Notice this didn’t say Men or Women… it says people. We all have a past and reason(s) for some of our decision making when it comes to choosing a mate. When you submit to someone, it does require serving their needs but it doesn’t mean that your needs are ignored. Significant others serve needs by providing transparency, dedication, value, learning, listening and the feeling of being safe to one another. You’re not Weak by wanting a Happy place with a person ♥️
During our life journey, the goal for many is to evolve. We are being more nurturing to ourselves and growing. Not everyone can handle our growth nor do they want to encourage it. Don’t fret though. It’s ok to have doubters, let that be the motivation that WE NEED to keep going!
I know it’s been so long! Yes, it has and I have to admit that I do miss blogging. I’ve been busy in my own mind, busy with family, busy with work and it was ALOT! Lol
Now that I’m back, I think it’s only right to chat about “Starting Over”. Listen, people will tell us left and right to stick to a decision or that we are too “old” to not have it all figured out…. The o̶l̶d̶e̶r̶ wiser that I get, I feel this is absolutely false. Should we have goals and execute them? Sure. But as long as we are “Able” and are continuing to learn, there is Nothing wrong with switching up the game plan.
Do you think our Society or Our Families play a major role with this mindset? What are your thoughts on this friends? Have you been under this influence? Or do you feel, you can Move as you please I’m regards to your future?
Sometimes we hit a brick wall. Sometimes it feels like the walls are caving in on us. Sometimes we don’t have many more places to run away to. Sometimes, the very thing that gives so much pleasure also gives a lot of pain. Sometimes we can’t help but wonder if that silver lining is EVER going to appear?
The hardships of it all and you just want ONE person who could understand. You want that person to get it but they don’t. Please Try not to blame them, it’s not their fault. Their story isn’t ours even if they play a role in it. They have their own issues to tend to and may not have the bandwidth to tackles yours as well.
No one is to blame. No one should feel shame. No one owes us anything. But we do owe it to ourselves to try with ONE step each day. Try to be kinder to ourselves. Try to show up for ourselves. Try to make moves for ourselves. Try to be the Favorite and Best version of ourselves.
Please do yourself this favor. We have so many views on what relationships should look like instead of just going with the flow. We have the tendency to not think out of the box and get upset with the failed expectations.
I know we use the model that we saw growing up or we decide to rebel against it. Either way, what we saw or read about in the fairy tales does not equal the LAWS of how a committed relationship should look like. Get to KNOW and GROW with your person and have fun.
What are your thoughts? Have to you decided to model after your family views? Have you rebelled against it? Or have you said, I create my own? Let me know, let’s chat about it ☺️
While being in a committed relationship, it’s important to understand the differences in family dynamics that our partner has from us. It’s important because you can establish the accountability that is required, boundaries and possibly a New start to your own Belief systems.
For example: if one person grew up in an authoritative household, he or she might have the same kind of approach in communication techniques or come off bossy. Yet, their partner might have grown up in a more liberal home where they express their feelings more openly. This pair, could clash a lot.
So, take the time out to have the necessary discussions. Try to let your guard down and be open to the new possibilities that could present themselves.
Have any of you had to do this? Would you do this? Let me know in the comments!!
We all like what we like and want what we want, but does it make you feel good at your core or just the surface?
Have you had a rough day and decided to splurge at your favorite store? Purchased the new Jordan 1’s or even eat a 5 course meal at an exclusive restaurant? It feels good to release those emotions, but how long does it last? You still end up with the same sadness, pain and frustration.
When we don’t have true happiness within our hearts or at our core, none of it truly matters. We need to dig deep for happiness and not just at surface level. I hope that resonates with us all. Happy Wednesday!
You have to be true to self and love the person that you are. Any one that values you and is interested in building a future with you, Will step up to the plate. Make sure that You are ready as well. Be ready for vulnerability and to be Loved like you deserve. Enjoy the journey!