what you think of you is Your choice 

  This is very true friends. When I know someone is going through a big dilemma, I asked them, “how do you see yourself?” 
How we view ourselves is the beginning to how others will view us, treat us and the level of respect that will be shown to us. it also reveals how we handle things. 

Don’t believe it? Ok, I challenge you to walk and talk as if you viewed yourself like a Queen or King. See how you feel and how others around you respond after a solid week. Let me know how it goes. Remember yesterday’s message, you have to encourage yourself!

Self love is the best the love!

Nicole Cherise 

Motivational Monday’s: you have to encourage yourself!

Encourage yourself my dear friends. 

People will try their hardest to belittle you and make you feel worthless but you have to repeat to yourself : I Am Better and I will be Great. 

Self affirmations truly go a long way. If you repeat encouraging words to yourself multiple times a day, eventually great things will come your way. 

So take back yourself and don’t let others tell you any different. Be Victorious friends, failure isn’t an option.

Self love is the best love

Nicole Cherise 

Feel good Friday’s: pushing through life’s obstacles 

Hi all!

When I think about all that I encounter daily, what gives me the most humbling experience is pushing through challenges. Let’s face it, life is and can be unfair. Challenges will arise in your life and some will make you feel like you hit a brick wall. So what do you do? Keep going!

As a MS Warrior, I have days where walking is a difficult task to do. I’ve cried, been angry and had self-pity MOMENTS but they can’t last long. If we feed those negative vibes and energy to ourselves, it will be our new cognitions. So do what you need: pray, meditate, yoga, watch a comedy, go to the gym to blow off steam, write, call someone, speak to a support group or me *wink*, etc. You need to do whatever it takes for you to transition out of that obstacle. 

This is a collage that I made last night and shared to social media.  Could you believe that just three weeks ago I couldn’t use my left leg efficiently and had a limp? Believe it friends, I’m just like you, a fighter. We have to claim victory because we CAN’T lose. 

Keep your chin up and head in the game. No worries, things will get better. Keep going. 

Enjoy your day and Happy 4th of July weekend!

Nicole Cherise

Where is the love Wednesday: stepping out of the box

Hey all! 

In today’s, “Where is the love Wednesday”, I want to discuss stepping out of the box.

Many times I hear people say that they are tired of the types of people they have been dating or I only attract this type of person blah blah blah. Ok, my two cents, if someone finds you attractive that’s exactly what it is, now the type that you give your time and energy to are on you. 

I’m sure many won’t agree but unfortunately the truth hurts. You can’t say I attract only crazy people when that’s not true. You are attractive to a quiet/reserved person, a scholar, an entrepreneur, etc. it’s who YOU decides who can take up your time.

My additional two cents would be to step out of the box. Date someone that you wouldn’t normally give a chance to. You never know what you learn from them and their culture. We ultimately need love, support and loyalty. You never know, that person could have been very close and worth it. In life we all take chances, stepping out of the box could be a great one!

Thanks for reading and following

Nicole Cherise

Motivational Mondays: Stop hating what you aren’t 

  Hey all!

I hope everyone had a good weekend. Mine was pleasant. 

Now we are off to a new week and as you know today is Motivational Monday’s here on my blog.

I saw this quote on Pinterest and I had to share it! This is so true, we are constantly  beating ourselves up because we aren’t who or where we will believe we should be in life. However, do we ever take the moment to say: I’m thankful for what I do have and where I have the potential to go. I do believe that we should not settle or become stagnant in our lives, we should always show growth and work towards improvements. 

Always strive for more, push yourself to take risks. You really don’t know how successful you can become without trying. I’m here for you and if you want to reach out feel free to email me at: nicolecherise723@gmail.com

Thanks for reading!

Nicole Cherise

Feel good Friday’s: when one of your loved ones are battling an illness

Illness, one thing we don’t want to discuss, see or have to deal with. It’s rough to go through an illness and it’s even harder when someone you love is sick. It’s hard for a caregiver and loved ones because they would give anything to take the pain away or get angry that there is Nothing they can do. But there is something you can do.

If they have a rare disease, educate yourself. Even if you have heard of it, gain knowledge of the disease so that you can try to understand what’s happening to his or her body. 

Be supportive to your loved one. They will feel isolated, angry, sad and more. If they need help, do so. Many people (like myself) have pride and won’t ask for help but reassure him or her that you will come over and help even if it’s to do the dishes. You would be surprised how happy your generosity can help. 

Be strong but realize they are strong too. You should be sensitive to them and their needs. Many times someone battling a disease will push their limits but if he or she says that they can do something believe them and let them get their rest. As a person who fights against Multiple Sclerosis, I do push myself and “appear” fine when in reality, I’m not. The strength of my husband and parents are what keeps me going. My family and friends are wonderful as well. They all understand that when I need rest or I’m not feeling well, I can’t always jump and be on the go like I used to. 

I pray they find a cure to the diseases that our loved ones are battling and for our loved ones who have passed away. Until then, cherish your loved ones and just let them remember how much they mean to you because you truly mean the most to them, trust me 🙂

Thanks for reading

Nicole Cherise 

You can’t get mad when someone plays a you on You!

One thing that irks me about people is that it is so easy for people to dish it out but can’t receive it. 

I don’t understand how and why it’s so hard for some to accept the truth about themselves yet they can tell others EVERYTHING that’s wrong with them. 

Just because someone tells you something that you may not like does not mean they are “hating”. Why must it be hate? Are you doing that much with your life that people have to hate you? 

It’s ok, you are special. There is no one else like you but just keep in mind, that if you are critical of others they can be critical of you as well. 

Just my thoughts 

Nicole Cherise 

Where is the love Wednesdays : cheating forgiveness and your partner wanting you to forget

Hey all!

So I was listening to “ask Angela Yee” on the breakfast club this morning and a guy called asking what to do about the lack of love he is receiving from his lady. He was questioning should he leave the relationship or stay and “do him”? Later he revealed that he cheated in the past and she forgave him but has still been cold and distant. 

My response is this: once you have cheated on someone the trust is broken and needs to be repaired. Every time your partner looks at you they could have flashes of you looking and touching another the same way. That is not an easy pill to swallow. However, they looked deep in their hearts and forgave you. 

You MUST be patient with your significant other. You can’t just have this “I said sorry so get over it attitude”. That is another selfish act of you when you do that. We all handle things differently and getting cheated on to some is like grieving because of piece of them died (trust) and things won’t be the same. 

Hope does prevail though. If your partner was able to forgive, I suggest that you do all that is possible so that you are NOT in a position to cheat again, treat your man or woman like the King and Queen that they are, give the security that it is all about you both to move forward, and be PATIENT to just to name a few. If you can’t do this or think it’s too much then let them go. 

On the other side, if you DID decide to forgive your partner for cheating it doesn’t mean you should forget but you do have find a way to move past their indiscretion. I’m not saying the next day you act like nothing has happened but if you throw it in their face everyday maybe you should re-think if you truly forgive them. If it’s too hard it’s ok for it to be a deal breaker no matter how much it hurts. You have to do what’s best for you and your sanity. 

What are your thoughts?

Nicole Cherise