Category: My Corner

Me, play victim as a black woman?

You say for me to stop making myself a victim. Ok how am I making myself a victim when you come after me?

You see me and say: “You’re  pretty for a dark skin woman” 

I tell you about my high school education and you said it was so high because of lower standards given to minority students and on other scales, I wouldn’t be considered that smart. 

You say I need to have a model physique but my thighs are too thick and rub together. Also, My post-parting belly isn’t ok.

You complain about wearing weaves but yet My hair is too kinky and nappy and should be straightened if I want to be accepted. 

I’m too loud and I’m bitch when I discuss things I’m passionate about.

If I wear a mini skirt, I shouldn’t get upset by negative attention.

No I don’t walk around with a sign that says judge me or that I pity myself. However, with your negative comments without even knowingme,  does make me wonder “am I truly playing victim as black Woman?”

Thanks,

Nicole Cherise ❤️

When your prayers have been answered. 

Hi friends!

You ever had a time in life where you hoped for good things to come or you prayed about something that has been a burden to you? Then, at the moment where you almost give up, it just Works out?!!! Yes, that’s where my thoughts are today. 

Trials turn into Triumphs

The last few months, I found myself cheering for everyone else while I’ve been stressed out, still grieving and just confused about my purpose. However, the things that I’ve been praying about are working out in a better direction! It makes my heart smile, my spirit is overjoyed. I’m genuinely more at ease. 

Has this been you? Do you feel your burdens have been lifted and shifted? 

Thanks for reading 😊

Nicole Cherise ❤️

It’s much Greater


Hi, great people!

On yesterday, I was in a really funky mood. I wasn’t feeling the best, money was acting funny, and it was chilly lol! However, as the day went on, I was in better spirits. Isn’t that life? Don’t we have those moments when we just feel like everything is going wrong, but yet things turn out right?
Battling Multiple Sclerosis, has truly humbled my spirit. I don’t take any day for granted. I appreciate the fight in me. I realize that God has given this journey to me for a reason. My Purpose will Always be Greater. I do feel that I can Motivate, Inspire and Support anyone who is in need. 
The same goes for you. Your strength, the works that you do, your drive, your passion is Greater than the struggle you are dealing with. Things will get better, You will get better!

Thanks for reading!
Nicole Cherise ❤️

Fight on MS Warrior

Hi great people!

Today was the Long Island MS Walk. I’ve walked every year since I was diagnosed in 2010. However, lately, I was in a rut about going. I wasn’t feeling my best physically or mentally. It wasn’t until 8 am this morning when I said, “Ok I’m going”. My team came with me and we had a good time. 


I met a very nice woman named, Margaret Murphy who works at the National MS Society Long Island Chapter. I told her that I plan to be more involved with MS events in the future. I also did my annual pic with  my dear friend Erin who inspires me so much! 


So it turned out to be great after all and I’m happy I went! I’m blessed to have my supporters from near and far. Those who have helped me spiritually, those gave those pep talks and donated to the National MS society! Because of you, someone can get assistance with wheel chairs, walkers, coverage for treatment and the list goes on. On behalf of MS Warriors, THANK YOU! 

I hope everyone is having a good weekend so far! 😊

Nicole Cherise ❤️

Age is a state of mind baby


Hey great people,

Happy Monday to you! After having a conversation with the hubby, I’ve been really considering my position in life currently. Like you, I too, have many hopes and ambition. I catch myself saying “32 is around the corner”, constantly.  I’m also thinking, “age is a number” the value of knowledge to gain is more important. 

So, “age is a state of mind baby” will be my go to Motto. Lol. As long as we are given another chance at life, we have time to grow and improve. 

Take care peeps! Thanks for reading 

Nicole Cherise ❤️

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Truthful tuesday

Hi friends! How are you great people doing?

Since Tuesday is winding down, I figure why not have a truthful moment?

Here is a truth about me. I believe I am an extrovert and I’m a social butterfly. However, there are times I need “Me” time or peace and quiet to be in my thoughts. This can be during reading, a trip to target, listening to music and even blogging. I’m sure this may not be a big deal to some, but it is a big deal for me. 

What about you great people? What’s your truth for today?

Thanks for reading!
Nicole Cherise ❤

Confession

Hi great people!

As a person who battles a chronic illness (Multiple Sclerosis), I am doing my best to remain strong. I do KNOW that my strength comes from the Lord 💪🏾 therefore, giving up can never an option.

I would be a liar if I said I wasn’t scared. I don’t let these feelings consume me everyday because I’m trying to enjoy every moment of life. To help me with this is that I look to my loved ones as my “why” and Purpose. 

What about my other warriors out there? Those who battle illness, has this been you? 

Thanks for reading friends!

Nicole Cherise ❤

Ain’t I enough?

I’m a proud black woman. I respect my roots. I appreciate the hard work of my ancestors and all who died in sacrifice so that I can have a chance.

When I decided to “find” myself, it was college. To this day, I’m still growing and creating myself. Everyday I look in the mirror, I see cocoa skin, a broad nose, full lips, dark eyes, kinky hair, curves and scars from the birth of my son. Some days I feel high in my element, but other days not so much. 

The battle of acceptance battles with American beauty and Black beauty. I need to conform. I need wear straight hair via relaxer or weave. My kinky roots are considered nappy by blacks and not “professional” by others but how? This is the strands as they grow from my head just like any other woman that has natural straight or wavy hair. So, I only look my BEST when it’s pressed or long down my back?
Now, I can care less about what techniques other black women do to maintenance their hair. I encourage healthy routes regardless of the choice. Even women, play on each other when it comes to beauty. Team this, team that, but getting played by the same system and men. 
What you Don’t see when you look at me: A woman of Faith, a Wife, a Mother, a sister, a friend, a Scholar, a woman who battles Multiple Sclerosis and works hard everyday. I also respect and encourage others to do better and find better in themselves. 
So I ask you, Ain’t I enough? 

Just take a moment

We have to take a moment to just breathe and enjoy the beauty that surrounds us. As I stare out the window and see the leaves fall from the trees, I suddenly had a peaceful moment. 

I hope everyone enjoyed their thanksgiving day and time spent with those who matter. Just remember that there are many who wish to have half of what you have. 

Nicole Cherise ❤️

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Thanksgiving reflections

The holidays are tough when you’re missing loved ones at the dining room table. Life isn’t the same, but you realize just how much we need to cherish life.  

As I look around, I’m watching my husband, son, mother and my in-laws laughing and eating, I drift into my own world. I honestly don’t know what I would do without them. Their presence gives me the energy that I need to get by. 
I also realize that at this point of the year, it’s time to game plan for the new year. I have a list of goals that I am working hard to meet. I will keep you all posted. I’m very excited because when you accomplish something new, you feel unstoppable. 
I’m thankful for all of you who take the time to read my posts and follow my journey. Blessings to you all!
Nicole Cherise❤️

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