This seems to be a topic amongst people 30+ who aren’t married, single parents or recent unfortunate break ups. It truly breaks my heart when I hear people say these things, especially when they have so much to offer. After going through a break up or if you are currently in a “dead-in” relationship, that doesn’t mean that no one would want you or you are doomed to be single forever. It simply means that you and the ex are not a good pair. He or she is Not the person you should continue to put in the hard work for especially if they aren’t working hard or decided to call it quits.
During a break up, I encourage others to do some soul searching and to reevaluate themselves. Look back at things that went wrong. Do you see how certain situations could have been prevented? Can you own up to Your part of why things went sour? Have you learned more about yourself after the storm has calmed? In a relationship, you are not set to be changed or to change the person you are with and to “create” the perfect person. You are meant to have growth and to inspire one another. If you constantly try to force them to be something they are not and vice versa, you are already headed for disaster. Next time go for who Exactly you want.
So the “love of your life” doesn’t love you anymore and now you feel unlovable. Please don’t feel that way. You are able to love and receive it, just be careful who you allow to come in your most vulnerable place. You said that you have a child and who is going to want you? A person possibly with the same dynamic or someone who Will love you and your child(s). A child is a blessing, and someone with a genuine heart can see first hand how you can love someone else other than yourself. They will truly appreciate you and respect you for being a great parent and could also accept the hold as their own. Lastly, age… Since when is it ok to put a deadline on love? That’s possibly one of Your issues you need to battle. Our generation wants things so quickly and for what? The title? The status? I don’t know, but like anything else, it comes with dedication and hard work. So what if you are 30+ and still single, have you thought to yourself, what a wife or husband should be and if you are all around ready? People love the idea of marriage because of the “dream” wedding, but the substance that comes after is key. If you are selfish in many different aspects of life, I’m sorry, but that can’t fly in a marriage. Therefore, while we focus on age, we really should focus on the maturity that’s needed for marriage.
If any of these things apply to you, I pray that my words can bring some relief. I’m here if you need me.
While having a discussion with my DH (darling husband) about sports, we spoke about players having less of an ego when it comes to being on a team and I completely agree!
Please don’t misunderstand, I know we all have pride in our art or our passion in life, but I believe your “why” should be bigger than you. We all have reasons to “why” we want to be a “success” and that’s what motivates us. However, we can lose track and start to become bigger than ourselves, especially when you are placed on a pedestal by people.
My “why” is my family and support for people. When I write in this blog, post videos, listen to others/give feedback, it’s not for me to gain glory. I do this because I want for people to know they are not alone in their battles because I’m battling right next to you. Even with my struggles, my family is my priority and it’s because of them that I don’t give up on my dreams or lose hope. I also want more for my family. A better me equals a better person, a better relationship with God, a better wife, a better mother, which trickles down to a decent child growing up in this big corrupted world. It’s a chain reaction and I want a positive one to re-chain. I do not aim to be on a pedestal, I aim to inspire and show love that someone may not be getting in life.
What is your “why”? Have you sat down and really thought of that? Let me know!
This is a phrase that I’ve always said and live by. We encounter plenty of people every day and many, when you ask “how are you?” They can give a brief smile and say I’m fine. I too, am one of these people. I smile briefly and say I’m fine but deep down, I could be sad or in a lot of pain. Now, don’t get me wrong, I do consider myself a positive person and I try to find good in many situations but I do get in a rut of a mood, I just choose to not be there for long. See, what I’ve learned in life is that we all have challenges. Even the people who are wealthy, they have to constantly worry if love is tainted or they are always on the go with barely time for family and friends.
The eyes are the windows to the soul. They show when we are sad, angry or even weak from illness. So when someone does Know you, they can take one look at you and tell that something isn’t right. It’s ok friends to have these moments, but just try not to stay there. You can get in a hole, but you don’t have to remain in there.
When things begin to change in your life, people will begin to show you their true colors. Those long conversations begin to dwindle and you wonder why? The problem is some people want to you stay where you are in life and Not advance. Another issue is that people are jealous of your achievements. Try to be aware of these things so that these negative vibes don’t cloud your judgement.
@NicoleCherise ❤ ️
If it’s something I’ve learned in these past years is that, not all who clap for you Are for you. This was hard for me to accept because I try to see the good in everyone.
The unfortunate thing is that a lot of times this happens with family, friends and colleagues. The “crab in the barrel” syndrome of not wanting to see others do better than yourself so you pull them down anyway you can.
When you start to see the actions of others or even hear sly remarks, get those individuals out of your environment. Those negative vibes can effect your mental state, ambitions and happiness. Please don’t give them that power and let them go.
So try to be care of who is in your circle and those who are “clapping” for you. Not all are genuine and they are truly clapping for your downfall.
Here is a video that I hope can brighten someone’s spirit!
Holding hands, we all did it at some point in our life. Rather, it’s as a child; holding your parents hand so that you wouldn’t get lost or while crossing the street. We hold hands during times of prayer and saying grace in some family customs. Hands are also held between lovers.
When I think about holding hands, it’s an intimate exchange with my husband, I feel support from him and most importantly safe. I love holding his hand.
Do you hold hands with your significant other?
Do you allow yourself to show your vulnerable side? Speak softly and listen attentively? Are you courteous? Are you Sincere?
I used to think that it was only men that needed to be gentle, however the older I get, I realize that “life” does make some of us ladies Rough too. Us women can offer some of those qualities to a deserving mate.
So I propose the the question, gentlemen, gentlewomen, is this you and can it be you? 🤔
Fb: Nicole Cherise
Hey all! Happy Friday! I hope you have a great start to your weekend and feel good!
Speaking of feeling good, if it’s one thing that bothers me the most is when someone is feeling down and people make them feel worse. If someone is clearly not feeling well or is having a bad day, why not do something to bring a smile to their face? You would be surprised what a smile can do someone’s day/mood. You could possibly help someone who might have considered taking their life, you never know.
Has this happen to you before? Have you felt down and yet others tried to keep you there? Has anyone ever brightened up someone’s day? What did you do for them?
Let me know in the comments 😊