How much does loyalty mean to you? Do you live by the loyalty code? Are you Loyal?
Time and time again, I hear people say “loyalty outweighs everything” or “blood makes you related but loyalty makes you family”. I have to say that my loyalty lies with my family and closest friends. I’m not a confrontational person, however, if you disrespect them then you just disrespected me. I have their back and they have mine so the loyalty is reciprocated.
What about those who show loyalty but it’s not given back? We all have been there. That family member who always needs you but turns ship when you need them; that childhood friend who always disappears when dark times happen; the “love” of your life who claims they hold you down but is disrespectful on many levels; the employer who promised a promotion but it never happened. It truly hurts and is frustrating.
Stay true to those who are true to you back. Like Drake says ” know yourself, know your worth”. How do you Know someone is loyal? They are loyal when you don’t have any doubts in your heart about him or her.
It amazes me when I hear people complain about intimate relationships, friendships and jobs but when I ask what are you offering? I get a mediocre response.
How do you expect anyone to take you seriously when you have nothing worth substance to show for yourself? Now don’t get me wrong we all go through different hardships in these categories however it doesn’t mean you have to stay with a “Debbie downer” attitude either.
In an intimate relationship, you have your needs and wants in a mate. It can be looks, financial stability, work ethics, family oriented, share same religious beliefs etc but what do you show about yourself? Are you representing the same qualities of perfection that you desire? If the answer is “no” than maybe you need to take the time to work on yourself. It makes no sense to have high expectations for a mate when you are failing to do so for yourself.
Friendships just like any relationship is a two way street. To get respect you have to earn it. People will say in a heart beat that they have no friends or want friends but they push people away. Maybe social skills are lacking, maybe it’s a personality thing, whatever is the “reason” for giving others the cold shoulder, make sure you remain mad at yourself. It falls on you if you don’t want to communicate. It’s on you if haven’t found the “perfect” friend.
Jobs can be boring, stressful and fun(especially if your the owner) and many of us are not in our field of study. However, if you are constantly late, missing deadlines, being suspended, being absent and insubordinate, I really hope you don’t expect your boss to give you a raise or promotion. What are you offering for advancement? The work ethics just previously listed would get anyone terminated. If you were a boss, would you hire You??
Think about these things friends. If u feel u fall into any of these categories there is a will and a way to get better. I am here if anyone wants to chat privately.
Nikki Rob., MA