Hi all!! Today is my 8th wedding anniversary. I’m extremely blessed and thankful to continue this journey with my bestfriend 😁♥️😁.
When I was first diagnosed with MS (4/13/2010) and learned about the debilitating disease, we were 24 years old. In my head, I thought the chance of having a fulfilled relationship was no more. Who would want to marry me when I’m sick? With the progression of the disease, my body would never be the same, who has the patience for that? I was preparing myself to no longer be with my high school sweetheart because I didn’t want to hold him back. As I shared the news it was devastating to us all, a lot of anger, tears, frustration but one thing stuck out. My then boyfriend said “I’m going to take care of you, I got you”. At the end of that year he asked me to marry him (12/25/2010) and we married 8/9/2012.
To all my dear friends and loved ones who battle illnesses, love and support goes a long way. Please don’t give up on the hope that you can have a meaningful relationship or marriage. Don’t let the disease take that away from you. You are worth MORE than these doctor reports. Thanks for reading! Have a great day!
Nicole Cherise ♥️
When you are in a committed relationship, we all have our lists of do’s and Don’ts. Some are from past relationships or examples of relationships that we have seen. It’s all good! However, you have to concentrate on writing your own love story from Your perspective only.
Of course, I can sit and say that my parents were married for a 44 years, they set the example of hard working and did a great job raising 2 kids. The truth is, what worked for them may not necessarily work for Steve and I. Guess what? That’s ok.
People, fantasize over the perfect marriage/courtship, and comparing it fairytales. Marriage isn’t perfect, it takes hard work from Both individuals. Just like in fairy tales, tragedy and triumph can take place, therefore, just Write your own. Develop your character in your relationship before determining how the story is “suppose” to flow. Then combine the two for the incredible journey.
I hope this helps! Thanks for reading!
Nicole Cherise ❤️
Just a reminder for couples. Never Stop dating, don’t stop effectively communicating, get “dolled” up, be intimate, remain best friends. That’s only a few of the things that started the foundation of a relationship. Unfortunately, over time, many couples become too “relaxed” or it becomes “boring” and it’s because they have become too comfortable.
The good news is, a couple can always spice things up or change up their “routine”. Things can get better as long as both people want to do better.
What are your thoughts?
Thanks great people for reading!
Nicole Cherise ❤️
Hi great people!
Every so often, ill hear someone say that “Love has given up on them”. I do NOT agree with that statement. Yes, we may experience failed relationships, but Love didn’t fail us, the people did.
Just as people love to say all Men are dogs and all Women are horrible, that is not the Truth. The truth is, your choices in men and women haven’t been the best ones. There are STILL good people to date, court and have healthy marriages with. If you Change your mindset, you can change your outcome. Think about it friends.
Thanks for reading.
Nicole Cherise ❤️
I always had the idea that if I truly wanted my husband to change, that he would no longer be the man that I fell in love with. If anything during almost 17 years of being together, I would make suggestions of areas of improvement. I didn’t need him to be the perfect boyfriend/fiance/husband but I always him to be his best and I encouraged that. He did the same for me as well.
A lot of times, while dating, people tend to want to “change or fix” their mate. My guess is that we have an ideal image of what we want of our mate and people try to mold them into that. Nothing is wrong with seeing the potential that your other half could have but when you try to change them, that could cause resentment. They may start to feel inadequate when it comes to you.
If there are things that your significant other needs to work on, my advice is to effectively communicate with them. Speak with him or her, not At them. My next advice is to give them a chance to improve. Nothing happens over night, so please be fair to them in that regard. Lastly, be willing to hear improvements for yourself. You can’t be the only one giving critiques and not willing to get them as well. ☺️ I hope this helps friends! What are your thoughts?
Thanks for reading friends!!
Nicole Cherise ❤️
I always like the idea of being selfless in a relationship. Earning your loved one’s trust and showing them love, can bring much joy to the soul. However, it’s always good to know that you are appreciated.
So I asked the question above. I hope for many it’s all the time or at least most of the time. You can get resentment if you are the only one making sacrifices and hard efforts. Think about it. Don’t you want to feel “different”? Your significant other is “different” in your eyes, which is why you make them feel special. It’s ok to want the same back.
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Nicole Cherise ❤
Living in the Moment
Soaking in all the joys that the heart can imagine. Not worrying about a thing. All that matters is Us. What we made, what we are building and leaning on… Our roots, our foundation. You + Me is where it will always be.
Hi all! Happy Wednesday ☺️.
Have you all ever seen or heard of this show? My family put me on to this show and now I’m intrigued. It’s 20 people (10 guys and ladies) who were matched by experts based on their personalities, families and ex partner’s input. At the end of each episode the couples get to pick a person in hopes that they could be a match. After doing so, the host will let them know if there are any matches there. If there are matches they don’t lose any money in their “bank”, if Not, then they begin to lose money.
What I find interesting is that a lot of the couples were looking at their potential matches at the surface only. Usually, the experts believe a good match would be someone that brings balance to the other’s life and/or lifestyle. Despite this being a show for monetary gain, many are like the rest of the world, trying to find love.
Have you ever met people who you were attracted to but once you two started to date, you had absolutely nothing in common? Or if you met someone, but they weren’t your “type” but had great qualities that you want in a mate? Isn’t this always the struggles when it comes to dating? When we are young, looks seems to be the biggest asset that we may want in a mate, however, as time goes on, we all need someone who is more than just a beautiful face to look at.
What truly defines your perfect match? The appearance or the substance?
Thanks for reading!
Nicole Cherise ❤️
There is no better feeling than being planned for. People set up their work day schedules, kids schedules, gym, hair, nails etc but it’s great when your partner can do the same for you. Remember the “why” reason for being together. Yes life can throw us in many directions but we Can treat each other better. Love is Real.