Category: Life

Today’s Word-Acceptance

Acceptance•Agreement with or belief in an idea, opinion, or explanation.•The action or process of being received as adequate or suitable, typically to be admitted into a group.

Do you find yourself aiming for acceptance by family, friends, your workplace or community? It’s truly not easy to keep up with. We truly need to Accept ourselves FIRST and all that it brings. We have to Know who we are and move through life accordingly.

Nicole Cherise ♥️

Happiness at the Core

We all like what we like and want what we want, but does it make you feel good at your core or just the surface?

Have you had a rough day and decided to splurge at your favorite store? Purchased the new Jordan 1’s or even eat a 5 course meal at an exclusive restaurant? It feels good to release those emotions, but how long does it last? You still end up with the same sadness, pain and frustration.

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When we don’t have true happiness within our hearts or at our core, none of it truly matters. We need to dig deep for happiness and not just at surface level. I hope that resonates with us all. Happy Wednesday!

~Nicole Cherise ♥️

Where is the love Wednesday: Emotional child support

This is the sad but true case for many families. How can an adult bring their emotions and vulnerability to their interpersonal relationships if that tool wasn’t given? Should EVERYTHING fall on the parents? No. However, emotional support to your children is just as important as physical and financial support.

Has this been you? Did you turn to another family member to provide that emotional support? Or did you find yourself doing the work on your own with a therapist?

What does the child do? Thoughts?

Thank you for reading!

Nicole Cherise ♥️

The glimpse at winning

We can’t assume that it came easy or free! Many of these people are living the life that we want to have but it took blood, sweat and tears to get there. These people failed many times, received one rejection after the other but didn’t give up.

Has this been you? Have you had a moment when you saw the CEO and their car? Or maybe that power couple on the ultimate baecation. Yes, it’s all beautiful and achievable. Just remember, what’s for you is for you and your time WILL come.

Continue to work hard so that you can play hard! Don’t give in and don’t give up!

Thanks for reading,

Nicole Cherise ♥️

Hun, don’t forget you’re human

The saying “Being Strong is the only option” is a True inspirational statement. However, I believe we need to add: “but don’t forget that you are human”. Many of us are raised by people that we see as strong and they taught us to keep it together when trying times come.

We aren’t always advised to cry it out, or to seek therapy because society associates those things as a sign of weakness. The reality is, society does not want us to be Vulnerable. The interesting thing is that being vulnerable comes from our inner emotions…. Emotions something we are born with.

From birth we learn to cry to get the attention of our caregiver. When we feel uncomfortable or scared we seek protection from our caregiver (you can check out Bowlby’s development theory for that). Why does that change as we grow? As stated previously, as we grow our caregivers want us to be strong and I believe it’s because we won’t always have them to protect us from this world.

As a woman, I can say this IS a struggle for me daily. I’m sensitive, empathetic, prideful and strong, but I get overwhelmed because I want to do everything and be everything for everyone. I want to be Wonder Woman for my family, but often I fall apart. Wearing so many hats and masks does take a toll on our mental well-being but yet it doesn’t matter until we have a breakdown.

I’m learning that it’s ok to NOT be ok and It’s ok to voice that. We are wives, mothers, daughters, sisters, grand daughters, cousins, teachers, nurses, lawyers, ministers all in one and so many depend on us to be that for them. These same people need to understand that we Are Human too. For many of them, this won’t be easy for them to understand, but it’s vital that you make them understand your needs.

Ladies, I hope this resonates you to acknowledge that it’s ok to need a “time out”. You are human, and deserve to receive the love and support that you desire. Hold on, don’t give up.

Thank you for reading!

Nicole Cherise ♥️