Category: Friends

Real recognize real 

When you start to create a plan for a business or new adventure, we often share this with our friends. Now, some people won’t always support you until you are “on” or are already have a buzz going and sometimes you shouldn’t always get upset about that. The truth is, they are human and feel that they will believe it when they see it. However, to try to believe in you being successful or giving motivation is one way to know your friend is really your friend. 

I often to say: “when one friend win, we all win”. Seeing a best friend accomplish a goal, motivates me to aim high as well. There is no room for jealousy or envy. They worked hard and it paid off! Real friends sometimes can see your talents before you and that’s something that you can’t take for granted. 

To my friends that support me and are waiting for me to take that leap of faith, I thank you and appreciate your love and support!

Surprise Surprise

This weekend, I was suppose to be in Philly visiting friends but ended up at JFK airport on a flight to Tampa. 

My support system had been keeping a big secret from me for months until now. A great man named Donovan Smith plays for our favorite football team the Tampa Bay Buccaneers. I’m friends with his sister and he’s knows about my battle with MS and is a follower of my blog. He felt that I was an inspiration, so much that he flew my husband and myself to Tampa, handled all hotel accomadations, sent welcome videos from some of the players, gave us a tour of the Bucs training facility and field passes for today’s game!

I’m beyond honored and humbled. It’s good to know that I do inspire people. I don’t take this blessing for granted and I will continue to live with the purpose that God has instilled in me. Thanks for reading!

Nicole Cherise ❤️

Real friends?

It’s truly sad when friendships end over petty drama and a big ego. 

We are human, therefore, we are going to disagree. Yes, some can go below the belt but never should it get to a point that communication stops. It makes me wonder, was the friendship genuine? Was it one-sided? Or just convient for one? 

I’ve been there before. It does hurt but you will be ok. Time waits for no one and life goes on. Keep your head up and keep it moving. Surround yourself with genuine people who love you. 

Thanks for reading 

Nicole Cherise❤️

Motivational Mondays: we should stop putting age limits on our Goals

Hi friends! Happy Monday and new week to you!

https://www.facebook.com/idriselba/videos/10153812692958692/

The link above is video shared my Idris Elba. He asks people the question, “what do you want to be when you grow up?” of course, many laughed and states that they were grown up, however when do you stop growing? 🤔
We all have had dreams or goals we want to do, but we reach a point where we just put that dream on the back burner. Is it because it didn’t happen by the age we wanted it to? Did “life” happen? I’ll be first to admit that when I was younger, I wanted to become a wife, mother and Psychologist. Professionally, I want to obtain my doctorate degree and I wanted to open a family center to help all people. I feel like once I was diagnosed with MS that was a curve ball that wasn’t expected. I began to concentrate on other things that were more important, family. Steve and I got married and we eventually became parents. So, I’ve achieved two things, but I still haven’t accomplished the final piece. Once I stopped putting age limits on stuff my mind changed. Once I said I don’t know if it will happen, now it’s I WILL get my cherry on top, God willing. 
We also have this attitude that if we don’t do certain things by certain ages, we either failed or will never accomplish them. I feel a lot of television and fairy tales are the cause for this. We have this thought that by this age, I should finish school, I should be in my dream career by that time, this age, I should get married or at least fall in love, I should have kids by this time in life, I should own a home/condo at this point. We place pressure on ourselves and it hurts when these things aren’t fulfilled. 

Imagine if we as a people could just live. Imagine as we are growing and evolving, we can say I’m ready to take the leap. Instead of family and society filling our heads with time limits, we take our time and just worry about ourselves and our creations. This can be us friends, we need to make that choice. 

What are your thoughts? Thanks so much for reading!
Nicole Cherise

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Feel good Friday (late): How others can inspire you to be a Success!

Hi friends! I’m so sorry for the late post. Yesterday, I honestly didn’t know what I wanted to write about and it was busy with work and baby boy having a little cold. However, after a good conversation with hubby last night, it will prompt today’s post. 

As you all know I have very strong views on circle of friends and their effect in our lives. I am a person who loves to hear success stories and I’m genuinely proud of my friends when they are winning. I have the attitude that if one wins, we all win. One of my friends, Arianne, started her own business called DayCare Rescue, LLC and had her first major contract with a client. You can find out more here: Daycare Rescue, LLC                                    I’m so happy for her and it truly inspired me. 

Friends, we have so much potential and a lot of times it does take that extra push to achieve it. When you have successful friends, you will want to feel good about yourself and be a success as well. Think about a time in your life where someone in your inner circle accomplished something great and then not too long after, the same happened to you. Didn’t you feel good? Truth is, no one wants to be that loser friend, so the motivation is real lol. 

Take the time that’s needed to invest in yourself, your goals and dreams. Take that leap and don’t worry about the naysayers. Just remember your “why” and you will be fine! I hope you all follow your dreams and passions in life. I also want to wish you a great weekend!
Nicole Cherise

Where is the Love Wednesdays: what’s good for the goose is good for the gander

Hi friends! Happy Wednesday to you!

We all have heard this phrase above. Many times it’s because something is happening that we felt was unfair. This applies to all relationships rather it’s romantic, family, friends or the work place. I agree with this phrase.
Often people can do something to us (usually it’s something we don’t appreciate or something we want to do) but it’s a double standard when it comes to us doing the same. I know life isn’t fair but that simply can’t work! In any relationship you have to give respect to get it. It’s not ok for someone to do entirely whatever they want and then have an issue once you do the same. 
In these cases, you have to find common ground and balance. If you are the one who is the “goose”, you need to check yourself because no one will want to work or be with you under those kind of restrictions. Therefore, the bottom line is, treat one another like equals and with respect. 
Nicole Cherise 

Motivational mondays: daily affirmations 

Hi friends!

Today is a good day to be awesome! Why you ask? Because you made it to see another day. I try to tell myself this daily. I know it’s not easy because of the things we struggle with but if we tell ourselves these daily reminders it can help. 

  1. I’m not perfect and that’s fine.
  2. Even when it rains, I’ll bring my own sunshine.
  3. Today, I will love myself more than yesterday.
  4. I can be a better family member and friend.
  5. I will follow my dreams.

If you practice any faith, I also recommend praying or meditating as well. Hang in there friends, trust and believe you are not alone. Things will improve, slowly but surely. 

Nicole Cherise 

Where is the Love? : is it truth or jealousy?

Hi Friends! I’m sorry that I didn’t post yesterday. It was a busy day, but I’m here today with a topic.

In a previous post, I wrote about having cheerleaders in your circle and the benefits. I also wrote about the Debbie downers to look out for. With writing that, I want to make a point that when someone tells you something you may not want to hear, it’s not always jealousy or “hating”. Constructive criticism is a healthy way to receive information and it can be the truth.
We tend to see this when it comes to life choices. Rather, it’s career decisions, relationship situations, conflict amongst family and friends; sometimes when someone doesn’t agree with you it’s not always a negative. Everyone is not always out to get us, we create that in our thoughts as a defense mechanism instead of tackling the problem head on. 
We, as people, need to understand that we are in this journey called life together. A true colleague and loved one is going to tell you the truth. This is also how you weed out the “fake snakes” in your circle. I’d be scared if my loved ones agreed with everything I’ve said or thought ALL my ideas were destined to work! 
So you are in the search of love, but yet you are currently being mistreated. The older we get, people understand that relationships have bumpy roads and certain tests need to be presented. However, I always tell my friends be careful what you share when you are emotional because Family and Friends do not forgive like we would. Therefore, if those close to you see that you as an individual is being broken down and your significant other is bringing out the worst in you, they are Not hating. Sometimes it takes someone looking from the outside to tell you that. Real supporters of Us will tell us if we are wrong and will not always be the “hype” man. 
So where is the love? It starts from within, and it gets projected out to who are very close and dear to our hearts. I’m so thankful for my family and friends. They truly keep me on my toes, give me the truth and constructive criticism. 
Do you have that type of support? Are you always in a battle of trying to recognize if someone is telling you the Ugly truth or is Jealous? If so, or you know someone who has this issue, feel free to contact me ☺️
Nicole Cherise 

Motivational Mondays: sometimes you Do need a circle of cheerleaders

Hi friends! I hope you all had a good weekend. 
Today’s post is about needing a circle of cheerleaders. No, I’m not referring to athletic cheerleaders, career ones. They can be family, friends, colleagues or strangers such as a life coach. A lot of times we become too comfortable in our current situations and aren’t using our full potential to be a success. 
I suggest having that person or circle and you all can encourage each other. However, be very careful in your selection of these people. Make sure they want to see success for all, not just themselves. Also, pay attention to how they view your plans/goals because if they are being “Debbie Downers” that can be very discouraging. 
Do this friends and get to work! Lol. Do you have a circle? Mentor? Or life coach that is helping you head in the right direction? If so, please express the benefits of having that support. 
Thanks for reading. Please feel free to share with others.
Nicole Cherise 

Feel Good Friday’s: you Are doing your best

  
Hi friends!

This is a reminder for us all. 

I will admit that I’m my toughest critic. Even when it comes to this blog, there are times when I think “ok not much responses equals I suck at this” lol. Even when it comes to family and friends, I’m always thinking what can I do to be a better wife, mother,  family member and friend or bring awareness to MS? The truth is…..

I AM DOING THR BEST THAT I CAN! 

Guess what?…. So are YOU!

It’s one day at a time and you are only one person. Things will get better. You will meet goals, gain those visions, get that relationship, things WILL be fine. So smile for now and know you are doing your best!

Nicole Cherise