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Where is the love Wednesdays: no compliments for being an adult

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Hey everyone!

Happy Wednesday! Today’s topic is “no compliments for being an adult”. 
It’s sad to me when I hear people brag about things that should be a given, such as having a job, a place to live, vehicles and a for having a positive attitude. What’s even more sad is when people talk about a prospect mate based on “being an adult” as if it’s a luxury. Is this truly what our society has come to? I remember a time where people would brag about their mate being doctors, lawyers and them driving a Mercedes Benz etc. Now the bragging is: “Nikki he has a job and drives a car”. I understand that we all have different lifestyles and situations, but after 30 years old that’s not a big deal. I am not trying to be a “Debbie downer” on anyone but I just wished it was more to talk about when others are finding a mate. 
What are your thoughts? Is this truly what it’s like in the dating scene now? Have you found yourself doing this as well? Speak on it. 
Nicole Cherise 

Motavional mondays: making “to do” lists

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Hey People!
I hope you all had a wonderful weekend and you are enjoying your Monday so far. I’m curious to know, how many of you do a “to do” list?

I’ve read multiple articles, blogs, and tips from successful people and they all create a “to do” list at night for the next day. 

By creating a list, it helps you become more organized, and you’re able to set your pace for the day. I plan to incorporate this into my life, especially during the work week. I feel that with the busyness of life, we actually forget to complete certain tasks and it may feel as if we have gone through a whirlpool during the day. If we can create a list for the grocery store because we want to stay focused with our spending, then we could all benefit from having a daily “to do” list.

Would you all like to try it?

Has anyone ever done this? Or is anyone currently practicing this skill? Let me know!

Nicole Cherise 

Feel good Friday’s 

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We have to feel good not only physically but mentally and emotionally too. 

This past month has been a roller coaster of emotions for me because of the sudden death of my father. Do I feel I will ever be the same? No because a piece of me isn’t here on earth anymore, however I’m stronger.  

God knew exactly what He was doing with me battling MS, becoming a wife and a mother. In my relationship with God, I truly feel He knew that I had to go through some obstacles so that I would be prepared for one of the biggest obstacles to face. On that same note, He knew what type man I needed to be my rock, to be strong for me when I can’t at the moment. I thank God every day for my husband, Stephen. He knew that our son would have such a great personality that whenever I get upset or I’m not feeling well, I would automatically smile and feel joy. 

I’m not 100% myself, however little by little, I am getting stronger in all categories. What about you all? 

How do you feel physically, mentally and emotionally? 

Nicole Cherise

Motivational Monday’s: be Brave

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At some point in our lives we will hit that brick wall. We may feel like there are no corners to turn or no way to climb ourselves out. This feeling may be due to illness, death, relationship issues, financial burdens, jobs etc.. Things don’t just go away however, be brave enough to buckle your boot straps and to face your problem head on. Will things be easy? Of course not but it won’t break you. We are stronger than we think. Please believe a shift will come your way, stay strong. 

Nicole Cherise

Feel good Friday’s 

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Have you felt worry or confusion about your current circumstances?

I can say as someone who battles MS, I remind myself that things will getter better even when I feel that I’m not ok. We are warriors not victims and don’t let anyone tell you different. When I hear the word victim, I think of pitty and the attitude of “why me?”. Reality is that if something doesn’t happen to us, it’s a possibility that it could happen to a loved one. 

To feel good is to start from within. Try to have a positive attitude, do things that make you happy and surround yourself with others who make life more enjoyable. Do not claim defeat and do not give up on yourself. You are stronger than you think!

-Nicole Cherise 

Where is the love Wednesday: loyalty

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How much does loyalty mean to you? Do you live by the loyalty code? Are you Loyal?

Time and time again, I hear people say “loyalty outweighs everything” or “blood makes you related but loyalty makes you family”. I have to say that my loyalty lies with my family and closest friends. I’m not a confrontational person, however, if you disrespect them then you just disrespected me. I have their back and they have mine so the loyalty is reciprocated. 

What about those who show loyalty but it’s not given back? We all have been there. That family member who always needs you but turns ship when you need them; that childhood friend who always disappears when dark times happen; the “love” of your life who claims they hold you down but is disrespectful on many levels; the employer who promised a promotion  but it never happened. It truly hurts and is frustrating.

Stay true to those who are true to you back. Like Drake says ” know yourself, know your worth”. How do you Know someone is loyal? They are loyal when you don’t have any doubts in your heart about him or her. 

-Nicole Cherise 

Where is the love Wednesday’s: friends with benefits 

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Friends with benefits… Is this really possible?

Many people believe it’s possible to do this and if it’s works, good for you. In my opinion, I don’t believe these type of “arrangements” work. I believe that the following could happen: 

  1. The friendship will fizzle
  2. One person may develop stronger feelings
  3. Drama with other people your “friend” may be seeking.

However, on the flip side, many couples start off this way because of previous relationships. Both people know what they want but are taking their time before committing to titles and the boundaries of a relationship. 

If you are participating in a “friends with benefits” situation, make sure you are honest with yourself and each other. Life is short and you do not need to waste precious moments on things that are not meaningful.

What are your thoughts?

*sorry for the late post guys!*

Nicole Cherise 

Feel good Friday’s: Help yourself feel good

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Hello to the start of the weekend!

The weather is suppose to be beautiful and that automatically puts me in good spirits. 

What makes you feel good? Whatever that may be, I suggest incorporating it in your life daily. When we feel good, we tend to gravitate towards positive energy. When we deal with stress and aggravation, all it does is make us sick, gain weight  and it puts us in a sour mood.

So, light a candle, listen to your favorite music,  take a walk, travel etc… Whatever it takes, we need it. 

Nicole Cherise 

You can’t get mad when someone plays a you on You!

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One thing that irks me about people is that it is so easy for people to dish it out but can’t receive it. 

I don’t understand how and why it’s so hard for some to accept the truth about themselves yet they can tell others EVERYTHING that’s wrong with them. 

Just because someone tells you something that you may not like does not mean they are “hating”. Why must it be hate? Are you doing that much with your life that people have to hate you? 

It’s ok, you are special. There is no one else like you but just keep in mind, that if you are critical of others they can be critical of you as well. 

Just my thoughts 

Nicole Cherise 

The grass is greener

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Hey all

Many say this phrase often. We want more or we think things are better than what we have. 

I’ve come to a point in life where I see that the grass is greener where it’s being well taken care of. Give it the seeds, water it and ask God for sunshine, you will have it. 

You want what the next person has? Their grass “looks” so green? What if you found out that it’s spray? Or that it’s not even real grass?

Be happy with what you have, nourish your craft, relationship, most importantly, YOURSELF! Things will be great!

Nicole Cherise