Marriages, domestic partnerships, long term, engagements, long distance etc.. Are people who establish that they want to be together and should be on the same page to achieve a common goal. They have to communicate, give love and respect to their partner in order for the relationship to work. Pretty clear huh? What about situationships?
I’m sure you have heard your friend tell you how they met this wonderful person and how they really like each other but then when you ask whats the hold up they reply: “they have a situation”. This situation usually means they are in an unhappy relationship.
Situationships can be with marriages, long term dating, domestic partners and of course long distance but what can you do about it? If someone is involved in a unhappy relationship and is hesitant to leave it may be because of the time invested, financial comfort, convenience of basic needs ( food, clothes, shelter), child(s) or not wanting to be alone. Unfortunately, not only is it not fair to the person you are with but it’s unhealthy too. Being filled with resentment, hurt and fear does nothing but add extra stress in your life and could lead to risky life choices (cheating, substance use, etc..) Seek ways to fix the issues rather it be counseling or calling it quits BEFORE involving a third person to your “love triangle”.
If you are the new love interest of this person who has a “situation”, demand more for yourself. You can’t give your all to someone when he/she is giving you only a fraction. Maybe next life time you two can be an item or even better, when they can prove that are not in that unhappy relationship, worked on themselves and moving in a positive direction then give it a try. They have to work on themselves and show growth because the last thing you need is recycled baggage and habits the he/she did in the last one.
Relationships and Situationships… Can you relate?
Nikki Rob., MA