Tag: couples

Where is the love Wednesday?: Lovers Lane

Hey friends! 

So this is my dear husband and I on Vday2017. This is our 5th Valentine’s day as a married couple but our 17th Valentine’s Day celebrated together 😍.

We, went to dinner at LL Dent in Carle Place, NY. We had a great time eating some southern food. I enjoyed our date night because with the busyness of life and running after a 2 year old everyday, you have to cherish these moments. I know many don’t believe in Valentine’s Day and yes it is a “hallmark holiday” but like I said, any chance to have date night is a great day in my book!


We saw this post right next to our table and we loved it. It’s family rules that are so accurate. Life rules and lessons to live by. 

So for the lovers did you do anything? 

Thanks for reading friends!! I appreciate you 😊

Nicole Cherise ❤

Where is the love Wednesdays: Marriage and the big day

Hello all!

This past weekend has been a great one! My DH and I witnessed two weddings of our friends. I always enjoyed attending weddings because I feel it’s sacred, it’s one of the times that you have the honor of seeing the love shared by the couple. It also brings brings great memories of my big day. I am a person who believes in love and I felt with it is “where is the love Wednesdays “, I could speak on marriage and the big day. 
The Big Day
I remember re-writing my wedding vows over so that I wouldn’t stumble over my words when I read them. As I was writing my hands were shaking and tears filled in my eyes. I couldn’t believe after a 20 months of being engaged, the day finally came. From the moment I meant my husband down the isle, it seemed like time stood still. As we exchanged our personal vows, it was so surreal. Once we were pronounced husband and wife, it seems like the day flew by! I tell all my friends who are engaged or newly weds that the day goes by so enjoy every moment. 
Life after your wedding
Marriage is beautiful. You and your spouse are now immediate family. In the event if anything ever happens to you, your spouse is the next of kin. Many may not understand how important that is but your spouse comes first and should. You have to remain best friends, honest, intimate, understanding, playful and last but not least, date forever. I recommend dating forever because as time goes on its very easy to fall into a “routine” and get stuck in a rut. Therefore, continue to have date night, spend quality time together and go on “new adventures” together.  
So to the new couples: many blessings to your marriage and enjoy each other! For the veteran couples: Keep it fun and never forget why you decided to make this big step in your lives. To the engaged and committed couples, love is the root for the union, start now to have those accomplished roots. Remember make Love not War. 
Nicole Cherise

Where is the love Wednesday’s: friends with benefits 

Friends with benefits… Is this really possible?

Many people believe it’s possible to do this and if it’s works, good for you. In my opinion, I don’t believe these type of “arrangements” work. I believe that the following could happen: 

  1. The friendship will fizzle
  2. One person may develop stronger feelings
  3. Drama with other people your “friend” may be seeking.

However, on the flip side, many couples start off this way because of previous relationships. Both people know what they want but are taking their time before committing to titles and the boundaries of a relationship. 

If you are participating in a “friends with benefits” situation, make sure you are honest with yourself and each other. Life is short and you do not need to waste precious moments on things that are not meaningful.

What are your thoughts?

*sorry for the late post guys!*

Nicole Cherise 

Where is the love Wednesdays: picking your battles

Hey everyone! It’s Hump Day but on my blog it’s “Where is the Love? Wednesdays”. Today’s topic is picking your battles.

When you and your significant other have decided to have courtship; you’ve decided that you both are committed  and are working towards getting engaged then married. This time period you both are madly in love, spend plenty of time together and have learned each other. When I say learned each other I’m referring to knowing:

  1. What he or she likes/dislikes
  2. Their strengths and imperfections 
  3. Their goals in life (family,career, personal etc..)
  4. You also continue to see the beauty in him or her and the not so beautiful aspect as well. 

With that being noted, couples will clearly bump heads about things. Even the “perfect pair” will have arguments. Rather it’s big or small, arguments will come but which ones are worth having is up to you. I always advise friends to pick your battles in their relationship. The last thing you want is to be feuding with your partner 60% of your time shared especially when in two weeks you wont truly remember why the frustrations took place. 

You want to be able to have peace with the love of your life for sanity purposes too. Think about it, people every day will try to knock you down and belittle you, the last thing you need is to be at war with your sweetheart non-stop. Therefore, choosing your battles  is vital during these times. If that means you may have to take a walk, blow off some steam at the gym, say a silent prayer to be more calm so be it. Do what you need to cause less friction in your relationship so that you can effectively communicate with your other half.

I hope these tips help. Thanks for reading friends!

Nicole Cherise 

Spending time during the first year of marriage

Hi all!

I wanted to discuss the importance of spending time during  the first year of marriage. Any stage of marriage is very important but many say the hardest is the first year. I believe it’s because two souls are becoming one and learning to juggle the “newness” of marriage to your relationship. 

On 8/9, my husband and I will celebrate 3 years of marriage. We are high school sweethearts and we basically grew up together as a couple. I believe this has helped us during the first year. We are each other’s best friend and loved spending time together. Which brings me to say that for newlyweds: Please spend time with your spouse.

With having a busy schedule from work, we tend to see our co-workers more than our family aka your new husband/wife. So, if you don’t make time for your spouse, what are you truly doing with your time? You must find a balance. Even though you are married it doesn’t mean that you lose your identity or should distant yourself from friends but it would be good to always consider your spouse on some “down time”.  

What are your thoughts? Do you think spending time with your spouse weighs a lot during the first year? 

Thanks all!

Nicole Cherise