Tag: Love

Our circle is going through it too

I’m so guilty of this 🤦🏾‍♀️ but I’m a Work In Progress! And I’m sure I’m not alone with this. I have a big heart and would have the expectation that others should do what I do.. False! Friends, we can’t do this because not only is it draining, but it’s also not fair to others in our circle. Not everyone expresses the issues that they are battling, some need that isolation because they are trying to heal. Let’s continue to keep them in prayer during this season. Try not to think they are shading you or no longer love you. They do but they have to love themselves more.

Happy Hump Day Friends! Thanks for reading!

Nicole Cherise ♥️

No reminders needed…

On the journey of healing, I recognize the importance of loving yourself without the validation or attention from others.

It’s unhealthy to behave in this manner and to believe that if someone isn’t giving you praise, it’s a bad reflection of yourself. My dear friends, WE have to be our OWN best friend, and love ourselves first. It’s ok to have help as a secondary tool but it can’t be the ONLY tool.

It not easy to stop the codependency process but it WILL be worth it in the long run. Let’s continue to uplift one another, continue to do daily affirmations and grow. I’m here for anyone who needs help in their journeys.

As always, thanks for your support!

Nicole Cherise ♥️

Create your Own Story

Hi friends!

I know it’s been a while since I’ve blogged, but please know that I have missed being present and your presence!

One of the last videos that I did was in reference to our Story not being finished yet and that it’s only a chapter. To piggyback off of that, we NEED to focus on creating our OWN Story.

In Romantic relationships, many of us watch romantic movies or hear love songs and we think about wanting that happily ever after. We view our family dynamics, judge our friends’ relationships and are eager for all those great experiences to become ours.

We are taught during High school to attend college for a better future and then feel defeated when life doesn’t play out that way. So much pressure of what “success” is suppose to look like in our lives doesn’t always equal how we are living.

We need to create our Own love stories and our Own Success stories. What worked for some may not work for you. Be patient, go at your own pace. The work that you put into a relationship or your work is what the universe will bring back out. Find Peace and Happiness within yourselves and go from there.

I hope this post helps and I hope we all can have peace and happiness in our own personal journeys. Thanks for reading!

Nicole Cherise ♥️

Child’s love, Parent’s Love

I tell my son that I love him everyday. Many don’t feel the need to do that and would rather show it through their actions. Guess what? That’s perfectly fine. My Love languages are words of affirmation and physical touch. Therefore, I will let others know how I feel and expect the same back, to feel loved. I love to give hugs and cuddles, so of course I love that back lol. However, As a mother, I also realize that children, express their love differently and like to receive love differently.

As parents, I think it’s vital to recognize both love languages of our own and of our children. The last thing that we want is for them to feel as if that component was missing in their childhood. We need to discover the layers to our children and unlock the layers of ourselves.

How do you all feel about that?

Thanks for reading and Happy Holidays!

Nicole Cherise ♥️

Reflecting through the struggle.

Hi friends!

I hope everyone had a wonderful thanksgiving. During this time, many of us spend time with our family and friends. We take the time out to let people know how much we care and how important they are to us. Also, we get some good Eats during this holiday as well lol.

On yesterday, I stayed home to rest because my Left leg has been bothering me a lot. Two of the symptoms that I endure while battling MS is weakness and nerve pain in my arms and legs. During this time of rest, I kept thinking of: what am I fighting for?

I’m fighting for my family, friends and Myself. I made a promise that no matter how hard this battle gets, that I wouldn’t give up. Even now, as I’m currently dragging my left foot around, I still have to be present for my son on my day off. On the inside, I’m screaming but on the outside I have to hold the shield of armor for strength. My son needs to understand that life isn’t fair but you Must continue on. I need my husband to understand that his life partner isn’t a quitter. The rest of my family and friends need to know that I may be delicate but I refuse to Break. I’ll be strong because they are strong for me.

What about you friends? What do you fight for? With all the issues that we battle on a daily basis, what gives you that reason to fight?

Blessings to you all, thank you for reading!

Nicole Cherise ♥️

Where is the love Wednesday: can a person truly be in love with two people or is it in Lust with two people instead?

Hey friends! Happy Hump day!

I want to discuss a topic that I’ve always questioned when I hear people speak about being in love with two people. No, this has never been me. So of course my stance is Not bible nor how things should be. I’m just curious, is it really Love or Lust?

Love… a feeling, an act that is shown in different ways and often communicated amongst many in intimate relationships (in this case romantic ones). Some feel that when you love someone their needs become a priority just as your own.

Lust.. a feeling and an act as well from chemistry between individuals (usually sexual). Some could say when your in Lust with someone it’s solely your needs and wants only.

As a Millennial, I notice that our generation and of course others have a problem with communicating, being vulnerable enough to allow someone to come in our inner circle, trust and wanting committed relationships. There are so many options : remain single, date around, get married, get divorced, remarry etc…

Now, with stating some of the issues that people face in dating/courting, is it possible for someone who has a hard time being vulnerable, to truly be in love with two people? I do believe you can be attracted to two people at the same time and like them for different reasons but Love?

As I said, my feelings are my feelings and not law. What do you guys think? Has this been you? Have you been in love with two people at once? Let me hear your thoughts.

Nicole Cherise ♥️

Feel Good Friday: Love Self!

Happy Friday!!!

Do you remember when you realized you loved You? Yes, you, yourself. Have you accepted you for you and all that it entails? I’m at that point and it feels good.

It’s not easy to do this, but I know that I needed to get to this space because I can’t expect love from others if I don’t possess a love for myself as well. When I say love ourselves that includes the ups and downs, the beautiful and not so beautiful. I know that I’m overall emotional, sensitive (the gift and curse), competitive, stubborn, can be loud, and tend to keep my feelings bottled up until I exploded (oh, not good I know). However, I’m also, loving, honest, loyal, supportive, hardworking and more.

I’m sure many of you share similar characteristics and can relate. So, I ask this question: if we want others to live and accept us as we are, don’t you think we ought to love and accept ourselves as well? I know that I’m growing every day, the many flaws that I have (some I’m sure I forgot to mention lol) I do work on. So, even though I accept and love me, I know the importance of striving to be a better me. I hope and pray you can do the same.

Woo, that felt great! Have a great day everyone and I hope this post helps someone today!

Thanks for reading,

Nicole Cherise ♥️