You can’t get mad when someone plays a you on You!

One thing that irks me about people is that it is so easy for people to dish it out but can’t receive it. 

I don’t understand how and why it’s so hard for some to accept the truth about themselves yet they can tell others EVERYTHING that’s wrong with them. 

Just because someone tells you something that you may not like does not mean they are “hating”. Why must it be hate? Are you doing that much with your life that people have to hate you? 

It’s ok, you are special. There is no one else like you but just keep in mind, that if you are critical of others they can be critical of you as well. 

Just my thoughts 

Nicole Cherise 

Where is the love Wednesdays : cheating forgiveness and your partner wanting you to forget

Hey all!

So I was listening to “ask Angela Yee” on the breakfast club this morning and a guy called asking what to do about the lack of love he is receiving from his lady. He was questioning should he leave the relationship or stay and “do him”? Later he revealed that he cheated in the past and she forgave him but has still been cold and distant. 

My response is this: once you have cheated on someone the trust is broken and needs to be repaired. Every time your partner looks at you they could have flashes of you looking and touching another the same way. That is not an easy pill to swallow. However, they looked deep in their hearts and forgave you. 

You MUST be patient with your significant other. You can’t just have this “I said sorry so get over it attitude”. That is another selfish act of you when you do that. We all handle things differently and getting cheated on to some is like grieving because of piece of them died (trust) and things won’t be the same. 

Hope does prevail though. If your partner was able to forgive, I suggest that you do all that is possible so that you are NOT in a position to cheat again, treat your man or woman like the King and Queen that they are, give the security that it is all about you both to move forward, and be PATIENT to just to name a few. If you can’t do this or think it’s too much then let them go. 

On the other side, if you DID decide to forgive your partner for cheating it doesn’t mean you should forget but you do have find a way to move past their indiscretion. I’m not saying the next day you act like nothing has happened but if you throw it in their face everyday maybe you should re-think if you truly forgive them. If it’s too hard it’s ok for it to be a deal breaker no matter how much it hurts. You have to do what’s best for you and your sanity. 

What are your thoughts?

Nicole Cherise 

The grass is greener

Hey all

Many say this phrase often. We want more or we think things are better than what we have. 

I’ve come to a point in life where I see that the grass is greener where it’s being well taken care of. Give it the seeds, water it and ask God for sunshine, you will have it. 

You want what the next person has? Their grass “looks” so green? What if you found out that it’s spray? Or that it’s not even real grass?

Be happy with what you have, nourish your craft, relationship, most importantly, YOURSELF! Things will be great!

Nicole Cherise 

Daydreaming 

Daydreaming,

Deep in my thoughts. Thinking of the master plan…

I want to fly high above the clouds

It would be perfect for hubby and I to conquer the world as King and Queen and set the throne for our little prince

Not a care in the world, no sadness, no pain, no sickness, just pure bliss… Sounds like Heaven to me. 

*snaps* 

Sigh… It can be and it will be. Need the pen and paper to create the gateway to this successful journey  

 

Nicole Cherise

Motivational Monday’s: things will get better

   I know at times we all feel like we are up against a wall with no where to turn or run to. Please believe that relief is on the way. Sometimes when things are falling apart, it’s possible that they are actually falling into place. 

Keep your chin up and don’t give up!

Nicole Cherise

Feel good Friday’s: my blessings

hey guys! 

With all the craziness happening in the world, I Feel good because of my blessings. 

I’m blessed because when I awake, I have the ability to see. I wake in the right state of mind and I’m able use my arms and legs appropriately. I have a wonderful husband, a smart 6 month old son, family and friends who love me dearly. God is truly amazing and words can’t express that enough. 

What are you thankful for or what makes you feel good?

Nicole Cherise 

My heart aches

I’m beyond upset about the racist, terrorist shooting at an AME church in Charleston, SC. 

Ruff plotted for 6 months to start a race war. The members were in a prayer meeting and nine of them lost their lives to this horrible human. To add insult to this devastation, some news reports REFUSE to address that this was about Race. Huh?? How does someone say “I’m here to kill black people” not be about race? 

I too, attend church like many others and this truly scared me. This can happen any where and with any religion and it is wrong. I’m keeping the families of the victims, the church,the Charleston community, and our country in prayer. 

Nicole Cherise

Where is the love Wednesdays: picking your battles

Hey everyone! It’s Hump Day but on my blog it’s “Where is the Love? Wednesdays”. Today’s topic is picking your battles.

When you and your significant other have decided to have courtship; you’ve decided that you both are committed  and are working towards getting engaged then married. This time period you both are madly in love, spend plenty of time together and have learned each other. When I say learned each other I’m referring to knowing:

  1. What he or she likes/dislikes
  2. Their strengths and imperfections 
  3. Their goals in life (family,career, personal etc..)
  4. You also continue to see the beauty in him or her and the not so beautiful aspect as well. 

With that being noted, couples will clearly bump heads about things. Even the “perfect pair” will have arguments. Rather it’s big or small, arguments will come but which ones are worth having is up to you. I always advise friends to pick your battles in their relationship. The last thing you want is to be feuding with your partner 60% of your time shared especially when in two weeks you wont truly remember why the frustrations took place. 

You want to be able to have peace with the love of your life for sanity purposes too. Think about it, people every day will try to knock you down and belittle you, the last thing you need is to be at war with your sweetheart non-stop. Therefore, choosing your battles  is vital during these times. If that means you may have to take a walk, blow off some steam at the gym, say a silent prayer to be more calm so be it. Do what you need to cause less friction in your relationship so that you can effectively communicate with your other half.

I hope these tips help. Thanks for reading friends!

Nicole Cherise 

Dont apologize for your blessings or greatness 

Hey all!!

Today, I want to discuss what to do when someone tries make you feel bad for the great things happening in your life. 

We have all heard the phrase, “misery loves company”. It’s very real and true and unfortunately it can be from those close to you. You can come with the best news; that promotion you have been waiting on, ideas to start a business, getting pregnant, engaged, a home, yet they still find a way to add their complaints and make you feel bad for sharing. Some even discuss their sadness of why that can’t be them, a real guilt trip. Did it ever make you feel bad?

I can say that this has happened to me on some occasions . It seemed like every time something good was happening in my life, there was always that one person that made me feel like ” am I bragging?” or is she giving me shade because she’s mad? Either way, it wasn’t a good feeling and I shouldn’t have to feel like apologizing for the blessings I was receiving. 

So what are some tips you should do if this occurs :

  1. Don’t let a person rain on your parade. Continue to keep shining and bring more sun shine if you have to. People hate to see you happy, so keep succeeding and give them a reason to be mad. 
  2. If you want to go the encouraging  route, let them know that their time is coming and to be patient. 
  3. If the negative vibes is too much, close the door on that friendship/relationship. If they truly love you as a person, they would Not make you feel bad for the greatness that is going on in your life. 

I hope these points help friends. Continue to work hard, and accomplish your goals. The real supportive people know that when one is winning, we ALL are winning. 

Thanks for reading, re-blogging, sharing and following!

Nicole Cherise