Tag: jealousy

Not everyone is genuine


A lesson I learned and I’m continuing to understand. We live in a world with wicked people. Many are envious, jealousy and angry at us. Most times it’s for no true reason. They grow angry at our blessings. Instead of being happy, they grow sour. 

Friends, you don’t need that. Keep the grass cut low and weed out who is not worthy of your friendship. Not all are genuine. 

Nicole Cherise ❤️

Where is the Love? : is it truth or jealousy?

Hi Friends! I’m sorry that I didn’t post yesterday. It was a busy day, but I’m here today with a topic.

In a previous post, I wrote about having cheerleaders in your circle and the benefits. I also wrote about the Debbie downers to look out for. With writing that, I want to make a point that when someone tells you something you may not want to hear, it’s not always jealousy or “hating”. Constructive criticism is a healthy way to receive information and it can be the truth.
We tend to see this when it comes to life choices. Rather, it’s career decisions, relationship situations, conflict amongst family and friends; sometimes when someone doesn’t agree with you it’s not always a negative. Everyone is not always out to get us, we create that in our thoughts as a defense mechanism instead of tackling the problem head on. 
We, as people, need to understand that we are in this journey called life together. A true colleague and loved one is going to tell you the truth. This is also how you weed out the “fake snakes” in your circle. I’d be scared if my loved ones agreed with everything I’ve said or thought ALL my ideas were destined to work! 
So you are in the search of love, but yet you are currently being mistreated. The older we get, people understand that relationships have bumpy roads and certain tests need to be presented. However, I always tell my friends be careful what you share when you are emotional because Family and Friends do not forgive like we would. Therefore, if those close to you see that you as an individual is being broken down and your significant other is bringing out the worst in you, they are Not hating. Sometimes it takes someone looking from the outside to tell you that. Real supporters of Us will tell us if we are wrong and will not always be the “hype” man. 
So where is the love? It starts from within, and it gets projected out to who are very close and dear to our hearts. I’m so thankful for my family and friends. They truly keep me on my toes, give me the truth and constructive criticism. 
Do you have that type of support? Are you always in a battle of trying to recognize if someone is telling you the Ugly truth or is Jealous? If so, or you know someone who has this issue, feel free to contact me ☺️
Nicole Cherise 

Life lessons

When things begin to change in your life, people will begin to show you their true colors. Those long conversations begin to dwindle and you wonder why? The problem is some people want to you stay where you are in life and Not advance. Another issue is that people are jealous of your achievements. Try to be aware of these things so that these negative vibes don’t cloud your judgement.
@NicoleCherise ❤ ️

Where is the love Wednesday: people who Are in the audience for your downfall

Hi all,

If it’s something I’ve learned in these past years is that, not all who clap for you Are for you. This was hard for me to accept because I try to see the good in everyone. 
The unfortunate thing is that a lot of times this happens with family, friends and colleagues. The “crab in the barrel” syndrome of not wanting to see others do better than yourself so you pull them down anyway you can. 
When you start to see the actions of others or even hear sly remarks, get those individuals out of your environment. Those negative vibes can effect your mental state, ambitions and happiness. Please don’t give them that power and let them go. 
So try to be care of who is in your circle and those who are “clapping” for you. Not all are genuine and they are truly clapping for your downfall. 
Nicole Cherise

Where is the love Wednesdays: downers

Hey all! Something that I’ve noticed, is a person telling others a new adventure they want to do and people automatically throw their negative experiences into the equation. Now, it’s one thing if a person asked for feedback or for other’s opinion, but if that’s not the case, why do people feel the need to do that?
If someone is excited about their dream that they are pursuing, I say encourage before criticize. Let your friend, family member or associate know that you happy for their choice for growth/exploring first. If and only if they ask for your feedback, it’s ok to do so. I don’t recommend lying, but be honest and assure them that you wish them well. No one wants a “downer” in their corner and you don’t want to be that person labeled as a “downer” either. 
Has anyone ever experienced this? If so, did you change your mind about your adventure? Or did you feel the person(s) was being a downer and/or jealous? Let’s hear it!
Nicole Cherise

Where is the love Wednesdays : friends that are jealous

Hey guys! Sorry for the late post. Today has been pretty busy but I’m  here now!  Today’s topic is : friends that are jealous.

We all know that jealousy is an unfortunate trait that we all may have at some point in life, however, is it appropriate in friendships?

Jealousy- wanting what some one has. Many throw the phrases ” ohh I’m jealous” or “I’m jelly right now” in a joking manner and it could be in the best regards. However, On the other hand, there are people who are upset and really mad that they don’t or can’t have what you have. 

In my opinion, friends that are genuine would Not be seriously jealous of your progress or possessions. I’ve always had an attitude  that if one of my friends did well, we all did well. There is no need to be mad or down that certain things hasn’t happened for me because I believe what can happen for one, can happen for me as well. We all have choices and our outlook on ourselves are important. 

If you are a jealous friend, please stop. While you are busy being jealous, you are missing out on the blessings coming your way. So instead of being jealous, tell yourself ” when it’s my turn, I will be as happy as my friend is. I’m happy for him/her and I’m looking forward to us both winning”. Keep the good vibe rolling friends. 

Nicole Cherise