Spending time during the first year of marriage

Hi all!

I wanted to discuss the importance of spending time during  the first year of marriage. Any stage of marriage is very important but many say the hardest is the first year. I believe it’s because two souls are becoming one and learning to juggle the “newness” of marriage to your relationship. 

On 8/9, my husband and I will celebrate 3 years of marriage. We are high school sweethearts and we basically grew up together as a couple. I believe this has helped us during the first year. We are each other’s best friend and loved spending time together. Which brings me to say that for newlyweds: Please spend time with your spouse.

With having a busy schedule from work, we tend to see our co-workers more than our family aka your new husband/wife. So, if you don’t make time for your spouse, what are you truly doing with your time? You must find a balance. Even though you are married it doesn’t mean that you lose your identity or should distant yourself from friends but it would be good to always consider your spouse on some “down time”.  

What are your thoughts? Do you think spending time with your spouse weighs a lot during the first year? 

Thanks all!

Nicole Cherise

Motivational Monday’s

Hi all! 

Thanks for visiting and sharing my blog.

Today is what I like to call in my blog “motivational Monday’s”. This is also apart of the scheduled blog entries that I discussed in a previous post. Today, I want to discuss “Hope”.

What is Hope? I feel hope is the anticipation of a positive outcome for the future. 

This hits close to home for me especially on today. If you have been following my blog, you may know that I was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis (MS) 5 years ago. With this debilitating disease, I find myself in a battle of emotions constantly. On one hand, I remain strong and keep in mind that things could be worse. On the other hand, I’m frustrated with the symptoms and the potential ending result of the disease. Hope is what keeps me grounded. 

I have Hope that scientists will find a cure, I have hope that no more damage will happen to my central nervous system,  I have hope that I may feel normal again. Besides my wonderful support system, having hope, makes me not want to give up even when at times I want to. 

What is hope for you? It may be career, relationship goals, self help. Whatever it may be, try to think positive and not give up. It’s ok to prepare yourself for the not so great events but it’s good to always have hope for a better outcome. 

Take care all!

Nicole Cherise 

Feel good Friday’s!

Hey all! 

Happy Friday to you! Many of us has had a long week and by the time Friday comes we can unwind and start our weekend. 

I can share that the past week, I’ve felt like crap even though I have had been in good spirits. Having a MS diagnosis, isn’t easy just like any other disease invading your body. Living with a disease can truly put you through a world wind however, you don’t have to stay down. You can definitely have your moments when you need to cry or scream but keep pushing people, relief is on the way! 

So cheers to feel good Friday! Be thankful for all that you Do have and also be thankful for the burdens that you Don’t have. Enjoy your weekend beauties! 

Nicole Cherise 

They say let him be a man, then let her be a woman too!

Through out my life I’ve heard many people say “you have let a man be a man”. Now, what does this mean? 

  1. Let him have his male ego. Let him be “macho” or feel like it at least.
  2. When he needs his time, let him do so with the guys, blah blah blah
  3. Let him have responsibility and take control of some situations. 

Do I agree with all the statements above? No, however, I would never disrespect a man’s manhood and I give respect especially when it is returned. 

Now what about women? Does anyone ever say “you have to let her be a woman?” Nope, at least I’ve never heard it before. As a woman, I consider my self intelligent, loving, sensitive, emotional, nurturing, supportive, just to name a few traits. So if I had to give a few suggestions of “let her be a woman” it would be ( my words are not law, so ladies feel free to chime in )

  1. Let a woman vent even if  you think it’s petty or “not that serious”. More than likely we like who we are sharing our thoughts with so just listen.
  2. Don’t make us feel like our feelings don’t matter. Even the roughest/toughest women out there, still have feelings. Don’t laugh at us or place our feelings on a back burner, just because you feel that you would never take whatever we are upset about to the heart. 
  3. Don’t take our love or how we give our love for granted. There is nothing more hurtful than when you give you’re all to your significant other and it’s ignored. 

We are all beautiful creatures and need to be respectful to one another. I must say I am proud to be a woman, so let me be! Lol 🙂 

This topic has been weighing on my mind a lot and since today is “where is the love” Wednesday, I figured why not post it here today? Thanks for reading. If u have any suggestions or would like to chime in please do in the comments section. Thanks guys!!!

-Nicole Cherise 

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“Where is the Love?” Wednesdays

Hey all!

As I stated in a earlier post I will have a blog schedule. Wednesdays will be called “where is the Love?” Wednesday. I will blog about topics regarding all types of relationships-romance, friends, family etc.. 

I may also share my own experiences to certain topics too! I’m excited and I hope you enjoy the read 🙂

-Nicole Cherise 

Blogging schedule

Hey all!

So I’ve been doing some thinking in regards to the delivery of my blog. I need to be more active and the only way I can do that is by having a schedule. I’ve decided that I will post about certain topics on certain days. I believe by doing this, I will be able to keep an audience and you all can also know what to expect. I’m very excited!!!

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The little things

One of my bestfriends came in town to visit my son and I. It was very delightful to spend the day with her. All we did was talk, grab a delicious meal and walked the mall. It may seem like no big deal but it’s the little moments like this that mean so much to me. 

 I feel like we get so consumed with all of the stressors and chaos in life that something as intimate as a telephone conversation or enjoying quality time gets taken for granted. 
We have to do better for our own sanity. It’s only one life and it is short, so try to make each day count! 

-Nicole Cherise