Tag: friends

Motivational Monday: Do you uplift your friends?

Happy Monday! I hope everyone had a good weekend.

I chose this topic to chat about because self-love is a major key, but the people that are close to us have an impact on our lives as well. We spend quality time with our friends, many are a part of our support system, therefore uplifting should take place.

Personally, I can say that I have different circles of friends. The circles are from different chapters in my life and all of them have a Significant place in my heart. In fact, with all that has taken place in my life for the past 9 years, I would be in a dark depressive state without my support system.

We can uplift one another in various ways. For example, I have different chats with friends, social media groups, we verbally communicate our goals/life experiences, we are accountability partners and shows support for each other in our own way.

If your friend has a business or is starting a SM platform, a great way to support is obviously buying the product or to spread the news in any way that you can. No one has the right to tell anyone what to spend their money on or what to post on their SM but when we do share, it’s exciting because we are seeing the early stages of our friends winning. Your friend will appreciate any level of support that you offer because it’s confirmation that you believe in their cause.

I always believed that if One of my friends win, we all win. I also have faith that if God can provide for one, He will provide for me. The positive energy of a friend’s good news can spark a fire into our lives. It’s a deep impact that I believe many don’t always embrace due to jealousy and envy. We all have our turn, but in the meantime, we should uplift our friend(s) to keep going to get what’s needed to better themselves.

Shout out to my support system (which is my family, church family, and coworkers too) for uplifting me. Life is difficult at times and we are capable of taking the wrong turn here and there. However, with the love and support from you all, it’s Easy to not give up! I love you all ♥️

Thanks for reading,

Nicole Cherise ♥️

When feuding, What’s considered below the belt?

Hey guys!

This is always a topic of discussion when you have people who are arguing/feuding. I haven’t been in too many encounters where I’m at the blows with someone but I always had the attitude that you can say whatever you want about me but leave my family out of it.

I think that’s why I never liked “yo mama” jokes because I wasn’t having it. Is it suppose to be all fun? Yes. However, I’ve always felt some jokes had truth to it so in efforts to not unleash my temper, I decided I wasn’t going to participate in that lol 🤷🏾‍♀️.

Now, I know for some, they can ignore words about their family but have an issue if you disrespect their manhood/womanhood or their money. I agree those are below the belt references as well. Then again, you have some that do not care. They believe that nothing is off limits when going for the attack against you.

What are your thoughts friends? What do you consider below the belt or things that are off limits when you are fighting? Now this doesn’t only mean against an enemy, but this can be heated discussions with a significant other, friends, family, co-workers etc.. Let me know 🙃☺️

Thank you for reading!

Nicole Cherise ♥️

Real friends Know

Genuine Friends who Love you for You! I’m so thankful for my sisters! One in particular today reached out because she KNOWS when I’m NOT ok. So, she inspired me to make this post. My sister, my best friend, I love you and I won’t get extra mushy but you Know who you are. Thank you for loving me! Thank you for our talk today!

How many of y’all have this type of friend?

Nicole Cherise

As a MS patient, my dear loved ones, I’m trying. 

In the past 8 years, I’ve battle symptoms of Multiple Sclerosis. I’m an open book about this, therefore it’s no secret. I like to spread awareness so that others who are afraid, can Know they are not alone. Not only does MS have physical challenges but it also makes us schedule our lives differently.

I often cry to myself because I would make plans with people that I love and have to cancel because I don’t feel well. It’s hard to believe because on the outside, I “appear” to have it together. Yes, my fro is in place, my clothes look neat, I made it to work (somehow), I smile in selfies (hey, I like to take pics 💁🏾), I upload pics of my family but the truth is, it takes a lot of me to do those things. 

I want my family, friends and church family  to know that I truly love you all. I appreciate your words of kindness, prayers and guidance. I miss the “old” Nik all the time. I loved being able to just get up and go  and attend most events that people hosted. Now, that I’m a wife and mom, they are my immediate family. I try to be there for them during the moments I do have some additional energy while working full time. That doesn’t mean that I love any of you less or that I don’t want be a better family member, better friend, or church sister. God forbid if things went left and the disease progress agressively (which could happen), it’s going to be my husband and son who are obligated to step in as Caregivers. Doesn’t that mean that other family and friends can’t help? No, but you all have families as well to attend to. I’m a selfless person especially about that. Don’t stop plans, or life because of little ole me. Heck, I even feel that way for husband and son too. 

I also can’t forget the grieving that I’m still trying to process. At times, I’m just sad and want to be Still. I want to seek comfort from God’s promises and rest. While at rest, I’m mentally,  emotionally and physically calming down from stress. Losing my father and Goddaughter is a type pain that I never experienced and trust me, I’m doing my best. 


Through it all, I believe things will get better, I will get better. My relationships will grow better. I love you all and I ask that you don’t give up on me. I don’t need sympathy, just patience and understanding. Thank you 🙏🏾

Nicole Cherise

Thank you Browngirlstylish!

Hi friends! 

I hope all is well and that things are going well in your lives. Things on my end have been ok but I’ve been in a little bit of a funk. I truly haven’t physically been feeling well either.. sigh but I’m coming along, Thank God!

Today one of my dear sister-bestie reminded me of the importance of my written posts. I expressed to her that I’ve been in a “mood” and haven’t felt like writing. After our conversation, I gave it some thought and she’s right. I do connect better with my readers when I express my feelings or share topics that come to mind. 

I can’t promise that every post will be fully written some may continue to be quotes and “straight the point” post. However, I’m definitely going to write more.

Thank you Browngirlstylish aka Shanna for the Reminder and thanks to all of you that follow my blog! I love and appreciate you!

Btw check out Browngirlstylish  for great fashion inspiration, she’s great! 

Nicole Cherise ❤️

Influencers 


We can’t settle for mediocrity with our inner circle of friends. They are people that we speak to often, therefore, they have an influence on us. 

Your top five

Think of the top 5 friends that you speak to every day. If you had a corporation, these people would be your board members. Do you like who you see? Take the time to reflect if you would receive good counsel from these people. If the answer is no, then you will have to re-evaluate your friends. Thoughts?

Thanks for reading!

Nicole Cherise ❤️

Not everyone is genuine


A lesson I learned and I’m continuing to understand. We live in a world with wicked people. Many are envious, jealousy and angry at us. Most times it’s for no true reason. They grow angry at our blessings. Instead of being happy, they grow sour. 

Friends, you don’t need that. Keep the grass cut low and weed out who is not worthy of your friendship. Not all are genuine. 

Nicole Cherise ❤️

Real recognize real 

When you start to create a plan for a business or new adventure, we often share this with our friends. Now, some people won’t always support you until you are “on” or are already have a buzz going and sometimes you shouldn’t always get upset about that. The truth is, they are human and feel that they will believe it when they see it. However, to try to believe in you being successful or giving motivation is one way to know your friend is really your friend. 

I often to say: “when one friend win, we all win”. Seeing a best friend accomplish a goal, motivates me to aim high as well. There is no room for jealousy or envy. They worked hard and it paid off! Real friends sometimes can see your talents before you and that’s something that you can’t take for granted. 

To my friends that support me and are waiting for me to take that leap of faith, I thank you and appreciate your love and support!

They know them but not intimately…


Hey great people!

Have you ever been in this position before? It’s not easy but something we have to remember is that our significant other is known and different to others in their lives.  

In other words, you know your mate intimately, their parents knows them as their son or daughter and friends know them as a friend. Those categories are not the same and you really can’t get advice from the different parties. That does not mean that family and friends couldn’t listen or give two cents, but take it like a grain of salt. 

Nicole Cherise ❤