A time of need

ive been away for a while because of the loss of my late father. My heart is broken however, I know over time, his love will place the pieces back together again. The following is a tribute I wrote the day after he passed away and I read it his “celebration of life” service.  Thank you for being patient while I’ve been away grieving.

Job well done Daddy

Words can’t express the amount of love I have for you. You are a true gentleman, caring, loving and Hard working. I’m truly blessed to have a father like you. You made sure that Jermaine, mommy and I were taken care of we never had to “want” for anything. You helped many from family, friends and even strangers. Job well done Daddy
Anyone who knew Billy Davenport, knows he was a jokester. He joked and joked and joked. Every day at work at least one person told me: your dad pulled a prank on me, or your dad was messing with me then once I looked at him and said Daddy is that true? he would straightened up and say “huh? not me”. That’s just the type of man he was, he wanted people to be happy and laugh. Job well done daddy. 
People also knew he was a man of faith. Deacon Davenport will always be known for his humble services at church as well as in the Hempstead community. Job well done daddy. 
As husband and father. He has been an amazing husband and life partner for 44 years. He treated our mother like the queen that she is. He gave me the example of what I needed and found in my husband Stephen. He supported Jermaine and I and raised us to the best of his ability. He wished he was perfect but to us he was the perfect father for us. We turned out pretty good if you ask me. Job well done daddy.
You are a great grandpa. Every Time we spoke it was always how’s my son? I’d say Jermaine? He’d say no the baby! Daddy, Stephen Jr loved your presence and I see you in him every day. He laughed and giggled with you and rarely cried. He is truly your little buddy. I promise that He will know just how much he meant to you as he grows older. Job well done daddy. 
I close by saying thank you for the calls, texts, kind words of sympathy and experiences you had with daddy. I’m happy that you were able to get glimpse of what our family got to experience every moment and every day shared with him. 

Daddy I love you. Thank you for showing me love and how to love. I’m proud to stand here as your daughter. You are forever in my heart and I will miss you until we meet again. Job well done Daddy.

Thank you

Feel good Friday’s : thoughts on my recent 30th birthday and thoughts of where we “should” be in life.

Hi all!!

So on yesterday, July 23rd, I turned 30 years old. In the past, the older I turned, I either was emotional because I felt I wasn’t where I was “suppose” to be or extremely excited. As I looked in the mirror yesterday I said to myself that I didn’t look a day over 25! Lol so my face was in constant bliss.  

 A few days before, a coworker said to me, “Nikki at 30, you have accomplished so much. You are married, have a son, job and your own place. Much better than it was for me when I turned 30. I just thought I’d be in a different place in life”. This “place” in life and where we are “supposed” to be is difficult and is not fair to ourselves.

I’ve done this  when I turned 25. I was sad because I felt that things weren’t mapped out like I wanted them to be and life was a tornado in my head. I wasn’t engaged yet ( Steve proposed that Christmas), still lived at home, not the career I wanted, and was recently diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis. However, as time went on I realized that everything happened for a reason. Things also fall into place when they are supposed to. People jump into marriages, live together, have children or constantly make compulsive decisions all because it’s what they believe they should do but not necessarily ready for. We get pressure from family, friends, society and ourselves when we should just relax and let things happen naturally. Now don’t get me wrong, do I believe it’s wrong to have plans and goals? No not at all, you should strive for greatness, but don’t beat yourself up about it. 

So I say this in close, things will happen at the right time. It may not be YOUR “perfect” time but it will come. In the mean time, love yourself and what you have now!

Nicole Cherise 

Where is the love Wednesdays : cheating forgiveness and your partner wanting you to forget

Hey all!

So I was listening to “ask Angela Yee” on the breakfast club this morning and a guy called asking what to do about the lack of love he is receiving from his lady. He was questioning should he leave the relationship or stay and “do him”? Later he revealed that he cheated in the past and she forgave him but has still been cold and distant. 

My response is this: once you have cheated on someone the trust is broken and needs to be repaired. Every time your partner looks at you they could have flashes of you looking and touching another the same way. That is not an easy pill to swallow. However, they looked deep in their hearts and forgave you. 

You MUST be patient with your significant other. You can’t just have this “I said sorry so get over it attitude”. That is another selfish act of you when you do that. We all handle things differently and getting cheated on to some is like grieving because of piece of them died (trust) and things won’t be the same. 

Hope does prevail though. If your partner was able to forgive, I suggest that you do all that is possible so that you are NOT in a position to cheat again, treat your man or woman like the King and Queen that they are, give the security that it is all about you both to move forward, and be PATIENT to just to name a few. If you can’t do this or think it’s too much then let them go. 

On the other side, if you DID decide to forgive your partner for cheating it doesn’t mean you should forget but you do have find a way to move past their indiscretion. I’m not saying the next day you act like nothing has happened but if you throw it in their face everyday maybe you should re-think if you truly forgive them. If it’s too hard it’s ok for it to be a deal breaker no matter how much it hurts. You have to do what’s best for you and your sanity. 

What are your thoughts?

Nicole Cherise 

The grass is greener

Hey all

Many say this phrase often. We want more or we think things are better than what we have. 

I’ve come to a point in life where I see that the grass is greener where it’s being well taken care of. Give it the seeds, water it and ask God for sunshine, you will have it. 

You want what the next person has? Their grass “looks” so green? What if you found out that it’s spray? Or that it’s not even real grass?

Be happy with what you have, nourish your craft, relationship, most importantly, YOURSELF! Things will be great!

Nicole Cherise