So I was listening to “ask Angela Yee” on the breakfast club this morning and a guy called asking what to do about the lack of love he is receiving from his lady. He was questioning should he leave the relationship or stay and “do him”? Later he revealed that he cheated in the past and she forgave him but has still been cold and distant.
My response is this: once you have cheated on someone the trust is broken and needs to be repaired. Every time your partner looks at you they could have flashes of you looking and touching another the same way. That is not an easy pill to swallow. However, they looked deep in their hearts and forgave you.
You MUST be patient with your significant other. You can’t just have this “I said sorry so get over it attitude”. That is another selfish act of you when you do that. We all handle things differently and getting cheated on to some is like grieving because of piece of them died (trust) and things won’t be the same.
Hope does prevail though. If your partner was able to forgive, I suggest that you do all that is possible so that you are NOT in a position to cheat again, treat your man or woman like the King and Queen that they are, give the security that it is all about you both to move forward, and be PATIENT to just to name a few. If you can’t do this or think it’s too much then let them go.
On the other side, if you DID decide to forgive your partner for cheating it doesn’t mean you should forget but you do have find a way to move past their indiscretion. I’m not saying the next day you act like nothing has happened but if you throw it in their face everyday maybe you should re-think if you truly forgive them. If it’s too hard it’s ok for it to be a deal breaker no matter how much it hurts. You have to do what’s best for you and your sanity.
What are your thoughts?
Many say this phrase often. We want more or we think things are better than what we have.
I’ve come to a point in life where I see that the grass is greener where it’s being well taken care of. Give it the seeds, water it and ask God for sunshine, you will have it.
You want what the next person has? Their grass “looks” so green? What if you found out that it’s spray? Or that it’s not even real grass?
Be happy with what you have, nourish your craft, relationship, most importantly, YOURSELF! Things will be great!
Deep in my thoughts. Thinking of the master plan…
I want to fly high above the clouds
It would be perfect for hubby and I to conquer the world as King and Queen and set the throne for our little prince
Not a care in the world, no sadness, no pain, no sickness, just pure bliss… Sounds like Heaven to me.
Sigh… It can be and it will be. Need the pen and paper to create the gateway to this successful journey
Happy Monday to you! You know it’s Motivational Monday’s and today’s message is using your gifts.
This is a lesson that I too, am working towards doing. I believe we all have skills that make us stand out from others and it would be good if expand on it. It could be the start of your own business, a hobby or volunteering your gifts to give back to the community.
I also believe that if even if you want to volunteer your services, it could make you happier. By giving back to others and helping them in need, that could raise your self esteem and you will feel good about yourself.
Think about it, you never know friends.
We often talk out being rich and successful yet many of us haven’t scratched the surface to what that requires. I too, can admit that I want to be successful and do what my heart desires like many. The question becomes, “why aren’t you living your successful life like the next up and coming person?” The answer: Committment. I was listening to a video by Ms. Marshawn Evans of marshawnevans.com and she made perfect sense.
Think about the things in life for you that are going great… More than likely it’s something we all are committed to doing. Now think about that one aspect of your life that isn’t how you expect it should be, it’s very possible that it may be something you are not committed to and fear is apart of that void.
I have so many ideas and I know in my heart and soul what I’m meant to do but the fear of failing always creeps onto my shoulder. However, you know the difference between us and those who are entrepreneurs? Having the fear and then stepping out on faith. When you give it your all aka “Committment”, you are nervous of the outcome but you also realize you can never give up and that’s when you take that leap!
We are all made for greatness and we will get there. What’s your passion? Or what would make you successful?
or should you see it first to believe it?
Success, many of us are scared of it. We have talents that possibly can build empires, yet we are scared of failure, scared to get out of our comfort zone. Many have to be convinced that the plan will work if not then they will not believe it. This is the difference between those who make their dreams a reality and those who keep dreaming.
Timing can be wrong, struggles can appear but I believe in you beauties, I believe in me. Let’s do this!