having pride in your skills however, keep in mind that things can change up quickly. That company that you work for doesn’t have to take your ideas or your proposals. The woman or man that you have doesn’t have to believe thats you are the next best thing since sliced bread. 

People tend to think that people can be their downfall due to jealousy and the “snakes in the grass” theory, however, you are your own downfall to either your lack of confidence or arrogance. 

When you remain humble, your good deeds are recognized. Working hard to better your relationships, work place and community is the most rewarding thing we can do and blessings do come back.!

So enjoy your Labor Day and give this post some thought. Being humble can take you places and being arrogant can as well but not necessarily the direction you were aiming to. 

Nicole Cherise 

Motivational Monday’s : Dream on.. Different meanings

Good day all! 

We all have dreams and high hopes of something we want or need. We’ve all probably have said the phrase “Dream on” before but in what tone? Are you saying to yourself ” I need to have _____ so I will continue to dream about it or I need to have ____ but it won’t happen so dream on”? 

With hard work and dedication, it is possible to make your dreams a reality. At the same time, if you continue to have a negative outlook on your dreams, you are building a wall that blocks your success.

What could help? Speak with others who are like-minded or have achieved what your calling is. These people can give you insight to lead you in the right direction and a real successful person won’t act selfish in sharing the necessary steps. Things will grow, slowly but surely but it starts with you.

Good Luck!!!

Nicole Cherise

Motivational Mondays: Stop hating what you aren’t 

  Hey all!

I hope everyone had a good weekend. Mine was pleasant. 

Now we are off to a new week and as you know today is Motivational Monday’s here on my blog.

I saw this quote on Pinterest and I had to share it! This is so true, we are constantly  beating ourselves up because we aren’t who or where we will believe we should be in life. However, do we ever take the moment to say: I’m thankful for what I do have and where I have the potential to go. I do believe that we should not settle or become stagnant in our lives, we should always show growth and work towards improvements. 

Always strive for more, push yourself to take risks. You really don’t know how successful you can become without trying. I’m here for you and if you want to reach out feel free to email me at: nicolecherise723@gmail.com

Thanks for reading!

Nicole Cherise