Category: Relationships

Shed the Layers with your S/O

Please shed your layers to your significant other. It is extremely difficult to try to figure someone out when they continuously keep on their shields.

I know many stay on defense mode because of past relationship failures and mistreatment. That is understandable, however, you can’t fully commit to someone without giving your true self. True self includes your beauty, flaws, dreams and nightmares etc.

What I’m writing isn’t Law but something that I think is worth a chance. For all you know, you could be missing out on a beautiful companionship all because you don’t want to seem “Soft” or “weak“. Think about it.

thanks for reading friends!

Nicole Cherise !

Where is the Love Wednesday edition: A friend… then A Lover

How many of us really can say we took the time to let a friendship blossom before wanting the Romance with a significant other?

Take a moment to let that Sink in.

Significant other…. What makes them Significant? Best friend(s)… why are they the Best? We don’t take enough time in these categories, especially when it comes to romance. Don’t get me wrong, nothing is wrong with getting swept off your feet, or feeling it was love at first sight because for many that is their love story. Like anything in life, plant the seed, nurture it and watch the growth that takes place.

Has this been you? Have you been haste to enter a romantic relationship and then it failed abruptly? Were you friends? Let me know your thoughts friends!Thanks for reading!

Nicole Cherise ♥️

Feel Good Friday: Seek comfort in your S.O. but don’t get too Comfortable. 

Hi friends! Happy Friday to all! 
Isn’t this always the topic of discussion amongst friends? You are deeply in love with your partner. You reached a place in the relationship where you are happy, trusting and loyal to one another. However, some how, you both get too “comfortable”. 
What could too comfortable mean? It differs from one relationship to the other, but a few examples could be:

  1. Less quality time
  2. Less compliments or cute gestures
  3. Less communication
  4. Less saying “I love you”
  5. Appearance
  6. Intimacy
  7. Less hard work to make the relationship work
  8. Lacking responsibilities one once had.

That’s just a few, if you can think of more, please drop it in the comments section. 


Even though those things may seem like minor issues that couples endure, they can become bigger problems down the road. When people ask me for advice in this matter, I’ll tell them to C̶O̶M̶M̶U̶N̶I̶C̶A̶T̶E̶ Effectively Communicate with their significant other. Go into the conversation with an open mind, speak calmly, and be respectful. Also, we have to remember that nothing changes overnight. It takes time, patience and leading by example. 
Has this been anyone else? Can you admit that you’ve gotten too comfortable in your relationship before? Let’s discuss below. 

Thanks for reading!!!
Nicole Cherise ❤️

Where is the love Wednesday: it’s not good to change them

Hi Friends!

This is from my Bible app plan. The topic is motherhood. I completely agree with this devotional by Karen. 

Many times in a relationship, especially in a marriage, many think they can change their spouses into their “perfect image”. That’s not fair because it will cause conflict between the two. When you said “I Do” it was to all of them not just some or the parts you like of them. 

Welcome to the comfort zone 


Just a reminder for couples. Never Stop dating, don’t stop effectively communicating, get “dolled” up, be intimate, remain best friends. That’s only a few of the things that started the foundation of a relationship. Unfortunately, over time, many couples become too “relaxed” or it becomes “boring” and it’s because they have become too comfortable. 

The good news is, a couple can always spice things up or change up their “routine”. Things can get better as long as both people want to do better. 
What are your thoughts?
Thanks great people for reading!
Nicole Cherise ❤️

The truth and Love

Hi great people!

Every so often, ill hear someone say that “Love has given up on them”. I do NOT agree with that statement. Yes, we may experience failed relationships, but Love didn’t fail us, the people did.

Just as people love to say all Men are dogs and all Women are horrible, that is not the Truth. The truth is, your choices in men and women haven’t been the best ones. There are STILL good people to date, court and have healthy marriages with. If you  Change your mindset, you can change your outcome. Think about it friends.

Thanks for reading.

Nicole Cherise ❤️ 

Improvement vs Changing of your Significant Other


I always had the idea that if I truly wanted my husband to change, that he would no longer be the man that I fell in love with. If anything during almost 17 years of being together, I would make suggestions of areas of improvement. I didn’t need him to be the perfect boyfriend/fiance/husband but I always him to be his best and I encouraged that. He did the same for me as well. 
A lot of times, while dating, people tend to want to “change or fix” their mate. My guess is that we have an ideal image of what we want of our mate and people try to mold them into that. Nothing is wrong with seeing the potential that your other half could have but when you try to change them, that could cause resentment. They may start to feel inadequate when it comes to you.
If there are things that your significant other needs to work on, my advice is to effectively communicate with them. Speak with him or her, not At them. My next advice is to give them a chance to improve. Nothing happens over night, so please be fair to them in that regard. Lastly, be willing to hear improvements for yourself. You can’t be the only one giving critiques and not willing to get them as well. ☺️ I hope this helps friends! What are your thoughts?
Thanks for reading friends!! 
Nicole Cherise ❤️

Don’t let them hold you back!

Hi friends!

Isn’t this happening a little too much these days? There was a time where life partners believed in one another’s dreams. They were each other’s biggest fan. Unfortunately, for some, it’s a competition or selfish motives for some couples now. 

That’s awful and very sad to hear. It’s hard enough battling forces in the world, but to come home to someone who doesn’t support you is heartbreaking. Therefore, I suggest letting them go. Will it be easy? No. However, you will see later that they are holding you back. Think about it. A Relationship takes two people who are willing to be selfless and supportive. Is that what you have?

Thanks Great People for reading! Feel free to follow my blog and share!
Nicole Cherise ❤

Go On

:Hey friends,

This seems to be very common. People tend to no longer want to be in a relationship or friendship and it leaves the other person confused. This too, has happened to me and it hurts, especially when you feel that things can be fixed. However, today, I’m telling you to let them Go! 

It may be hard and an adjustment in the beginning but you will feel better later on. Sometimes, it’s not always your fault. Sometimes it has nothing to do with you. Regardless of the reason, if you were meant to be in each other’s lives, it will happen. There are more fish in the sea and more friends to make. Life goes and on and you will be fine. 

Thanks for tuning in!

Nicole Cherise ❤