Tag: family

As a MS patient, my dear loved ones, I’m trying. 

In the past 8 years, I’ve battle symptoms of Multiple Sclerosis. I’m an open book about this, therefore it’s no secret. I like to spread awareness so that others who are afraid, can Know they are not alone. Not only does MS have physical challenges but it also makes us schedule our lives differently.

I often cry to myself because I would make plans with people that I love and have to cancel because I don’t feel well. It’s hard to believe because on the outside, I “appear” to have it together. Yes, my fro is in place, my clothes look neat, I made it to work (somehow), I smile in selfies (hey, I like to take pics 💁🏾), I upload pics of my family but the truth is, it takes a lot of me to do those things. 

I want my family, friends and church family  to know that I truly love you all. I appreciate your words of kindness, prayers and guidance. I miss the “old” Nik all the time. I loved being able to just get up and go  and attend most events that people hosted. Now, that I’m a wife and mom, they are my immediate family. I try to be there for them during the moments I do have some additional energy while working full time. That doesn’t mean that I love any of you less or that I don’t want be a better family member, better friend, or church sister. God forbid if things went left and the disease progress agressively (which could happen), it’s going to be my husband and son who are obligated to step in as Caregivers. Doesn’t that mean that other family and friends can’t help? No, but you all have families as well to attend to. I’m a selfless person especially about that. Don’t stop plans, or life because of little ole me. Heck, I even feel that way for husband and son too. 

I also can’t forget the grieving that I’m still trying to process. At times, I’m just sad and want to be Still. I want to seek comfort from God’s promises and rest. While at rest, I’m mentally,  emotionally and physically calming down from stress. Losing my father and Goddaughter is a type pain that I never experienced and trust me, I’m doing my best. 


Through it all, I believe things will get better, I will get better. My relationships will grow better. I love you all and I ask that you don’t give up on me. I don’t need sympathy, just patience and understanding. Thank you 🙏🏾

Nicole Cherise

The vicious cycle

Eveyone has a past. Every Past has hurt and pain. They say History repeats itself. Therefore, a vicious cycle returns. Do we have to encourage that? Can we be apart of a group that says “I’m not going to repeat those actions”? 

Face the Facts

Families suffer from drug and alcohol abuse, finances, infidelity, lack of education, gang lifestyles and the list goes on. You don’t have to fall into those categories. You can choose to learn what Not to do. You can get out of a toxic environment. You don’t have to fall victim.

I pray and hope this can reach someone. We know many who need to end this cycle, including ourselves. 

Thanks for reading

Nicole Cherise ❤️

They know them but not intimately…


Hey great people!

Have you ever been in this position before? It’s not easy but something we have to remember is that our significant other is known and different to others in their lives.  

In other words, you know your mate intimately, their parents knows them as their son or daughter and friends know them as a friend. Those categories are not the same and you really can’t get advice from the different parties. That does not mean that family and friends couldn’t listen or give two cents, but take it like a grain of salt. 

Nicole Cherise ❤

Thanksgiving reflections

The holidays are tough when you’re missing loved ones at the dining room table. Life isn’t the same, but you realize just how much we need to cherish life.  

As I look around, I’m watching my husband, son, mother and my in-laws laughing and eating, I drift into my own world. I honestly don’t know what I would do without them. Their presence gives me the energy that I need to get by. 
I also realize that at this point of the year, it’s time to game plan for the new year. I have a list of goals that I am working hard to meet. I will keep you all posted. I’m very excited because when you accomplish something new, you feel unstoppable. 
I’m thankful for all of you who take the time to read my posts and follow my journey. Blessings to you all!
Nicole Cherise❤️

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Family and friends don’t forgive so be mindful of who you tell your bizz.

Hi friends! Happy where is the love Wednesdays!

If there is one thing I’ve learned while being with Steve for almost 16 years is that, relationships will have it’s up and downs and who you share personal stories with is crucial. 
I do believe you can vent to someone that you can confide in, to give you that listening ear and some insight. However, if you are constantly complaining about all the wrongs your SO is doing, trust me no one wants to hear about the “good” things happening. Is it fair? No, but that’s the way it is. Your family and friends will always remember the wrongs and won’t forgive like you would. Plus, we say a lot of things out of anger and frustration, so those family members/friends will be furious as well. 
Do you share all the scoop in your relationship? If so, have you had the issues of friends or family not forgiving?
Thanks for reading!
Nicole Cherise❤️

F.F: each morning…

I feel blessed.

I’m blessed to open my eyes and see my husband and son. With all the challenges that I deal with, the love for my family, always puts a smile on my face. 

I hope there is something or someone in your life, that no matter what is going on, you can smile. My family is my back bone, the extra strength that I endure at times when I really need it. They accept me flaws and all. 

What about you? Who or what makes you feel good?

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Feel good Fridays: leaving a legacy 

Hi friends! Happy Friday!

As we all know, the music icon, Prince suddenly passed away. He was loved by many and had many fans worldwide. It made me think, “it’s not about living forever, it’s creating a legacy that will last forever. 
  

As I think about my late father and late Goddaughter, every encounter with others, they always reference great things about both. It made think, when it is my time, what can other’s say about me? Or what seeds would I plant that can continue to grow? I, too, may not ever get famous, but I want my life to serve the purpose of helping others. I want to live a life as an example for my son and future children. That’s my “why” as I spoke about in this previous post. 

What about your friends? Do you find yourself wanting to leave behind a legacy? 

Thanks for reading! Have a good weekend!

Nicole Cherise

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