Category: challenges

Your word is your Bond

If it’s one thing that irks me, it’s someone that doesn’t live up to their word. People say things in the heat of the moment, make promises that they know they will not keep, and just talk to talk. So, how do we handle this?

First off, we have to lead by example. You can’t complain about others if you don’t apply the same principles. Many people want so much but don’t put in half of the work. If you know you can’t do something, do not commit to it. Be honest within yourself and to others.

Second, try not to have high expectations, but remain hopeful. I realized that the more expectations that I have with someone, sometimes, I was highly disappointed. I believed every word and promise. I guess it was naive of me to do that because I know that no one is perfect. I always kept that sense of hope that if I did my best to uphold my word that others would do the same for me. Selected individuals DID indeed live up to their word which in return forced me to do better also.

Friends, do you experience this also? Have expectations of others and get let down? Or have you made broken promises? If so, what did you do to handle it better? Let me know below!

Thanks for reading!

Nicole Cherise ❤️

The past

The Past,

A point in time that we can’t change or erase. Some past experiences can be a lesson to us or a burden. How we move on, is our choice. I urge for us all to learn the lesson, execute in our current lives and continue to LIVE. We are the driver to our destiny friends, no one else. 

Nicole Cherise ❤️

Ain’t I enough?

I’m a proud black woman. I respect my roots. I appreciate the hard work of my ancestors and all who died in sacrifice so that I can have a chance.

When I decided to “find” myself, it was college. To this day, I’m still growing and creating myself. Everyday I look in the mirror, I see cocoa skin, a broad nose, full lips, dark eyes, kinky hair, curves and scars from the birth of my son. Some days I feel high in my element, but other days not so much. 

The battle of acceptance battles with American beauty and Black beauty. I need to conform. I need wear straight hair via relaxer or weave. My kinky roots are considered nappy by blacks and not “professional” by others but how? This is the strands as they grow from my head just like any other woman that has natural straight or wavy hair. So, I only look my BEST when it’s pressed or long down my back?
Now, I can care less about what techniques other black women do to maintenance their hair. I encourage healthy routes regardless of the choice. Even women, play on each other when it comes to beauty. Team this, team that, but getting played by the same system and men. 
What you Don’t see when you look at me: A woman of Faith, a Wife, a Mother, a sister, a friend, a Scholar, a woman who battles Multiple Sclerosis and works hard everyday. I also respect and encourage others to do better and find better in themselves. 
So I ask you, Ain’t I enough? 

They don’t stop the grind


You will notice that you have doubters or lack of support from many that you care about. You also will notice that you get more love and support from strangers. Can this hurt your feelings? Of course it can but you MUST keep going. 

As the saying goes “the dream is free, the hustle costs”. Don’t let lack of support, stop you from meeting your goals. Is it a hurdle? Yes, but if you worry about self, you will achieve it. Good luck to you, keep grinding. 
Nicole Cherise ❤️

Real friends?

It’s truly sad when friendships end over petty drama and a big ego. 

We are human, therefore, we are going to disagree. Yes, some can go below the belt but never should it get to a point that communication stops. It makes me wonder, was the friendship genuine? Was it one-sided? Or just convient for one? 

I’ve been there before. It does hurt but you will be ok. Time waits for no one and life goes on. Keep your head up and keep it moving. Surround yourself with genuine people who love you. 

Thanks for reading 

Nicole Cherise❤️

MM: Stand tall when the odds are against you

Hi friends! Happy Monday

My DH sent me a text that included a gif of John Snow from Games of Thrones. *spoiler alert* in the gif he’s alone but standing tall with his sword as hundreds of men are coming full force to attack. 


Isn’t that life? So many times we are up against a wall or sent out in front of our enemies in a position of defeat. I say, life is hard and it isn’t fair but we have to continue. You fall? Ok get yourself up. You lost the fight? Ok the battle continues until your last breath. 

Believe in yourself friends and don’t give up no matter what.

Much love friends

Nicole Cherise ❤️

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Some setbacks can be apart of the major comeback

Motivate your Monday!
We all at some point have hit a brick wall or at least it feels like we have. A point of confusion or feeling lost. In all areas of life: relationships, personal growth, career, etc. where things take a fall. However, when we fall, we have to get back up. 
When we get up, we should try to have a forward stride in our walk. Rather, it’s our walk of faith, the walk of success or walk of reconciliation. One foot at a time and we Will make it. I, too, have to sharpen my walk. I had a minor setback, but with my faith in God, I know the major comeback is coming and I can’t wait!
Hang in there friends, we will be alright!
Thanks for reading 😊
Nicole Cherise 

Motivational Mondays: can we ever get out of dreadful Monday’s syndrome?

Hi friends! Happy Mother’s Day to all the mommies and we will remember those who are no longer living.

After a wonderful weekend, people always have the feeling of “urg it’s Monday tomorrow”. However, I do know some who are eager to see Monday and they treat it as if it were Friday.  Is the anxiety of Mondays due to unhappiness at work? For many, this is probably the answer. How do we change that?

For some the answer can be as simple as quit your job. Even though the uneployment rate is steadily decreasing, it’s still extremely hard to find work and make the money that’s deserved. So many have anxiety to Mondays because of the frustrations that comes with going into the office. Some are not happy with the facility or colleagues therefore the mood is in all time low or they are on edge.

Another option is to change our congnitions and speak positive affirmations into the new work week. We can affirm:

  1. This will be a better work week.
  2. I’m thankful to have a source of income.
  3. Even if this is not where I plan to retire, I will use this as a stepping stool.

When we place those affirmations into existence, we begin to believe it and we will achieve it. 

I hope and pray that we all do get better with the “dreadful Mondays syndrome”. Rather it’s getting a new career, becoming an entrepreneur, or a change of attitude, let’s get it done. We have to bring our own sunshine wherever we go, we hold the key to our success!

Thanks for reading friends 😊

Nicole Cherise 

Motivational Mondays: we should stop putting age limits on our Goals

Hi friends! Happy Monday and new week to you!

https://www.facebook.com/idriselba/videos/10153812692958692/

The link above is video shared my Idris Elba. He asks people the question, “what do you want to be when you grow up?” of course, many laughed and states that they were grown up, however when do you stop growing? 🤔
We all have had dreams or goals we want to do, but we reach a point where we just put that dream on the back burner. Is it because it didn’t happen by the age we wanted it to? Did “life” happen? I’ll be first to admit that when I was younger, I wanted to become a wife, mother and Psychologist. Professionally, I want to obtain my doctorate degree and I wanted to open a family center to help all people. I feel like once I was diagnosed with MS that was a curve ball that wasn’t expected. I began to concentrate on other things that were more important, family. Steve and I got married and we eventually became parents. So, I’ve achieved two things, but I still haven’t accomplished the final piece. Once I stopped putting age limits on stuff my mind changed. Once I said I don’t know if it will happen, now it’s I WILL get my cherry on top, God willing. 
We also have this attitude that if we don’t do certain things by certain ages, we either failed or will never accomplish them. I feel a lot of television and fairy tales are the cause for this. We have this thought that by this age, I should finish school, I should be in my dream career by that time, this age, I should get married or at least fall in love, I should have kids by this time in life, I should own a home/condo at this point. We place pressure on ourselves and it hurts when these things aren’t fulfilled. 

Imagine if we as a people could just live. Imagine as we are growing and evolving, we can say I’m ready to take the leap. Instead of family and society filling our heads with time limits, we take our time and just worry about ourselves and our creations. This can be us friends, we need to make that choice. 

What are your thoughts? Thanks so much for reading!
Nicole Cherise

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Motivational Mondays: life’s truths

  
Hi friends! Hope you had a good weekend!

You see this quote above? It’s the truth and a fact of life. For some of us, things that we want can come easy and to others it seems like the struggle is unbearable. I say to you that anything worth having is worth the struggle, the blood, sweat and tears. Hang in there!! Keep going!!

Thanks for reading 😁

Nicole Cherise 

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