Have you ever felt that your life was at a stand still? As in you don’t know if you are going or coming? I think we all have been there and it can easily become depressing. So question is how do we get out of that funk?
1) Have a vision of what you desire- most of the time when we are all over the place it is because we don’t have our visions planned out. Some believe in making vision boards filled with pictures of what they want to have. If you place it somewhere that you see everyday, it will constantly stay in your line of vision and you will do what it takes to get those goals accomplished.
2) words of affirmation- writing down positive thoughts about yourself or listening to positive self help recordings can also be beneficial and encouraging. If you feed yourself positive cognitions, the better You.
3) surround yourself around positive people- that is as simple as it gets. Try not to associate with people who bring negativity to your space or those who are “Debbie downers”. Hearing encouragement from your inner circle will truly do wonders.
4) prayer and/or mediation- many search to their religious beliefs to pray or practice some sort of calming ritual such as meditating. You are able to clear your mind, let go of stress and Breathe.
These are just few suggestions to getting yourself “out of a funk”. It doesn’t just happen over night so expect to travel the distance and not a quick sprint.
Do you have any other practices that help you get ” out of a funk”?
I know we have heard this phrase plenty of times. Our elders say “don’t rush things”, “your time is coming”, or “you have to wait”. Most of the time it could have been a contest we wanted to win or wanted to do something that we were to young to do. Question is now: What about adulthood?
As adults, we work, have responsibilities and want to live a certain life style. We have an attitude that things need to be quick and in our hands immediately but like our elders said “you have to wait”. Just because you have to wait does to mean u sit on a stoop and count sheep, no you have to continue to work hard to have what ever it is you have lined up.
If it’s a relationship that you want to have, don’t worry even though you haven’t met him or her on the first few dates doesn’t mean he or she doesn’t exist. It can be many factors to why you weren’t aligned to meet yet or if you have met, possibly the opportunity isn’t right at that moment. Just don’t give up, keep bettering yourself and it all will work out.
If it’s career decisions, that too will work out. Rather it’s a business you are starting, that dream job or promotion, it will be your turn soon. You will be successful and it all does come together. Keep trying, don’t give up.
Patience is a Virtue….
Experience=experiment and the lessons taught/learned
Haven’t we all been there? We have been told don’t do this or don’t do that but it doesn’t click unless we try it anyway.
I do believe that somethings do need to happen so we can have the experience and hopefully learn from it. So then we can share what we did wrong, reflect and not make the same mistake twice.
Do you agree that experience bring experiences?
Have you ever had point in life where you feel like you are on cloud 9? Your’e smiling from ear to eat so much that your cheeks hurt? Then suddenly someone comes and try to burst your bubble? Question is… Do you allow them to?
One thing that is very important is for us to keep our composure and continue to feel happy regardless of what anyone says or thinks.
People will constantly try to rain on your parade but instead of getting frustrated, just continue to dance and sing. No one can shut down your Own happiness but You.
Remember take the wheel of your emotional well-being and continue on with your journey of life. It’s short so there is no time to waste.
Nikki Rob., MA
I remember in elementary school learning about Role models and leaders of our country. When I wrote about this topic, I’d always write about my parents and Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. I felt my parents were hard workers, made sure all of my needs were met and even supplied me with the “Wants” I desired. In my eyes they paved the way for my success and future.
Now, I do understand that no one is perfect or was raised in a “perfect” home setting but I do believe you either accept it or aim to do better. We all know the saying that the apple doesn’t fall too far from the tree, however every decision you make starts with a Choice.
Take the moment to ask yourself, do you like the role you are modeling? What do you believe your role is? And what is the ideal role you should model?
Please don’t lie to yourself and say that you “have no role or don’t need to be a role model”. Those are lies and negativity that you are projecting to the universe. You are Somebody and there is always someone watching.
Think about it friends. What are you projecting out? and how it could affect those watching you.
Nikki Rob., MA
So this time of the year a lot of people start their spring cleaning. Many clean their homes, get rid of the old and bring in the new. Many graduations take place, students are entering a new chapter of their lives. New cars are purchased and ahh the joy of the new car scent. Many weddings take place and the scenery of flowers blooming is epic in pictures. Different religions view spring as sacrifice and newness as well.
What about spring cleaning you?
Perhaps it could be a physical, mental or spiritual detox that is necessary? Maybe even a new LOOK? Whatever it is that you decide, let it be good for your own personal growth. Make more room in your mind for positivity. Only let positive like-minded individuals invade your space. Bring on the newness and let go of the baggage. You need better so go out and get it!
Many of us are like the energizer bunny, we keep going and going…
Between family, career, friends we are constantly busy. The older you get more and more weekends seem to be filled with events that you must attend.
When do you take the time to slow down? When do you stop to have “me” time? It’s important to have personal time because it balances us. Suggestions could be:
Exercising, reading a book, going for a walk, meditation/prayer time etc…
Give yourself time to reboot for a peace of mind during your busy lifestyle.
Do you need some rebooting?
Forgiveness and Moving on (letting go)
Two things that should go hand in hand yet so challenging.
When someone does something to hurt you, for most its easier to just stay mad at them and cut them out of your life. What if it were a family member? a best friend from childhood? or your life partner? Not that simple? Indeed, it can be more difficult to turn the other cheek when it involves people you love and care about.
In our minds, we expect our closest to “KNOW BETTER” when in reality they are human. Humans are not perfect and will mess up. Your closest will say hurtful things, do hurtful things and let you down. Guess what?…So will YOU.
I do understand, that we all have limits. If someone (even the closest to you) did something beyond your limits and you can’t allow yourself to forgive them, ok so be it. I do believe that you need to Let go, so you can be able to live your life to the fullest. It doesn’t make sense to mope around in a depressive state when the other person is going to bed happy at night. On the other hand, if you do decide to forgive them, you have to communicate.
Communication aka Reconciliation can help you come to better terms. Express how the events made you feel and how you can work towards making the relationship better. Allow the person to express themself and clear his or her conscious as well. You will be surprised of the reasonings behind their actions regardless of your disapproval.
Think about it, havent you made someone upset or had an argument and wanted to get your point across? or tell your reasoning for what you did or didn’t do? I guess you expect people to give you another chance as well right? It goes BOTH ways friends.
This will not be an easy task to achieve and you may Not like it, but the benefit of relieving stress and letting go of toxic anger, is worth it for your mind, body and soul.
Nikki Rob., MA