They say let him be a man, then let her be a woman too!

Through out my life I’ve heard many people say “you have let a man be a man”. Now, what does this mean? 

  1. Let him have his male ego. Let him be “macho” or feel like it at least.
  2. When he needs his time, let him do so with the guys, blah blah blah
  3. Let him have responsibility and take control of some situations. 

Do I agree with all the statements above? No, however, I would never disrespect a man’s manhood and I give respect especially when it is returned. 

Now what about women? Does anyone ever say “you have to let her be a woman?” Nope, at least I’ve never heard it before. As a woman, I consider my self intelligent, loving, sensitive, emotional, nurturing, supportive, just to name a few traits. So if I had to give a few suggestions of “let her be a woman” it would be ( my words are not law, so ladies feel free to chime in )

  1. Let a woman vent even if  you think it’s petty or “not that serious”. More than likely we like who we are sharing our thoughts with so just listen.
  2. Don’t make us feel like our feelings don’t matter. Even the roughest/toughest women out there, still have feelings. Don’t laugh at us or place our feelings on a back burner, just because you feel that you would never take whatever we are upset about to the heart. 
  3. Don’t take our love or how we give our love for granted. There is nothing more hurtful than when you give you’re all to your significant other and it’s ignored. 

We are all beautiful creatures and need to be respectful to one another. I must say I am proud to be a woman, so let me be! Lol 🙂 

This topic has been weighing on my mind a lot and since today is “where is the love” Wednesday, I figured why not post it here today? Thanks for reading. If u have any suggestions or would like to chime in please do in the comments section. Thanks guys!!!

-Nicole Cherise 


“Where is the Love?” Wednesdays

Hey all!

As I stated in a earlier post I will have a blog schedule. Wednesdays will be called “where is the Love?” Wednesday. I will blog about topics regarding all types of relationships-romance, friends, family etc.. 

I may also share my own experiences to certain topics too! I’m excited and I hope you enjoy the read 🙂

-Nicole Cherise 

Blogging schedule

Hey all!

So I’ve been doing some thinking in regards to the delivery of my blog. I need to be more active and the only way I can do that is by having a schedule. I’ve decided that I will post about certain topics on certain days. I believe by doing this, I will be able to keep an audience and you all can also know what to expect. I’m very excited!!!

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The little things

One of my bestfriends came in town to visit my son and I. It was very delightful to spend the day with her. All we did was talk, grab a delicious meal and walked the mall. It may seem like no big deal but it’s the little moments like this that mean so much to me. 

 I feel like we get so consumed with all of the stressors and chaos in life that something as intimate as a telephone conversation or enjoying quality time gets taken for granted. 
We have to do better for our own sanity. It’s only one life and it is short, so try to make each day count! 

-Nicole Cherise 

What does success mean to you?

We often talk out being rich and successful yet many of us haven’t scratched the surface to what that requires. I too, can admit that I want to be successful and do what my heart desires like many. The question becomes, “why aren’t you living your successful life like the next up and coming person?” The answer: Committment. I was listening to a video by Ms. Marshawn Evans of and she made perfect sense. 

Think about the things in life for you that are going great… More than likely it’s something we all are committed to doing. Now think about that one aspect of your life that isn’t how you expect it should be, it’s very possible that it may be something you are not committed to and fear is apart of that void. 

I have so many ideas and I know in my heart and soul what I’m meant to do but the fear of failing always creeps onto my shoulder. However, you know the difference between us and those who are entrepreneurs? Having the fear and then stepping out on faith. When you give it your all aka “Committment”, you are nervous of the outcome but you also realize you can never give up and that’s when you take that leap! 

We are all made for greatness and we will get there. What’s your passion? Or what would make you successful?