Notice this didn’t say Men or Women… it says people. We all have a past and reason(s) for some of our decision making when it comes to choosing a mate. When you submit to someone, it does require serving their needs but it doesn’t mean that your needs are ignored. Significant others serve needs by providing transparency, dedication, value, learning, listening and the feeling of being safe to one another. You’re not Weak by wanting a Happy place with a person ♥️
We all like what we like and want what we want, but does it make you feel good at your core or just the surface?
Have you had a rough day and decided to splurge at your favorite store? Purchased the new Jordan 1’s or even eat a 5 course meal at an exclusive restaurant? It feels good to release those emotions, but how long does it last? You still end up with the same sadness, pain and frustration.
When we don’t have true happiness within our hearts or at our core, none of it truly matters. We need to dig deep for happiness and not just at surface level. I hope that resonates with us all. Happy Wednesday!
We have busy lives. Many of us have families to provide for, and financial responsibilities to enormous debts. Many of us battle physics illness, mental illness and injuries. With all of these hats that we wear, we have to combat the world as well.
All these factors (there are plenty more not mentioned) can add a lot of stress to the mind, body and soul. What do you do to stay grounded?
Do you lean towards your faith, meditation or yoga practices? Or maybe it’s taking mental days to rest? Or enjoy your favorite hobby? Let me know 😊
On the journey of healing, I recognize the importance of loving yourself without the validation or attention from others.
It’s unhealthy to behave in this manner and to believe that if someone isn’t giving you praise, it’s a bad reflection of yourself. My dear friends, WE have to be our OWN best friend, and love ourselves first. It’s ok to have help as a secondary tool but it can’t be the ONLY tool.
It not easy to stop the codependency process but it WILL be worth it in the long run. Let’s continue to uplift one another, continue to do daily affirmations and grow. I’m here for anyone who needs help in their journeys.
This is not an easy task. The truth is, we rely so much on people and outside factors to give us happiness. You’re significant other, family, nor your friends are responsible for your happiness. You ARE.
We have to dig deep. Release those layers of hurt, dysfunction, self doubt, and fear. Things will get tough, you may have days and months of the ugly crying but it’s ok. Never think crying is a weakness, it’s a reminder that you are Human.
I too, am doing the same. Therefore, you are Not Alone.
I know it’s been a while since I’ve blogged, but please know that I have missed being present and your presence!
One of the last videos that I did was in reference to our Story not being finished yet and that it’s only a chapter. To piggyback off of that, we NEED to focus on creating our OWN Story.
In Romantic relationships, many of us watch romantic movies or hear love songs and we think about wanting that happily ever after. We view our family dynamics, judge our friends’ relationships and are eager for all those great experiences to become ours.
We are taught during High school to attend college for a better future and then feel defeated when life doesn’t play out that way. So much pressure of what “success” is suppose to look like in our lives doesn’t always equal how we are living.
We need to create our Own love stories and our Own Success stories. What worked for some may not work for you. Be patient, go at your own pace. The work that you put into a relationship or your work is what the universe will bring back out. Find Peace and Happiness within yourselves and go from there.
I hope this post helps and I hope we all can have peace and happiness in our own personal journeys. Thanks for reading!