Category: self love

No reminders needed…

On the journey of healing, I recognize the importance of loving yourself without the validation or attention from others.

It’s unhealthy to behave in this manner and to believe that if someone isn’t giving you praise, it’s a bad reflection of yourself. My dear friends, WE have to be our OWN best friend, and love ourselves first. It’s ok to have help as a secondary tool but it can’t be the ONLY tool.

It not easy to stop the codependency process but it WILL be worth it in the long run. Let’s continue to uplift one another, continue to do daily affirmations and grow. I’m here for anyone who needs help in their journeys.

As always, thanks for your support!

Nicole Cherise ♥️

Testimony

Emotional Days happen.

MS symptoms can try to take over my spirit. Being a wife, a mother, a scholar, and a hard worker can be overwhelming. I’m sure many of you have felt the same. I’m here to tell you that victory is ours.

This picture was taken after crying my little heart out but a crooked smile was able to surface. I continued to think about my “why?” and I was able to wooo saaa and calm down. I pray that you all can find reason to smile after your storms. I’m here for you if you need me ♥️

Thank you for reading,

Nicole Cherise ♥️

R e s p e c t!

First… RIP Aretha Franklin!!

The Queen of Soul has blessed us with so much especially her music. One thing I remember as a child, was her famous song “Respect”. To this day, I find so much pride listening to it and attempting to sing it.

This makes me think of Self Respect and how being respected is a requirement and should be a requirement. You don’t have to like me. You don’t have to agree with my decisions but you will respect me. When getting to know me, you will KNOW and UNDERSTAND that I’m a proud Black Woman, I’m a proud Wife and Mother, I Am a Scholar, A Professional and more.

We need to teach Self Respect not only to ourselves but also to our children. Our children are very vulnerable to the ignorance of Adults. We have to be able to teach them how to represent themselves in an assertive manner. They need to know that their feelings matter and that we do care.

This may not be the answer to all but it’s a start! Self Respect is a Necessity.

Thanks for reading!

Nicole Cherise ♥️

Don’t let them put fear in your heart

Hi friends

I know we live during a time that bullying and people in superior roles can do a lot of intimidating to those they feel are beneath them. However, We have to continue to stand our ground while being respectful.

One thing that I’m learning, is that life is difficult and people will try to make your life difficult as well. We have to choose PEACE over anything. I don’t know about you guys but when there is no peace in my heart, I do not function well nor do I give any task my best performance. It’s just added baggage that I can’t deal with.

I remember a time that my heart would race rapidly whenever I had to speak to someone in a role superior than myself. It was until I developed my own relationship with the Lord and a lot of those fears dwindled down. In a similar post, I realized that people are people but God is God. God is the only One to Fear.

If this is hard for you, please take a breather. Remember, people have to breathe, eat, and sleep just like You. They bleed, experience heartache just like You. Regardless of the amount of money that make or where they live, we are all have a life journey and Fear isn’t an Option.

Thanks for reading

Nicole Cherise

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Note to Self

Dear Nik,

The obstacles are here currently but they won’t stay. Please do the following:

Keep working hard, Continue to keep the family first, and forgive yourself.

Nicole Cherise will prosper, and you will be student loan debt free!

Keep your chin up and shoulders back, because your strut is back! No more dragging or limping your left leg. You Are a MS Survivor.

I know it may not seem like it but with God this is already done. Trust me.

Love Always,

Future You ♥️ (Dr. Nicole Cherise)

You will be fine

Sometimes, we tend to forget that things will be ok. We may be experiencing something very difficult and need a resolution. We may not like the outcome at first but we WILL be ok because we learn to adapt.

We adapt to situations for survival. Things will not always go as planned, that’s why we learn from actors to improvise in the mean time.

I’m currently going through something right now where I feel as if my back is up against a wall. No matter how good I may be, or how cooperative I appear, it’s just not enough for some. The truth is I Know my worth while others don’t. So as frustrating as things may be, I keep reminding myself that ” I will be ok”.

So will you Friends!! You’re not alone, in fact, most people don’t have it all together. Tell yourself this: “I know this situation may not be in my control or it didn’t go as planned but I Know I will be ok!

Hang in there friends! I’m here if you ever need me ☺️

Nicole Cherise ♥️

Sometimes it IS all in our heads

Time and time again we hear this tape that runs through our head filled with doubts. We tell ourselves what we Can’t do, how we won’t be successful, we say that we fail at everything, we won’t find Love, or that our goals will never be accomplished.

We grow bitter, angry, we’re constantly on edge. We sometimes even blame others for why we are slacking. This same tape says: “it’s Us against the World” when in reality, it’s US against Ourselves.

It is ALL IN OUR HEADS because we put it there.

Is this you? Has this been you? When did you realize that enough was enough? I realized this tape that I put into my head a while ago and trust it takes time to work through this process. Hold on Dear Friends, you are not alone!

Thanks for reading,

Nicole Cherise ♥️