Notice this didn’t say Men or Women… it says people. We all have a past and reason(s) for some of our decision making when it comes to choosing a mate. When you submit to someone, it does require serving their needs but it doesn’t mean that your needs are ignored. Significant others serve needs by providing transparency, dedication, value, learning, listening and the feeling of being safe to one another. You’re not Weak by wanting a Happy place with a person ♥️
During our life journey, the goal for many is to evolve. We are being more nurturing to ourselves and growing. Not everyone can handle our growth nor do they want to encourage it. Don’t fret though. It’s ok to have doubters, let that be the motivation that WE NEED to keep going!
I know it’s been so long! Yes, it has and I have to admit that I do miss blogging. I’ve been busy in my own mind, busy with family, busy with work and it was ALOT! Lol
Now that I’m back, I think it’s only right to chat about “Starting Over”. Listen, people will tell us left and right to stick to a decision or that we are too “old” to not have it all figured out…. The o̶l̶d̶e̶r̶ wiser that I get, I feel this is absolutely false. Should we have goals and execute them? Sure. But as long as we are “Able” and are continuing to learn, there is Nothing wrong with switching up the game plan.
Do you think our Society or Our Families play a major role with this mindset? What are your thoughts on this friends? Have you been under this influence? Or do you feel, you can Move as you please I’m regards to your future?
This has to be said. If you see him/her other than a partner then what is the goal? To have a grown child to boss around and take advantage of? If you ask me that sounds like manipulation and inner insecurities. You Both should bring things to the table and be RESPECTED as each other’s equal. Life is too short for anything else 💯
Sometimes we hit a brick wall. Sometimes it feels like the walls are caving in on us. Sometimes we don’t have many more places to run away to. Sometimes, the very thing that gives so much pleasure also gives a lot of pain. Sometimes we can’t help but wonder if that silver lining is EVER going to appear?
The hardships of it all and you just want ONE person who could understand. You want that person to get it but they don’t. Please Try not to blame them, it’s not their fault. Their story isn’t ours even if they play a role in it. They have their own issues to tend to and may not have the bandwidth to tackles yours as well.
No one is to blame. No one should feel shame. No one owes us anything. But we do owe it to ourselves to try with ONE step each day. Try to be kinder to ourselves. Try to show up for ourselves. Try to make moves for ourselves. Try to be the Favorite and Best version of ourselves.
While being in a committed relationship, it’s important to understand the differences in family dynamics that our partner has from us. It’s important because you can establish the accountability that is required, boundaries and possibly a New start to your own Belief systems.
For example: if one person grew up in an authoritative household, he or she might have the same kind of approach in communication techniques or come off bossy. Yet, their partner might have grown up in a more liberal home where they express their feelings more openly. This pair, could clash a lot.
So, take the time out to have the necessary discussions. Try to let your guard down and be open to the new possibilities that could present themselves.
Have any of you had to do this? Would you do this? Let me know in the comments!!
Acceptance•Agreement with or belief in an idea, opinion, or explanation.•The action or process of being received as adequate or suitable, typically to be admitted into a group.
Do you find yourself aiming for acceptance by family, friends, your workplace or community? It’s truly not easy to keep up with. We truly need to Accept ourselves FIRST and all that it brings. We have to Know who we are and move through life accordingly.
The country has experienced chaos due to the Covid-19 pandemic. Life as we know it has changed. Masks wearing, social distancing, working from home etc. However, during this time, I had the joy and honor of watching my youngest son grow.
Vaughn Nicolas turned 1 on 4/23 (yesterday) and it indeed was a joyous moment yet an emotional one too. V, has brought so much happiness and laughter to our family, and we truly are complete. However, with any milestone, I think about the members of our family who are not physically here to view these moments. I also get emotional because it means he will grow into his OWN independence and not need me as much and he’s the last one for the team. So no more little babies 🥺.
Either way, I’m beyond blessed to have his presence, to smell him, hold him and Love him! I’m thankful to be chosen to be his mama, and will do my best to nurture him and his big brother until my last breath.
I’m glad to blog again and why not start back with a post about our little Prince?! 🥰
Are we truly taking the time out to Breathe? Are we trying to create a Safe place for our hearts? Do we even know how our traumas from childhood affected us into our adulthood? Prayer, meditation, exercise, writing, reading… Do what it takes to bring some peace to your hearts and Souls. Then let the Growing Begin