Patience is a virtue

I know we have heard this phrase plenty of times. Our elders say “don’t rush things”, “your time is coming”, or “you have to wait”. Most of the time it could have been a contest we wanted to win or wanted to do something that we were to young to do. Question is now: What about adulthood?

As adults, we work, have responsibilities and want to live a certain life style. We have an attitude that things need to be quick and in our hands immediately but like our elders said “you have to wait”. Just because you have to wait does to mean u sit on a stoop and count sheep, no you have to continue to work hard to have what ever it is you have lined up.

If it’s a relationship that you want to have, don’t worry even though you haven’t met him or her on the first few dates doesn’t mean he or she doesn’t exist. It can be many factors to why you weren’t aligned to meet yet or if you have met, possibly the opportunity isn’t right at that moment. Just don’t give up, keep bettering yourself and it all will work out.

If it’s career decisions, that too will work out. Rather it’s a business you are starting, that dream job or promotion, it will be your turn soon. You will be successful and it all does come together. Keep trying, don’t give up.

Patience is a Virtue….

Experience brings experiences

Experience=experiment and the lessons taught/learned

Haven’t we all been there? We have been told don’t do this or don’t do that but it doesn’t click unless we try it anyway.

I do believe that somethings do need to happen so we can have the experience and hopefully learn from it. So then we can share what we did wrong, reflect and not make the same mistake twice.

Do you agree that experience bring experiences?

Walking away from turmoil

When you’re a child getting into fights were some what the “norm”. If someone hit you, you would hit them back or if someone disrespected your mother, you were ready for war. At what point do you realize that physical contact changes nothing?

In school, if you fight you will get suspended or even expelled. It’s not worth it but as a child you are not mature enough to grasp that.

On your job, if you fight you can get fired and potentially get arrested. I don’t know about you but if that’s a place where you get your income to eat and pay for your place of living, I’d think twice about knocking someone out.

Lastly, fighting in your neighborhood/community. Now that the internet is filled with fights, are you sure you want to be amongst them? Some of you have children, do you want them to see you in a police car due to assault charges? Some careers that people have can result in the lost of certain licenses or certifications once you’ve been arrested… Is it worth it?

It’s all pride my friends. You feel if someone disrespects you that they should be taught a lesson. If you are not in harms way or feel physically threatened, walk away.

At the end of the day, people talk and words do hurt but be smarter and better. No matter how many times you go to battle, that opinion of your enemy never changes. He or she will still call you all the names under the sun even if they have a black eye.

Be better, do better….Walk Away

Cures of Physical Touch

Hey!

I saw an interesting tweet this morning that said cuddling can be a cure for pain just as pain killers are. Hmmm, I don’t know about you but it makes sense to me.

Like babies or a small child, when they hurt themselves or are feeling “under the weather”, seeking comfort from their caregiver adds to the recovery process. They feel safe and secure that whatever the issue is he or she will be fine. I feel this applies to grown-ups as well.

If you are not feeling well rather it be physical, mental or emotionally, seeking the arms of a companion, friend or family member can put you in better spirits. Sometimes, words are not needed to know someone is there for you during a challenging time. Just the embrace of feeling safe, secure and wanted speaks louder than any “I’m sorry this is happening with you” comments.

How does physical touch (hugging, cuddling) make you feel?

What do you look for in a partner?

hey peeps!

As the older we get, many of us begin to want to have a companion/partner/bf/gf/spouse. Many people don’t like to start anything serious with someone else until their careers are in order, or simply because they are not ready. When the time does come for change, when you are ready to share yourself with another, what do you look for?

I’m sure these answers vary from women to men and many confuse needs and wants when choosing a mate.

Basics-Face Value/Appearance
When we meet someone, what is the first thing you think of or see? We see their face and if we establish if we are attracted to them. Many may say it’s shallow to think about looks but let’s be honest, if you have not associated yourself with the person to get to know him or her, how else can you make a judgement?

Education
Do you think education matters? Does this person have to be a high school graduate or is having a higher degree a necessity? Does it really come down to where you are professionally? Do you feel they have to be on the same level or better than you?

Socio-Economic Status and Salary
Does what economic class he or she falls under matter? Does how much money he or she earns play a role? I know this is definitely a touchy subject because by this point if you know this much about a person, there is a possibility that you may be fond of him or her. So if you figure out that this person doesn’t meet your standards, is that a deal breaker?

History
This can be family dynamics, job history, substance abuse and even crime history. I know the history of a person can be debatable because people do rehabilitate and can change for the better however, its possible that old habits can linger around and people may not have the patience for that.

Culture/Beliefs
Many people have different family customs and traditions. The practice of a different religion can be a major reason for people to grow closer or apart. Political views/positions can seal the deal on a perspective mate.

These are just a few decision makers for people in the dating game and partner search. I recommend knowing Your value, knowing what you NEED in a partner, and knowing what you WON’T tolerate or ACCEPT in a potential mate.

Good Luck!!!

Dance in the rain

Have you ever had point in life where you feel like you are on cloud 9? Your’e smiling from ear to eat so much that your cheeks hurt? Then suddenly someone comes and try to burst your bubble? Question is… Do you allow them to?

One thing that is very important is for us to keep our composure and continue to feel happy regardless of what anyone says or thinks.

People will constantly try to rain on your parade but instead of getting frustrated, just continue to dance and sing. No one can shut down your Own happiness but You.

Remember take the wheel of your emotional well-being and continue on with your journey of life. It’s short so there is no time to waste.

Later friends
Nikki Rob., MA

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What role are you Modeling?

I remember in elementary school learning about Role models and leaders of our country. When I wrote about this topic, I’d always write about my parents and Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. I felt my parents were hard workers, made sure all of my needs were met and even supplied me with the “Wants” I desired. In my eyes they paved the way for my success and future.

Now, I do understand that no one is perfect or was raised in a “perfect” home setting but I do believe you either accept it or aim to do better. We all know the saying that the apple doesn’t fall too far from the tree, however every decision you make starts with a Choice.

Take the moment to ask yourself, do you like the role you are modeling? What do you believe your role is? And what is the ideal role you should model?
Please don’t lie to yourself and say that you “have no role or don’t need to be a role model”. Those are lies and negativity that you are projecting to the universe. You are Somebody and there is always someone watching.

Think about it friends. What are you projecting out? and how it could affect those watching you.

Nikki Rob., MA

New Season, New You

So this time of the year a lot of people start their spring cleaning. Many clean their homes, get rid of the old and bring in the new. Many graduations take place, students are entering a new chapter of their lives. New cars are purchased and ahh the joy of the new car scent. Many weddings take place and the scenery of flowers blooming is epic in pictures. Different religions view spring as sacrifice and newness as well.

What about spring cleaning you?
Perhaps it could be a physical, mental or spiritual detox that is necessary? Maybe even a new LOOK? Whatever it is that you decide, let it be good for your own personal growth. Make more room in your mind for positivity. Only let positive like-minded individuals invade your space. Bring on the newness and let go of the baggage. You need better so go out and get it!

HAPPY SPRING

Nikki Rob.

Change of Scenery

Hey guys!

I know I normally make post on Saturdays but I was away for the weekend and currently flying as I type.

Change can be good and so can a change of scenery. 

Now a change of scenery doesn’t have to mean you move physically but it can be your mindset, employment, everyday activities, etc. Whatever a change of scenery means to you can be very beneficially especially if you feel things are becoming routine and you lack interest in you’re usual day to day stuff. 

Go for it! Take a chance and do something you possibly never thought of doing. You never know it can be a great start to new beginnings.

Good luck!

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