Category: Life

Hun, don’t forget you’re human

The saying “Being Strong is the only option” is a True inspirational statement. However, I believe we need to add: “but don’t forget that you are human”. Many of us are raised by people that we see as strong and they taught us to keep it together when trying times come.

We aren’t always advised to cry it out, or to seek therapy because society associates those things as a sign of weakness. The reality is, society does not want us to be Vulnerable. The interesting thing is that being vulnerable comes from our inner emotions…. Emotions something we are born with.

From birth we learn to cry to get the attention of our caregiver. When we feel uncomfortable or scared we seek protection from our caregiver (you can check out Bowlby’s development theory for that). Why does that change as we grow? As stated previously, as we grow our caregivers want us to be strong and I believe it’s because we won’t always have them to protect us from this world.

As a woman, I can say this IS a struggle for me daily. I’m sensitive, empathetic, prideful and strong, but I get overwhelmed because I want to do everything and be everything for everyone. I want to be Wonder Woman for my family, but often I fall apart. Wearing so many hats and masks does take a toll on our mental well-being but yet it doesn’t matter until we have a breakdown.

I’m learning that it’s ok to NOT be ok and It’s ok to voice that. We are wives, mothers, daughters, sisters, grand daughters, cousins, teachers, nurses, lawyers, ministers all in one and so many depend on us to be that for them. These same people need to understand that we Are Human too. For many of them, this won’t be easy for them to understand, but it’s vital that you make them understand your needs.

Ladies, I hope this resonates you to acknowledge that it’s ok to need a “time out”. You are human, and deserve to receive the love and support that you desire. Hold on, don’t give up.

Thank you for reading!

Nicole Cherise ♥️

Our Scars

When the wounds are fresh, it hurts like hell. The Pain runs deep. At some point we have to decide if we want to heal ourselves or let the wound get infected, which could lead to serious consequences.

When we choose to heal, we apply medication to clean and protect the wound from infection and oh man it stings! Then we wrap it with bandages, sometimes the assistance of stitches may be needed, but we patiently wait for a scar to form.

How does this apply to the emotional wounds in our lives? The Pain is real and does feel physical for some cases. However, at some point we have to choose healing because the toxicity of the hurt we endured can ruin any chance of happiness or peace that we desire.

Sometimes we need assistance from a counselor/therapist to help with the deeper wounds that can’t just be wrapped up at the surface. It requires more work, resources and tools to find peace, but it IS obtainable.

The scar appears. The hurt isn’t fresh anymore, but the scar will always be a reminder of where we were and where we came from. We, Are Healed…..

Nicole Cherise ♥️

Don’t think you’re not experienced

Hi all! Happy Motivational Monday!

Something that weighs heavy on my heart is the term experience and what it means in our lives. We know the definition of experience means: practical knowledge, skill, or practice derived from direct observation of or participation in events or in a particular activity.

We tend to read literature of how to do something, or how to be better at something, but yet we still can feel lost. We tend to think we are inadequate if we don’t use the big words like the scholars, or if someone is older, we feel more of a subordinate.

Listen, forget all of that! We DO have experience. Rather, it’s parenting, marriage, a religious calling, technology, etc.. If you have done it for a while, then you are worth being listened to.

As I write this message to you, I’m talking to myself as well. We are capable of so much, but let formal education or our youthfulness get in the way. Don’t settle yourself short, you are wiser than you think.

Thanks for reading!

Nicole Cherise ♥️

Balance

One of the biggest lessons that I’m learning is that BALANCE is necessary. The Highs and Lows, the Sunshine and Thunderstorms, are Needed. I find that it keeps us grounded, we learn, we grow and it’s humbling.

Think of being back in High school. You might not have been the best English or Math student and no matter how much you studied, your test marks didn’t go above a “C”. However, one day you DID receive a high remark on a test. I don’t know about you, but I know that I felt like I was on cloud 9 when I finally scored a B or better! It was at that moment when we realize ok, this IS not my subject, but I will continue to give my all.

Don’t give in during the Lows and Thunderstorms of Life. It is NOT easy and requires a lot determination and strength, but you can do it. Clear your thoughts, have fun with some loved ones, write in your journal, and set affirmations. You got this!

Thanks for reading!

Nicole Cherise ♥️

You’re still Here

So much that weighs on our hearts.

So many horrible experiences.

Trust broken, relationships not ever lasting.

Family became Strangers.

Illnesses with no cure.

Damage to the body that can’t fully be repaired.

Friends become enemies.

Debt is more than our salaries.

Our mental state needs assistance through counselors or prescriptions.

Some turn to the bottle and drugs to get through their issues.

With all of this… You’re Still here. You are Bigger than any of these circumstances. You serve a purpose not matter if it’s big or small. Don’t give in, don’t give up on yourself. You are needed.

Thank you,

Nicole Cherise ♥️

L. O. A

I didn’t truly understand this until after I hit 30. We interact with so many individuals from all walks of the Earth and we have to be careful of what we allow to take place in our lives. I’m a work in progress but I realize how much my Peace is worth. I hope you do as well. I know this can be difficult if you have family, friends and colleagues that have toxic/negative energies surrounding them but we can choose to step away or to not let it disturb us. Have you guys ever felt like this? Or experienced this?

Nicole Cherise ♥️

Staying grounded

We have busy lives. Many of us have families to provide for, and financial responsibilities to enormous debts. Many of us battle physics illness, mental illness and injuries. With all of these hats that we wear, we have to combat the world as well. 

All these factors (there are plenty more not mentioned) can add a lot of stress to the mind, body and soul. What do you do to stay grounded? 

Do you lean towards your faith, meditation or yoga practices? Or maybe it’s taking mental days to rest? Or enjoy your favorite hobby? Let me know 😊

Nicole Cherise ♥️