Category: self love

Sometimes it IS all in our heads

Time and time again we hear this tape that runs through our head filled with doubts. We tell ourselves what we Can’t do, how we won’t be successful, we say that we fail at everything, we won’t find Love, or that our goals will never be accomplished.

We grow bitter, angry, we’re constantly on edge. We sometimes even blame others for why we are slacking. This same tape says: “it’s Us against the World” when in reality, it’s US against Ourselves.

It is ALL IN OUR HEADS because we put it there.

Is this you? Has this been you? When did you realize that enough was enough? I realized this tape that I put into my head a while ago and trust it takes time to work through this process. Hold on Dear Friends, you are not alone!

Thanks for reading,

Nicole Cherise ♥️

Fear No One

There comes a time in life when you have to stand up for yourself and put fear aside. Many people will use their power to control people. I can admit, whenever I’ve dealt with anyone above me, there was this sense of nervousness. Some people I felt were even Bullies… It didn’t change until one of my superiors told me one day, “I’m human like you”.

Hearing those words made me realize that the “higher ups” and powerful people do cry, they do have worries, they do experience Defeat. Meanwhile, I just always assumed their Life was GRAND. That was day I also told myself to only Fear God.period.

I share this because we need to remember: No One should hold fear in our hearts. Your superiors, rather its at home or at work, are to be Respected, Not Feared. These people can get hurt and bleed just like you and me. Never let anyone make you feel as if you are Nothing. You’re worth matters even if it doesn’t seem like it.

Thanks for Reading

Nicole Cherise ♥️

Take a Breather…

Hi Friends!

With all the hustle and bustle that we all have going on, sometimes we have to remember to slow down. When we are constantly on the go, with no pauses, it can bring out a lot of anxiety. Therefore, take a breather or a moment to woooo saaaa!

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No worries friends, you got this!! Take that extra time for the snooze button, take a two minute walk, meditate/ pray, blow bubbles! Do what it takes to help, YOURSELF!

Thanks for Reading!

Nicole Cherise ♥️

Saturday thoughts: What I’ve learned from Kendrick Lamar’s “Element.”


As I stated in my birthday recap post, hubby and I went to the “Damn.” concert, which starred my one of my favorite artists, Kendrick Lamar. The song Element has been weighing heavy on my mind and here is what I’ve learned….
When pursuing your passion feels discouraging
“You know careers take off, you just gotta be patient”. Patience, is the major key. We get excited about the possibility of what could be but we either compare ourselves to others or lack confidence. We all do this, but when do the excuses stop? When does being scared of success stop? We have to CONTINUE. Even if you move slow with your passion just don’t stop. 
Don’t let them take you out your Element
The enemy is moving quickly and working hard to take us off track. This is when self-doubt happens and those “little voices” tell us that it won’t work. Even if you have a moment of doubt, don’t let many see that. They will feed off of it and let’s face it, people are always “watching”. So, don’t miss a beat! 

Keep going Friends, you got this!!
Thanks for reading!
Nicole Cherise ❤️

It’s another chapter 

Hi, great people,
 Trust me, I know all about pain, heartache, disappointment and feeling low. The truth is, it can get better. Try your best to not stay in the whole that life has thrown you in. Even if you dig yourself into that whole, you can definitely dig yourself out. 
Ways to get out of the hole

  1. Bring positivity into your life.
  2.  Join a support group. 
  3. Keep a journal.
  4. Get counseling. 
  5. Last but not least, prayer and meditation.

The things listed above can help. I hope and pray that what you are dealing with can be seen as just another chapter not as the final chapter. You got this!!

Love,
Nicole Cherise ❤️

Me, play victim as a black woman?

You say for me to stop making myself a victim. Ok how am I making myself a victim when you come after me?

You see me and say: “You’re  pretty for a dark skin woman” 

I tell you about my high school education and you said it was so high because of lower standards given to minority students and on other scales, I wouldn’t be considered that smart. 

You say I need to have a model physique but my thighs are too thick and rub together. Also, My post-parting belly isn’t ok.

You complain about wearing weaves but yet My hair is too kinky and nappy and should be straightened if I want to be accepted. 

I’m too loud and I’m bitch when I discuss things I’m passionate about.

If I wear a mini skirt, I shouldn’t get upset by negative attention.

No I don’t walk around with a sign that says judge me or that I pity myself. However, with your negative comments without even knowingme,  does make me wonder “am I truly playing victim as black Woman?”

Thanks,

Nicole Cherise ❤️

That sunken place

Hi great people!

Today’s blog post was inspired by the movie “Get out”. I won’t go into crazy details about the movie because I don’t want to spoil for viewers who haven’t seen it. 

The “Sunken Place” to me goes deeper than our failures, it’s the place that we truly hide our fears, our depression. Many of us present a tough shell but the day someone breaks through to the core, the big mean Monster becomes a small broken child.

Digging deep into our inner selves is necessary! One of my friends who is a blogger created this post about Depression and I truly enjoyed her words because it was raw and spoke truth. Follow her blog : https://shannonnicole.blog/2017/03/04/depression/

If we don’t address our issues at the core, we could forever remain in that Sunken Place. Where we feel trapped, alone, fearful, and unhappy. Nothing is wrong with seeking help. Even if your culture or “family” says otherwise. 

I’m here too, to help along the way friends. Let this be the start to your greatness. Thanks for reading!

Nicole Cherise ❤

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