Tag: healing

Where is the love Wednesday: Emotional child support

This is the sad but true case for many families. How can an adult bring their emotions and vulnerability to their interpersonal relationships if that tool wasn’t given? Should EVERYTHING fall on the parents? No. However, emotional support to your children is just as important as physical and financial support.

Has this been you? Did you turn to another family member to provide that emotional support? Or did you find yourself doing the work on your own with a therapist?

What does the child do? Thoughts?

Thank you for reading!

Nicole Cherise ♥️

Our Scars

When the wounds are fresh, it hurts like hell. The Pain runs deep. At some point we have to decide if we want to heal ourselves or let the wound get infected, which could lead to serious consequences.

When we choose to heal, we apply medication to clean and protect the wound from infection and oh man it stings! Then we wrap it with bandages, sometimes the assistance of stitches may be needed, but we patiently wait for a scar to form.

How does this apply to the emotional wounds in our lives? The Pain is real and does feel physical for some cases. However, at some point we have to choose healing because the toxicity of the hurt we endured can ruin any chance of happiness or peace that we desire.

Sometimes we need assistance from a counselor/therapist to help with the deeper wounds that can’t just be wrapped up at the surface. It requires more work, resources and tools to find peace, but it IS obtainable.

The scar appears. The hurt isn’t fresh anymore, but the scar will always be a reminder of where we were and where we came from. We, Are Healed…..

Nicole Cherise ♥️

Parents get to KNOW your kids

As a parent, we do our best to raise our kids to be decent individuals. Even though there are tons of books on parenting, it’s just a role that you have to learn once your in it.

Some of the biggest mistakes that parents make is set the idea of who their child is in their heads versus learning who their child really is. Parents can have the thought that their child will get high marks in school like they did or become that all-star athlete like they were and it’s not fair. Parents also raise their children to be a certain way, obtain certain values and when that child goes astray, we sit and wonder “why?”.

Please do not take this post as me saying that we can’t set rules and the tone for the upbringing of our children. My point is that a certain point in the adolescent/young adult stage, we need to communicate with our kids. We need to understand their voice, likes/dislikes, how they see the world and thoughts about love, etc. Once this happens, your son or daughter will present their true selves to you. It doesn’t mean we have to agree or even like it, but we do have to show Respect to them.

Thank you for reading!

Nicole Cherise ♥️

Healing+Forgiveness

We often continue to live in the past and continue an unwanted cycle. Let’s make a decision to push through adversity and claim victory for ourselves. I believe in order for us to do this we need to Heal and forgive ourselves. Heal from the trauma that we experienced (no matter if it was big or small) and forgive ourselves because we continued to allow past trauma affect current decisions that we make. You got this, I got this, We All Got This 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾💯💯💯

Our circle is going through it too

I’m so guilty of this 🤦🏾‍♀️ but I’m a Work In Progress! And I’m sure I’m not alone with this. I have a big heart and would have the expectation that others should do what I do.. False! Friends, we can’t do this because not only is it draining, but it’s also not fair to others in our circle. Not everyone expresses the issues that they are battling, some need that isolation because they are trying to heal. Let’s continue to keep them in prayer during this season. Try not to think they are shading you or no longer love you. They do but they have to love themselves more.

Happy Hump Day Friends! Thanks for reading!

Nicole Cherise ♥️

*Caution* Personal Self Growth Ahead…

Hi Friends!!!

I know I haven’t been doing a lot of blog posts and there IS a reason for that! I am currently doing a lot of Self healing and reflecting. I realize that I can’t work from an empty cup and could burn out. I don’t want to fail, fall into a depression, I want to HEAL.

The beginning of this process is truly a challenge. I have to dig deep into the core of Myself. I’ve cried a lot, I’m angry, I’m sad… so full of emotions. But it IS for the good that this happens. With the baby steps that I’ve taken, I feel lighter and some stress levels has decreased.

So please be patient with me. I am ok, but will be even better soon. I have some plans up my sleeve and I look forward to executing them! I pray that you all are well and I thank you for your continued support! Cheers to SELF GROWTH!!!

Nicole Cherise ♥️

Search within

This is not an easy task. The truth is, we rely so much on people and outside factors to give us happiness. You’re significant other, family, nor your friends are responsible for your happiness. You ARE.

We have to dig deep. Release those layers of hurt, dysfunction, self doubt, and fear. Things will get tough, you may have days and months of the ugly crying but it’s ok. Never think crying is a weakness, it’s a reminder that you are Human.

I too, am doing the same. Therefore, you are Not Alone.

Thank you for reading,

Nicole Cherise ♥️