Never saw a tree like this in Long Island. I thought they were mainly in the south. I guess I’ve been under a rock lol 🤣. Taking the time to admire its beauty during “fall” temps, gave me a sense of calmness. The way the leaves swayed as if it had its own dance moves gave me peace. To think the amount of storms the tree went through but it’s still standing strong. Lately, I have not been feeling my best (up and down with weather change/post partum body changes) but like this tree, I know I have to still show up and stay strong. I hope you can too my friends. Not every day we are super strong, but you continue to keep going, you got this 💪🏾.
The saying “Being Strong is the only option” is a True inspirational statement. However, I believe we need to add: “but don’t forget that you are human”. Many of us are raised by people that we see as strong and they taught us to keep it together when trying times come.
We aren’t always advised to cry it out, or to seek therapy because society associates those things as a sign of weakness. The reality is, society does not want us to be Vulnerable. The interesting thing is that being vulnerable comes from our inner emotions…. Emotions something we are born with.
From birth we learn to cry to get the attention of our caregiver. When we feel uncomfortable or scared we seek protection from our caregiver (you can check out Bowlby’s development theory for that). Why does that change as we grow? As stated previously, as we grow our caregivers want us to be strong and I believe it’s because we won’t always have them to protect us from this world.
As a woman, I can say this IS a struggle for me daily. I’m sensitive, empathetic, prideful and strong, but I get overwhelmed because I want to do everything and be everything for everyone. I want to be Wonder Woman for my family, but often I fall apart. Wearing so many hats and masks does take a toll on our mental well-being but yet it doesn’t matter until we have a breakdown.
I’m learning that it’s ok to NOT be ok and It’s ok to voice that. We are wives, mothers, daughters, sisters, grand daughters, cousins, teachers, nurses, lawyers, ministers all in one and so many depend on us to be that for them. These same people need to understand that we Are Human too. For many of them, this won’t be easy for them to understand, but it’s vital that you make them understand your needs.
Ladies, I hope this resonates you to acknowledge that it’s ok to need a “time out”. You are human, and deserve to receive the love and support that you desire. Hold on, don’t give up.
They are cute, handsome, adorable, and so cool but when does that shift happen? The shift of them becoming a threat? A Target? A menace? My heart aches for the grieving Mothers who had to bury their sons due to injustices that have lingered for centuries. Enough of turning the other cheek. It’s time for many to admit that Wrong is Wrong. If you can say that “All Lives Matter” then, you “Should” be outraged as well. This is not a hatred post, it’s a MY SONS’ Reality Post. #nicolecherise #mysons #godson #socialinjustice #justiceforgeorgefloyd
Of course, there is another aspect of what’s posted on this picture. Many people have enjoyed the family time by being entertained with Tic-Tok, games, binge watching movies or shows etc… However, only a few truly have that sense of Calmness.
These people accept what’s happening, take precautions, but refuse to let the Pandemic get the best of their lives. I feel this way about what one of my best friends. Anytime we chat she has this calmness to her. Now, that doesn’t mean that the pandemic hasn’t caused plans to change or be postponed due to the current bans but she’s doing an amazing job by continuing ON.
Unfortunately, I too, struggle with the events that are taking place. I’m almost 9 months pregnant and anxious for the next few weeks. I’m mainly home, so I’m developing cabin fever and it truly has had an effect on my emotions, but Safety for me and the little guy has to come first.
What are the things you’ve noticed about people during this Pandemic? What have you noticed about yourself?
I struggle with this a lot because I’m still at a place in life where other’s thoughts and words matter and can affect my day. It truly shouldn’t and I’m aware of that and I wear my heart on my sleeve so it doesn’t help.
One thing that my therapist and many others say is that you can’t let others have control over your emotions. No one, should be able to control my feelings, how I think, or why I make the decisions that I do. So, with that being said, I share with you ways that may help if you struggle with this issue like I do.
Don’t take EVERYTHING personal.
Most talk a big game, but can’t follow their own advice.
They are HUMAN not a higher power.
I’m sure there additional ways that can help but those are my top reminders for now. What about you?
Do you have techniques on ways to protect your peace?
This happens quite often. We like to be in control and have control, but we really Don’t. We tend to believe we have all the answers, but what happens when you hit that brick wall and begin to break down?
The anxiety and panic kicks in and we can feel lost. I say to you friends, it’s ok to NOT have all the answers. You CAN be wrong. You’re human and will make mistakes. Humble yourself, chill out with the arrogance now before you don’t have any other options but to.
While being in the third trimester of pregnancy, I’m exhausted, my body changes are starting to catch up and I’m almost at the point of being “done”. My fellow preggies Know what “Done” mean during that final stretch of pregnancy LOL.
During moments alone, I reflect on my reasons for continuing to strive for excellence. No matter what, I always divert back to my “why?” which is my Family. With the addition of another little person on the way, I don’t have room to give up or to lose.
What about you? When you start to have doubts, what is your “why?” that puts things back into perspective? Whatever it may be, never lose it. Keep it close to your heart so that on days when you feel like giving up or having doubts, it can pull you out of the hole.
Do whatever it takes. There are many ways to keep focus on what means the world to you. You can write it down in a journal, record a personal voice memo, create a vision board, the options are endless friends. You got this!