Friends with benefits… Is this really possible?
Many people believe it’s possible to do this and if it’s works, good for you. In my opinion, I don’t believe these type of “arrangements” work. I believe that the following could happen:
- The friendship will fizzle
- One person may develop stronger feelings
- Drama with other people your “friend” may be seeking.
However, on the flip side, many couples start off this way because of previous relationships. Both people know what they want but are taking their time before committing to titles and the boundaries of a relationship.
If you are participating in a “friends with benefits” situation, make sure you are honest with yourself and each other. Life is short and you do not need to waste precious moments on things that are not meaningful.
What are your thoughts?
*sorry for the late post guys!*
If you are not happy about something in your life, you have 2 choices: Accept it or Change it.
It seems hard but it’s the truth and the reality.
I can admit that lately I’ve been going up and down with my weight and it’s made me feel down about myself. However, the reality is this: I have a choice to accept the way I look and feel sad or change it by doing what I need to do so that I can be happy.
What goals are you trying to make but it just seems like it’s impossible? A career move, your dream home or fitness goal? Trust, if it was meant to be easy, it would be done by all. Making the choice to change also means that you need positive energy surrounding you. Do not be around Debbie downers or doubters. No worries you Can do this! I believe in you but you Need to believe in You.
Let’s encourage each other daily, we will make the best choice.
Hello to the start of the weekend!
The weather is suppose to be beautiful and that automatically puts me in good spirits.
What makes you feel good? Whatever that may be, I suggest incorporating it in your life daily. When we feel good, we tend to gravitate towards positive energy. When we deal with stress and aggravation, all it does is make us sick, gain weight and it puts us in a sour mood.
So, light a candle, listen to your favorite music, take a walk, travel etc… Whatever it takes, we need it.
This is very true friends. When I know someone is going through a big dilemma, I asked them, “how do you see yourself?”
How we view ourselves is the beginning to how others will view us, treat us and the level of respect that will be shown to us. it also reveals how we handle things.
Don’t believe it? Ok, I challenge you to walk and talk as if you viewed yourself like a Queen or King. See how you feel and how others around you respond after a solid week. Let me know how it goes. Remember yesterday’s message, you have to encourage yourself!
Self love is the best the love!
Encourage yourself my dear friends.
People will try their hardest to belittle you and make you feel worthless but you have to repeat to yourself : I Am Better and I will be Great.
Self affirmations truly go a long way. If you repeat encouraging words to yourself multiple times a day, eventually great things will come your way.
So take back yourself and don’t let others tell you any different. Be Victorious friends, failure isn’t an option.
Self love is the best love
When I think about all that I encounter daily, what gives me the most humbling experience is pushing through challenges. Let’s face it, life is and can be unfair. Challenges will arise in your life and some will make you feel like you hit a brick wall. So what do you do? Keep going!
As a MS Warrior, I have days where walking is a difficult task to do. I’ve cried, been angry and had self-pity MOMENTS but they can’t last long. If we feed those negative vibes and energy to ourselves, it will be our new cognitions. So do what you need: pray, meditate, yoga, watch a comedy, go to the gym to blow off steam, write, call someone, speak to a support group or me *wink*, etc. You need to do whatever it takes for you to transition out of that obstacle.
This is a collage that I made last night and shared to social media. Could you believe that just three weeks ago I couldn’t use my left leg efficiently and had a limp? Believe it friends, I’m just like you, a fighter. We have to claim victory because we CAN’T lose.
Keep your chin up and head in the game. No worries, things will get better. Keep going.
Enjoy your day and Happy 4th of July weekend!
In today’s, “Where is the love Wednesday”, I want to discuss stepping out of the box.
Many times I hear people say that they are tired of the types of people they have been dating or I only attract this type of person blah blah blah. Ok, my two cents, if someone finds you attractive that’s exactly what it is, now the type that you give your time and energy to are on you.
I’m sure many won’t agree but unfortunately the truth hurts. You can’t say I attract only crazy people when that’s not true. You are attractive to a quiet/reserved person, a scholar, an entrepreneur, etc. it’s who YOU decides who can take up your time.
My additional two cents would be to step out of the box. Date someone that you wouldn’t normally give a chance to. You never know what you learn from them and their culture. We ultimately need love, support and loyalty. You never know, that person could have been very close and worth it. In life we all take chances, stepping out of the box could be a great one!
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One thing that irks me about people is that it is so easy for people to dish it out but can’t receive it.
I don’t understand how and why it’s so hard for some to accept the truth about themselves yet they can tell others EVERYTHING that’s wrong with them.
Just because someone tells you something that you may not like does not mean they are “hating”. Why must it be hate? Are you doing that much with your life that people have to hate you?
It’s ok, you are special. There is no one else like you but just keep in mind, that if you are critical of others they can be critical of you as well.
Just my thoughts