Category: self love

It’s another chapter 

Hi, great people,
 Trust me, I know all about pain, heartache, disappointment and feeling low. The truth is, it can get better. Try your best to not stay in the whole that life has thrown you in. Even if you dig yourself into that whole, you can definitely dig yourself out. 
Ways to get out of the hole

  1. Bring positivity into your life.
  2.  Join a support group. 
  3. Keep a journal.
  4. Get counseling. 
  5. Last but not least, prayer and meditation.

The things listed above can help. I hope and pray that what you are dealing with can be seen as just another chapter not as the final chapter. You got this!!

Love,
Nicole Cherise ❤️

Me, play victim as a black woman?

You say for me to stop making myself a victim. Ok how am I making myself a victim when you come after me?

You see me and say: “You’re  pretty for a dark skin woman” 

I tell you about my high school education and you said it was so high because of lower standards given to minority students and on other scales, I wouldn’t be considered that smart. 

You say I need to have a model physique but my thighs are too thick and rub together. Also, My post-parting belly isn’t ok.

You complain about wearing weaves but yet My hair is too kinky and nappy and should be straightened if I want to be accepted. 

I’m too loud and I’m bitch when I discuss things I’m passionate about.

If I wear a mini skirt, I shouldn’t get upset by negative attention.

No I don’t walk around with a sign that says judge me or that I pity myself. However, with your negative comments without even knowingme,  does make me wonder “am I truly playing victim as black Woman?”

Thanks,

Nicole Cherise ❤️

That sunken place

Hi great people!

Today’s blog post was inspired by the movie “Get out”. I won’t go into crazy details about the movie because I don’t want to spoil for viewers who haven’t seen it. 

The “Sunken Place” to me goes deeper than our failures, it’s the place that we truly hide our fears, our depression. Many of us present a tough shell but the day someone breaks through to the core, the big mean Monster becomes a small broken child.

Digging deep into our inner selves is necessary! One of my friends who is a blogger created this post about Depression and I truly enjoyed her words because it was raw and spoke truth. Follow her blog : https://shannonnicole.blog/2017/03/04/depression/

If we don’t address our issues at the core, we could forever remain in that Sunken Place. Where we feel trapped, alone, fearful, and unhappy. Nothing is wrong with seeking help. Even if your culture or “family” says otherwise. 

I’m here too, to help along the way friends. Let this be the start to your greatness. Thanks for reading!

Nicole Cherise ❤

Iamnicolecherise@gmail.com 

Get to the Core

I believe this is the reason why we allow the same thing to repeatedly happen to us. If we don’t search deep into our inner selves we will not learn what is truly hindering us. We need love ourselves enough to take the time, to solve these issues. It can take weeks, months or years but taking the first step is key. 

If you need help in this, email me iamnicolecherise@gmail.com 

Thank you for reading!

Nicole Cherise ❤

Ain’t I enough?

I’m a proud black woman. I respect my roots. I appreciate the hard work of my ancestors and all who died in sacrifice so that I can have a chance.

When I decided to “find” myself, it was college. To this day, I’m still growing and creating myself. Everyday I look in the mirror, I see cocoa skin, a broad nose, full lips, dark eyes, kinky hair, curves and scars from the birth of my son. Some days I feel high in my element, but other days not so much. 

The battle of acceptance battles with American beauty and Black beauty. I need to conform. I need wear straight hair via relaxer or weave. My kinky roots are considered nappy by blacks and not “professional” by others but how? This is the strands as they grow from my head just like any other woman that has natural straight or wavy hair. So, I only look my BEST when it’s pressed or long down my back?
Now, I can care less about what techniques other black women do to maintenance their hair. I encourage healthy routes regardless of the choice. Even women, play on each other when it comes to beauty. Team this, team that, but getting played by the same system and men. 
What you Don’t see when you look at me: A woman of Faith, a Wife, a Mother, a sister, a friend, a Scholar, a woman who battles Multiple Sclerosis and works hard everyday. I also respect and encourage others to do better and find better in themselves. 
So I ask you, Ain’t I enough? 

W.i.t.l.w: break ups can be great

Hi friends! Good day to you!

So, we all have been there, the break up. Sometimes it seems like it comes out of nowhere and for others it was a long time coming. Some of us I’m sure have had many break up to make up fiascos and boy the making up phase is awesome. However, I want you to know that the break up can be awesome as well because you can get back to what’s important, YOU.
That toxic dude or gal has left your atmosphere and it’s time to move on. Even if you feel nervous of the thought of being single, it’s ok that’s normal. What if we change that nervousness into self love awareness? I suggest to take the time to reflect on this past break up. Jot down all the things that went wrong on BOTH  ends. When you can see the mistakes that were made, you then can know what you won’t do in the future and what you won’t tolerate. 
I know it’s not easy because now you have to alter your thoughts or change your system of responsibilities but you will be fine! Do you feel break ups can be good? When you did let go of the baggage, did you feel lighter?
Thanks for reading! 😁
Nicole Cherise