Category: Positivity

Embracing Pregnancy

Normally the type of post I write are geared towards relationships, career goals and encouragement. I’ve slightly touched on a few personal experiences until now… Yep My husband and I are 9 months pregnant with our first child. I’m beyond excited, nervous, and anxious all in one. I decided to blog on this topic because in my eyes I believe pregnancy is not only embraced by the mother (or surrogate) carrying the child but it’s also embraced by her significant other.
I would be lying if I said that I’m the only one pregnant or expecting. My husband and I are expecting our first child and we are pregnant. The things that are constantly running through my head are definitely running in his. Yes men and women have concerns and some are from different angles of thinking but it’s all the same, how to be a great parent and life changes due to the wellness and upbringing of their child.
I do realize that unfortunately this is not the reality for all parents and couples. An expectant mother and father could both feel isolated. In the sense that the mother is experiencing so many changes in her body, hormones and appearance in which her partner is not. Even the father, may feel isolated because all the attention is no longer on him which may be because the dynamics of the relationship had changed. What I believe is key is to continue to communicate and to remember the baby comes from love. Babies are truly a blessing and I’m so happy to embark this new journey.

Cures of Physical Touch

Hey!

I saw an interesting tweet this morning that said cuddling can be a cure for pain just as pain killers are. Hmmm, I don’t know about you but it makes sense to me.

Like babies or a small child, when they hurt themselves or are feeling “under the weather”, seeking comfort from their caregiver adds to the recovery process. They feel safe and secure that whatever the issue is he or she will be fine. I feel this applies to grown-ups as well.

If you are not feeling well rather it be physical, mental or emotionally, seeking the arms of a companion, friend or family member can put you in better spirits. Sometimes, words are not needed to know someone is there for you during a challenging time. Just the embrace of feeling safe, secure and wanted speaks louder than any “I’m sorry this is happening with you” comments.

How does physical touch (hugging, cuddling) make you feel?

Dance in the rain

Have you ever had point in life where you feel like you are on cloud 9? Your’e smiling from ear to eat so much that your cheeks hurt? Then suddenly someone comes and try to burst your bubble? Question is… Do you allow them to?

One thing that is very important is for us to keep our composure and continue to feel happy regardless of what anyone says or thinks.

People will constantly try to rain on your parade but instead of getting frustrated, just continue to dance and sing. No one can shut down your Own happiness but You.

Remember take the wheel of your emotional well-being and continue on with your journey of life. It’s short so there is no time to waste.

Later friends
Nikki Rob., MA

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New Season, New You

So this time of the year a lot of people start their spring cleaning. Many clean their homes, get rid of the old and bring in the new. Many graduations take place, students are entering a new chapter of their lives. New cars are purchased and ahh the joy of the new car scent. Many weddings take place and the scenery of flowers blooming is epic in pictures. Different religions view spring as sacrifice and newness as well.

What about spring cleaning you?
Perhaps it could be a physical, mental or spiritual detox that is necessary? Maybe even a new LOOK? Whatever it is that you decide, let it be good for your own personal growth. Make more room in your mind for positivity. Only let positive like-minded individuals invade your space. Bring on the newness and let go of the baggage. You need better so go out and get it!

HAPPY SPRING

Nikki Rob.

Change of Scenery

Hey guys!

I know I normally make post on Saturdays but I was away for the weekend and currently flying as I type.

Change can be good and so can a change of scenery. 

Now a change of scenery doesn’t have to mean you move physically but it can be your mindset, employment, everyday activities, etc. Whatever a change of scenery means to you can be very beneficially especially if you feel things are becoming routine and you lack interest in you’re usual day to day stuff. 

Go for it! Take a chance and do something you possibly never thought of doing. You never know it can be a great start to new beginnings.

Good luck!

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Accountability

No one likes to take responsibility for the bad outcomes or experiences we face daily, it’s easier to point the finger to someone else.

Let’s say a student has detention after school.
Parent: why are you serving detention?
Student: Ms. Day only singled me out and there were other kids doing the same thing. She doesn’t like me
Parent: ok other kids acted up, but what do YOU do?
Student: I was playing and talking while she was teaching. But the other kids dared me to do it.

How many times have we heard this dialogue? Even into adulthood. We will still make excuses or find a way for the lime light to not be on ourselves or we have to take someone down with us.

relationships
I hear quite often about people in relationships getting mistreated. As hurtful as it may be, we must think about our role in the events. Has this person showed you a pattern of the same behavior? Did you set the tone of what you wanted in the beginning? If you allowed someone to have a lot of benefits in the beginning of the relationship, there really isn’t much to look forward to. Your mate has to earn your love and respect.

career
If you are reprimanded on your job for lateness there is nothing to blame but yourself. Yes traffic can be horrible, kids can be sick, a flat tire could occur but what makes you think your employer cares? Take responsibility and wake up earlier so that you can make it to work before your schedule time.

So accountability friends. We have to do better and handle our responsibilities.

Nikki Rob., MA

How are you doing?

I recently read an article that was shared on Facebook about questions that should be asked in order to improve our relationships with others.

When you communicate with people, we always say “how are you? Or how’s it going?” The answers usually are “fine, good or ok”, very routine. What if we asked more specific questions often? I believe that if we ask more specific questions not only does it show the other person that you care but it also shows that you listen ( refer to “stop and listen” post). Here are a few examples:

Parents to kid(s):
P: how was school today?
K: fine or ok
Typical response, let’s change it up a bit..
P: so how challenging was that science test? Did your study group help? If so do you think it’s something you should do more often?

That child has no choice but to respond with more than just a one word answer. He or she may even go into a whole dialogue about science which is great!

Marriage/relationship couples

Person a: hey babe how was work?
Person b: it’s was fine
Typical responses.. How could this change?
A: I saw on the news that the stocks dropped, how did that affect your day? Did any of your clients get hit hard?

Your mate will fully answer all the questions and probably think it’s cool that u relate other aspects of life and incorporate it with their career.

Friendships
Friend a- hey what’s up? How’s everything?
Friend b- everything is good can’t complain…, typical right? Let’s get more specific

Friend a: hey how are you? Last time we spoke you were going for a promotion, was it a success? I know how great it would be to get especially since you are moving to a bigger home soon.

Friend b will spill all the beans and give you a chance to listen and KNOW what’s going on with them.

Now of course in all the above examples you have people that are bit more stubborn to open up but trust they will appreciate your efforts to communicate with them. Also be mindful that not all can grasp this concept at first but we live by law of attraction and we DO feed off one another. So, be patient better quality relationships are on the way!

Nikki Rob, MA.

Stop and Listen!

How many of us really know how to Listen?

Can you recall a time when you were expressing your feelings or accomplishments to someone and then all of a sudden the conversation took a turn and became solely about them? Or in a disagreement with you and another person(s), no one could make out anything due to yelling and screaming? Yes, I’m sure we have all been there. What is usually accomplished in those situations? Absolutely nothing.

We live in a world where there are many customs and traditions which comes along with many different views on life choices, religion, family dynamics,career, politics, the media, sports etc.. We must remember:
1. not everyone is meant to be friends
2. everyone will NOT always agree with your opinions and beliefs
3. Sometimes people just want to vent without hearing feedback and if they do want feedback more than likely that will be stated before the story is told.
4. You can’t change people’s thoughts. Once people have an opinion in their heads its little to nothing you can do to make them see things Your way (refer to #2).Other’s are able to change their minds but its on their terms not yours. So accept their position and if you don’t then keep it moving.

Relationships are about Relating therefore, how you communicate is key. Try to listen before you speak or just be silent. To get your point across you don’t have to yell and shout. Yelling and shouting only raises your blood pressure and creates more disrespect between you and the person you are talking to.

In this upcoming week, I challenge everyone to LISTEN more and find other creative ways to get your point across without interrupting someone or yelling at them. Let me know how it goes!

Nikki

Who Inspires You?

Today, people around the US and world give recognition to Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

He was a man of peace and lived by the principles of Agape Love. I would say He is an inspiration to many including myself. When I hear his speeches and read his thoughts, I want to do better.

Is there anyone who inspires you? Do you get the need to want to do better and become better? Whom ever this may be for you rather they are living or have passed on, be the change you want to see in the world. Nothing is to big or small for you to accomplish.

Nikki

Are you wearing your crown?

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I hope you are! How do you look at yourself? Royalty? A peasant?
You don’t have to be rich to wear your own crown and no it doesn’t have to be one that’s visible either. Your crown can be imaginary that’s only seen by you but your attitude will reflect that you are a King or Queen.
Walk to the beat of your own drum and keep your head up! Let your light shine through 🙂

Nikki