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Where is the love Wednesdays : friends that are jealous

Hey guys! Sorry for the late post. Today has been pretty busy but I’m  here now!  Today’s topic is : friends that are jealous.

We all know that jealousy is an unfortunate trait that we all may have at some point in life, however, is it appropriate in friendships?

Jealousy- wanting what some one has. Many throw the phrases ” ohh I’m jealous” or “I’m jelly right now” in a joking manner and it could be in the best regards. However, On the other hand, there are people who are upset and really mad that they don’t or can’t have what you have. 

In my opinion, friends that are genuine would Not be seriously jealous of your progress or possessions. I’ve always had an attitude  that if one of my friends did well, we all did well. There is no need to be mad or down that certain things hasn’t happened for me because I believe what can happen for one, can happen for me as well. We all have choices and our outlook on ourselves are important. 

If you are a jealous friend, please stop. While you are busy being jealous, you are missing out on the blessings coming your way. So instead of being jealous, tell yourself ” when it’s my turn, I will be as happy as my friend is. I’m happy for him/her and I’m looking forward to us both winning”. Keep the good vibe rolling friends. 

Nicole Cherise 

Where is the love Wednesday’s: friends with benefits 

Friends with benefits… Is this really possible?

Many people believe it’s possible to do this and if it’s works, good for you. In my opinion, I don’t believe these type of “arrangements” work. I believe that the following could happen: 

  1. The friendship will fizzle
  2. One person may develop stronger feelings
  3. Drama with other people your “friend” may be seeking.

However, on the flip side, many couples start off this way because of previous relationships. Both people know what they want but are taking their time before committing to titles and the boundaries of a relationship. 

If you are participating in a “friends with benefits” situation, make sure you are honest with yourself and each other. Life is short and you do not need to waste precious moments on things that are not meaningful.

What are your thoughts?

*sorry for the late post guys!*

Nicole Cherise 

Motivational Monday’s: 2 choices

If you are not happy about something in your life, you have 2 choices: Accept it or Change it.

It seems hard but it’s the truth and the reality.

I can admit that lately I’ve been going up and down with my weight and it’s made me feel down about myself. However, the reality is this: I have a choice to accept the way I look and feel sad or change it by doing what I need to do so that I can be happy. 

What goals are you trying to make but it just seems like it’s impossible? A career move, your dream home or fitness goal? Trust, if it was meant to be easy, it would be done by all. Making the choice to change also means that you need positive energy surrounding you. Do not be around Debbie downers or doubters. No worries you Can do this! I believe in you but you Need to believe in You. 

Let’s encourage each other daily, we will make the best choice.

Nicole Cherise

what you think of you is Your choice 

  This is very true friends. When I know someone is going through a big dilemma, I asked them, “how do you see yourself?” 
How we view ourselves is the beginning to how others will view us, treat us and the level of respect that will be shown to us. it also reveals how we handle things. 

Don’t believe it? Ok, I challenge you to walk and talk as if you viewed yourself like a Queen or King. See how you feel and how others around you respond after a solid week. Let me know how it goes. Remember yesterday’s message, you have to encourage yourself!

Self love is the best the love!

Nicole Cherise 

Motivational Monday’s: you have to encourage yourself!

Encourage yourself my dear friends. 

People will try their hardest to belittle you and make you feel worthless but you have to repeat to yourself : I Am Better and I will be Great. 

Self affirmations truly go a long way. If you repeat encouraging words to yourself multiple times a day, eventually great things will come your way. 

So take back yourself and don’t let others tell you any different. Be Victorious friends, failure isn’t an option.

Self love is the best love

Nicole Cherise 

Where is the love Wednesday: stepping out of the box

Hey all! 

In today’s, “Where is the love Wednesday”, I want to discuss stepping out of the box.

Many times I hear people say that they are tired of the types of people they have been dating or I only attract this type of person blah blah blah. Ok, my two cents, if someone finds you attractive that’s exactly what it is, now the type that you give your time and energy to are on you. 

I’m sure many won’t agree but unfortunately the truth hurts. You can’t say I attract only crazy people when that’s not true. You are attractive to a quiet/reserved person, a scholar, an entrepreneur, etc. it’s who YOU decides who can take up your time.

My additional two cents would be to step out of the box. Date someone that you wouldn’t normally give a chance to. You never know what you learn from them and their culture. We ultimately need love, support and loyalty. You never know, that person could have been very close and worth it. In life we all take chances, stepping out of the box could be a great one!

Thanks for reading and following

Nicole Cherise

Motivational Mondays: Stop hating what you aren’t 

  Hey all!

I hope everyone had a good weekend. Mine was pleasant. 

Now we are off to a new week and as you know today is Motivational Monday’s here on my blog.

I saw this quote on Pinterest and I had to share it! This is so true, we are constantly  beating ourselves up because we aren’t who or where we will believe we should be in life. However, do we ever take the moment to say: I’m thankful for what I do have and where I have the potential to go. I do believe that we should not settle or become stagnant in our lives, we should always show growth and work towards improvements. 

Always strive for more, push yourself to take risks. You really don’t know how successful you can become without trying. I’m here for you and if you want to reach out feel free to email me at: nicolecherise723@gmail.com

Thanks for reading!

Nicole Cherise

Where is the love Wednesdays : cheating forgiveness and your partner wanting you to forget

Hey all!

So I was listening to “ask Angela Yee” on the breakfast club this morning and a guy called asking what to do about the lack of love he is receiving from his lady. He was questioning should he leave the relationship or stay and “do him”? Later he revealed that he cheated in the past and she forgave him but has still been cold and distant. 

My response is this: once you have cheated on someone the trust is broken and needs to be repaired. Every time your partner looks at you they could have flashes of you looking and touching another the same way. That is not an easy pill to swallow. However, they looked deep in their hearts and forgave you. 

You MUST be patient with your significant other. You can’t just have this “I said sorry so get over it attitude”. That is another selfish act of you when you do that. We all handle things differently and getting cheated on to some is like grieving because of piece of them died (trust) and things won’t be the same. 

Hope does prevail though. If your partner was able to forgive, I suggest that you do all that is possible so that you are NOT in a position to cheat again, treat your man or woman like the King and Queen that they are, give the security that it is all about you both to move forward, and be PATIENT to just to name a few. If you can’t do this or think it’s too much then let them go. 

On the other side, if you DID decide to forgive your partner for cheating it doesn’t mean you should forget but you do have find a way to move past their indiscretion. I’m not saying the next day you act like nothing has happened but if you throw it in their face everyday maybe you should re-think if you truly forgive them. If it’s too hard it’s ok for it to be a deal breaker no matter how much it hurts. You have to do what’s best for you and your sanity. 

What are your thoughts?

Nicole Cherise