You have to be true to self and love the person that you are. Any one that values you and is interested in building a future with you, Will step up to the plate. Make sure that You are ready as well. Be ready for vulnerability and to be Loved like you deserve. Enjoy the journey!
Many of us have battles that runs deeper than the 👁 can see. The trauma of Life has given us scars. Sometimes we even Battle against ourselves. I urge, that even in the dark, please let Your Light Shine through. You Are Amazing, You are More than Enough. ☀️✨✨✨
We often continue to live in the past and continue an unwanted cycle. Let’s make a decision to push through adversity and claim victory for ourselves. I believe in order for us to do this we need to Heal and forgive ourselves. Heal from the trauma that we experienced (no matter if it was big or small) and forgive ourselves because we continued to allow past trauma affect current decisions that we make. You got this, I got this, We All Got This 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾💯💯💯
This is not an easy task. The truth is, we rely so much on people and outside factors to give us happiness. You’re significant other, family, nor your friends are responsible for your happiness. You ARE.
We have to dig deep. Release those layers of hurt, dysfunction, self doubt, and fear. Things will get tough, you may have days and months of the ugly crying but it’s ok. Never think crying is a weakness, it’s a reminder that you are Human.
I too, am doing the same. Therefore, you are Not Alone.
For many of us, we have to take everything that we deal with, one day at a time.
All the tasks aren’t getting done due to us being overwhelmed with the many distractions that get in the way.
How do we overcome this? How do we find balance? How do we find happiness? My suggestion is to get Peace first.
Having peace is vital and it can help us see the “BIG” picture clearer. We could possibly find solutions to things that are problematic. With Peace comes Acceptance and Happiness will follow not too far behind. Have you struggled with finding happiness? Do you believe you have peace in your life? I’m working on it and pray to get there one day! I hope the same for you all as well.
If it’s one thing that irks me, it’s someone that doesn’t live up to their word. People say things in the heat of the moment, make promises that they know they will not keep, and just talk to talk. So, how do we handle this?
First off, we have to lead by example. You can’t complain about others if you don’t apply the same principles. Many people want so much but don’t put in half of the work. If you know you can’t do something, do not commit to it. Be honest within yourself and to others.
Second, try not to have high expectations, but remain hopeful. I realized that the more expectations that I have with someone, sometimes, I was highly disappointed. I believed every word and promise. I guess it was naive of me to do that because I know that no one is perfect. I always kept that sense of hope that if I did my best to uphold my word that others would do the same for me. Selected individuals DID indeed live up to their word which in return forced me to do better also.
Friends, do you experience this also? Have expectations of others and get let down? Or have you made broken promises? If so, what did you do to handle it better? Let me know below!
Let me start by writing: this is NOT a man bashing post or a holier than Thou Sermon but simply a reality.
I’m a proud black woman. I consider myself Feminine and classy. Over the years, I notice that many generations have this idea of what a lady should be and her roles. We have come far from the beginning of time. Even though, I consider myself “traditional with an old soul”, I still can’t get with the Nonsense that continues to happen to women.
In the news, it’s so many sexual attacks or harassment scandals that are coming to the light. There are so many hashtags of “me too”, which I was included in. Its 2017, and I have to constantly worry about my clothing because people are rude or can’t keep their hands to themselves. Women are still in physical, emotional and verbal abusive relationships with the “no way out” mentality. Many are treated as a possession only.
So tell me Friends… if we are suppose to be soft-spoken, nurturing, forgiving , open-minded, etc., who is fighting for us? Many can answer: significant others, family members, male friends but not all have that. Some of the same people that want us to conduct ourselves like ladies at all the times, are the same ones degrading and abusing. Those people include fellow Women as well.
Sometimes we have our heart set on Tasks that we want to happen quickly… so what usually is the end result? Disappointment, Frustration, and Doubt just to name a few.
The saying also goes: “anything worth having is worth fighting for”. Friends we have to continue to fight. No giving up, no giving in! Stay on track, you will cross that finish line! Have Faith, you can do it!