I always had the idea that if I truly wanted my husband to change, that he would no longer be the man that I fell in love with. If anything during almost 17 years of being together, I would make suggestions of areas of improvement. I didn’t need him to be the perfect boyfriend/fiance/husband but I always him to be his best and I encouraged that. He did the same for me as well.
A lot of times, while dating, people tend to want to “change or fix” their mate. My guess is that we have an ideal image of what we want of our mate and people try to mold them into that. Nothing is wrong with seeing the potential that your other half could have but when you try to change them, that could cause resentment. They may start to feel inadequate when it comes to you.
If there are things that your significant other needs to work on, my advice is to effectively communicate with them. Speak with him or her, not At them. My next advice is to give them a chance to improve. Nothing happens over night, so please be fair to them in that regard. Lastly, be willing to hear improvements for yourself. You can’t be the only one giving critiques and not willing to get them as well. ☺️ I hope this helps friends! What are your thoughts?
Thanks for reading friends!!
Nicole Cherise ❤️
It wont work, it can’t work
You are Not worthy
Try for something else
You should quit while you can
You are a failure
He and She said you WON’T
but you did.
Keep going. See it, Ask of it and Receive it!
I remember in elementary school learning about Role models and leaders of our country. When I wrote about this topic, I’d always write about my parents and Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. I felt my parents were hard workers, made sure all of my needs were met and even supplied me with the “Wants” I desired. In my eyes they paved the way for my success and future.
Now, I do understand that no one is perfect or was raised in a “perfect” home setting but I do believe you either accept it or aim to do better. We all know the saying that the apple doesn’t fall too far from the tree, however every decision you make starts with a Choice.
Take the moment to ask yourself, do you like the role you are modeling? What do you believe your role is? And what is the ideal role you should model?
Please don’t lie to yourself and say that you “have no role or don’t need to be a role model”. Those are lies and negativity that you are projecting to the universe. You are Somebody and there is always someone watching.
Think about it friends. What are you projecting out? and how it could affect those watching you.
Nikki Rob., MA
I know I normally make post on Saturdays but I was away for the weekend and currently flying as I type.
Change can be good and so can a change of scenery.
Now a change of scenery doesn’t have to mean you move physically but it can be your mindset, employment, everyday activities, etc. Whatever a change of scenery means to you can be very beneficially especially if you feel things are becoming routine and you lack interest in you’re usual day to day stuff.
Go for it! Take a chance and do something you possibly never thought of doing. You never know it can be a great start to new beginnings.