Sometimes we hit a brick wall. Sometimes it feels like the walls are caving in on us. Sometimes we don’t have many more places to run away to. Sometimes, the very thing that gives so much pleasure also gives a lot of pain. Sometimes we can’t help but wonder if that silver lining is EVER going to appear?
The hardships of it all and you just want ONE person who could understand. You want that person to get it but they don’t. Please Try not to blame them, it’s not their fault. Their story isn’t ours even if they play a role in it. They have their own issues to tend to and may not have the bandwidth to tackles yours as well.
No one is to blame. No one should feel shame. No one owes us anything. But we do owe it to ourselves to try with ONE step each day. Try to be kinder to ourselves. Try to show up for ourselves. Try to make moves for ourselves. Try to be the Favorite and Best version of ourselves.
Please do yourself this favor. We have so many views on what relationships should look like instead of just going with the flow. We have the tendency to not think out of the box and get upset with the failed expectations.
I know we use the model that we saw growing up or we decide to rebel against it. Either way, what we saw or read about in the fairy tales does not equal the LAWS of how a committed relationship should look like. Get to KNOW and GROW with your person and have fun.
What are your thoughts? Have to you decided to model after your family views? Have you rebelled against it? Or have you said, I create my own? Let me know, let’s chat about it ☺️
While being in a committed relationship, it’s important to understand the differences in family dynamics that our partner has from us. It’s important because you can establish the accountability that is required, boundaries and possibly a New start to your own Belief systems.
For example: if one person grew up in an authoritative household, he or she might have the same kind of approach in communication techniques or come off bossy. Yet, their partner might have grown up in a more liberal home where they express their feelings more openly. This pair, could clash a lot.
So, take the time out to have the necessary discussions. Try to let your guard down and be open to the new possibilities that could present themselves.
Have any of you had to do this? Would you do this? Let me know in the comments!!
We all like what we like and want what we want, but does it make you feel good at your core or just the surface?
Have you had a rough day and decided to splurge at your favorite store? Purchased the new Jordan 1’s or even eat a 5 course meal at an exclusive restaurant? It feels good to release those emotions, but how long does it last? You still end up with the same sadness, pain and frustration.
When we don’t have true happiness within our hearts or at our core, none of it truly matters. We need to dig deep for happiness and not just at surface level. I hope that resonates with us all. Happy Wednesday!
You have to be true to self and love the person that you are. Any one that values you and is interested in building a future with you, Will step up to the plate. Make sure that You are ready as well. Be ready for vulnerability and to be Loved like you deserve. Enjoy the journey!
They are cute, handsome, adorable, and so cool but when does that shift happen? The shift of them becoming a threat? A Target? A menace? My heart aches for the grieving Mothers who had to bury their sons due to injustices that have lingered for centuries. Enough of turning the other cheek. It’s time for many to admit that Wrong is Wrong. If you can say that “All Lives Matter” then, you “Should” be outraged as well. This is not a hatred post, it’s a MY SONS’ Reality Post. #nicolecherise #mysons #godson #socialinjustice #justiceforgeorgefloyd
Of course, there is another aspect of what’s posted on this picture. Many people have enjoyed the family time by being entertained with Tic-Tok, games, binge watching movies or shows etc… However, only a few truly have that sense of Calmness.
These people accept what’s happening, take precautions, but refuse to let the Pandemic get the best of their lives. I feel this way about what one of my best friends. Anytime we chat she has this calmness to her. Now, that doesn’t mean that the pandemic hasn’t caused plans to change or be postponed due to the current bans but she’s doing an amazing job by continuing ON.
Unfortunately, I too, struggle with the events that are taking place. I’m almost 9 months pregnant and anxious for the next few weeks. I’m mainly home, so I’m developing cabin fever and it truly has had an effect on my emotions, but Safety for me and the little guy has to come first.
What are the things you’ve noticed about people during this Pandemic? What have you noticed about yourself?
I struggle with this a lot because I’m still at a place in life where other’s thoughts and words matter and can affect my day. It truly shouldn’t and I’m aware of that and I wear my heart on my sleeve so it doesn’t help.
One thing that my therapist and many others say is that you can’t let others have control over your emotions. No one, should be able to control my feelings, how I think, or why I make the decisions that I do. So, with that being said, I share with you ways that may help if you struggle with this issue like I do.
Don’t take EVERYTHING personal.
Most talk a big game, but can’t follow their own advice.
They are HUMAN not a higher power.
I’m sure there additional ways that can help but those are my top reminders for now. What about you?
Do you have techniques on ways to protect your peace?