When it comes to life’s downfalls we are used to concentrating on the negatives. What about the good? Even with the craziness that we encounter each day, there must be “something” that was ok.
Try this exercise:
1. jot down all the significant events that took place during your day
2. on a scale of 1-5 (1-horrible 2-so/so 3-ok 4-good 5-great) score all the events
3. take the events that scored 3 or better and re-read them
If the amount of events that scored 3 or better out weighs the events that were lower than 3, try to have a better attitude about your day.
This will not be easy but can help. Train your mind to seek positivity. Remember Attitude affects altitude.
We are not going through life alone. Even those who may keep their circle small, are still connected or influenced by someone other than themselves.
If you plan to become successful, you have to think of those you surround yourself with or bounce ideas off of. Think of the expression “birds of a feather flock together” or “you are the company you keep”.
Think of 5 people that you speak to the most every day……..
Got them? Those 5 people have an influence in your life the most. Are you happy with your choices? If your answer is No to some or all, I suggest you begin to associate yourself with individuals who can have a positive impact or who share similar life goals.
Challenge yourself to think about your goals and how your associates have an impact on you? Do you settle? Are you at a stand still? Have you placed your goals on the back burner? Think about it
When I was in college I studied psychology. Out of all the famous psychologist we studied I really liked Beck! He practiced CBT which is cognitive behavioral therapy.
I do believe that if you change your way of thinking, your behaviors can and will eventually change. This leads back to my first post, it starts with your attitude.
Here’s a situation: Sally has an essay presentation to do for a scholarship. Sally is a good writer every paper she gets a B+ or better. Unfortunately, Sally doesn’t apply because she has anxiety about competing with others for the scholarship.
Does this sound familiar? Maybe it’s a job promotion, a Grant approval, legal or medical request, etc.. We all have been there. What I suggest is exploring CBT therapy. But let’s say going to a therapist isn’t your “thing”, do the good ole pro’s vs. cons.
CBT will ask Sally to bring realistic and positive cognitive thoughts. We could come to place where Sally believes she does deserve a chance to win the scholarship and should give herself a chance. Sally, if not confident in her essay draft can go to her favorite English professor or writing center for some feedback. Also, even if she is not chosen it does not reflect on her writing or her character.
Pro’s- being chosen for the scholarship.
Feeling great for herself and accomplishments.
Helps financially with school, so less student loan debt.
Con’s- missing out on possibly being chosen for the scholarship.
Having to take out student loans.
Feeling regrets which could lead to more anxiety.
People aren’t born with high self esteem it is something that is developed. Over time, it does improve as long as you are willing to have more positive attitudes/thoughts and a less negative approach.
Where do you fall between the two? Are you taking strides day by day in Life’s journey? or is Life simply passing you by?
We are all in this race to reach success, however, there are some that seem to be in the front line while others are straggling behind. Dont let life pass you by. Pick up the pace.
How can you pick up the pace you ask? I say try by changing your attititude first.