Tag: Love

Reflecting through the struggle.

Hi friends!

I hope everyone had a wonderful thanksgiving. During this time, many of us spend time with our family and friends. We take the time out to let people know how much we care and how important they are to us. Also, we get some good Eats during this holiday as well lol.

On yesterday, I stayed home to rest because my Left leg has been bothering me a lot. Two of the symptoms that I endure while battling MS is weakness and nerve pain in my arms and legs. During this time of rest, I kept thinking of: what am I fighting for?

I’m fighting for my family, friends and Myself. I made a promise that no matter how hard this battle gets, that I wouldn’t give up. Even now, as I’m currently dragging my left foot around, I still have to be present for my son on my day off. On the inside, I’m screaming but on the outside I have to hold the shield of armor for strength. My son needs to understand that life isn’t fair but you Must continue on. I need my husband to understand that his life partner isn’t a quitter. The rest of my family and friends need to know that I may be delicate but I refuse to Break. I’ll be strong because they are strong for me.

What about you friends? What do you fight for? With all the issues that we battle on a daily basis, what gives you that reason to fight?

Blessings to you all, thank you for reading!

Nicole Cherise ♥️

Where is the love Wednesday: can a person truly be in love with two people or is it in Lust with two people instead?

Hey friends! Happy Hump day!

I want to discuss a topic that I’ve always questioned when I hear people speak about being in love with two people. No, this has never been me. So of course my stance is Not bible nor how things should be. I’m just curious, is it really Love or Lust?

Love… a feeling, an act that is shown in different ways and often communicated amongst many in intimate relationships (in this case romantic ones). Some feel that when you love someone their needs become a priority just as your own.

Lust.. a feeling and an act as well from chemistry between individuals (usually sexual). Some could say when your in Lust with someone it’s solely your needs and wants only.

As a Millennial, I notice that our generation and of course others have a problem with communicating, being vulnerable enough to allow someone to come in our inner circle, trust and wanting committed relationships. There are so many options : remain single, date around, get married, get divorced, remarry etc…

Now, with stating some of the issues that people face in dating/courting, is it possible for someone who has a hard time being vulnerable, to truly be in love with two people? I do believe you can be attracted to two people at the same time and like them for different reasons but Love?

As I said, my feelings are my feelings and not law. What do you guys think? Has this been you? Have you been in love with two people at once? Let me hear your thoughts.

Nicole Cherise ♥️

Feel Good Friday: Love Self!

Happy Friday!!!

Do you remember when you realized you loved You? Yes, you, yourself. Have you accepted you for you and all that it entails? I’m at that point and it feels good.

It’s not easy to do this, but I know that I needed to get to this space because I can’t expect love from others if I don’t possess a love for myself as well. When I say love ourselves that includes the ups and downs, the beautiful and not so beautiful. I know that I’m overall emotional, sensitive (the gift and curse), competitive, stubborn, can be loud, and tend to keep my feelings bottled up until I exploded (oh, not good I know). However, I’m also, loving, honest, loyal, supportive, hardworking and more.

I’m sure many of you share similar characteristics and can relate. So, I ask this question: if we want others to live and accept us as we are, don’t you think we ought to love and accept ourselves as well? I know that I’m growing every day, the many flaws that I have (some I’m sure I forgot to mention lol) I do work on. So, even though I accept and love me, I know the importance of striving to be a better me. I hope and pray you can do the same.

Woo, that felt great! Have a great day everyone and I hope this post helps someone today!

Thanks for reading,

Nicole Cherise ♥️

My Mother’s Day Thoughts

Mother… the hardest task, but most rewarding job. Sometimes, I sit and watch my son running around and I just smile because I’m so grateful that he’s here.

Many pray for the opportunity to be a mom after years of trying to conceive. Many women are physically told that they can’t conceive or won’t be able to carry a baby. These are women who still walk past us with smiles to hide their sadness, they attend baby showers left and right, some have anger issues, some have lost children as well… yet God chose me?

My Mother’s Day Thoughts are for us Moms to remember the process. Be grateful to have our little ones. Be grateful that no matter how difficult the ride may be, it serves a deeper purpose and we are you blessed. Many would trade places with us in a heartbeat. I, too, must remember this when I get frustrated.

Continue to do our hard work, stay committed and loving. Our future depends on it.

Happy Mother’s Day to all I’m this Role

Nicole Cherise ♥️

Where is the love Wednesday: Appreciation

Hi friends,

The older that I get, I realize that Appreciation is a necessity to give back to our loved ones. Some of us are constantly with our hands out or relying on someone, but do you realize that they don’t Have to do their good deeds?

Sometimes we take them for granted not realizing that we do. My tips are to make sure you tell them thank you, send a thank you card, return the good deed. We have to be willing to give back always.

When is the time you felt appreciated? Or when was the last time you made someone feel special?

Thanks for reading friends!

Nicole Cherise ♥️

As a MS patient, my dear loved ones, I’m trying. 

In the past 8 years, I’ve battle symptoms of Multiple Sclerosis. I’m an open book about this, therefore it’s no secret. I like to spread awareness so that others who are afraid, can Know they are not alone. Not only does MS have physical challenges but it also makes us schedule our lives differently.

I often cry to myself because I would make plans with people that I love and have to cancel because I don’t feel well. It’s hard to believe because on the outside, I “appear” to have it together. Yes, my fro is in place, my clothes look neat, I made it to work (somehow), I smile in selfies (hey, I like to take pics 💁🏾), I upload pics of my family but the truth is, it takes a lot of me to do those things. 

I want my family, friends and church family  to know that I truly love you all. I appreciate your words of kindness, prayers and guidance. I miss the “old” Nik all the time. I loved being able to just get up and go  and attend most events that people hosted. Now, that I’m a wife and mom, they are my immediate family. I try to be there for them during the moments I do have some additional energy while working full time. That doesn’t mean that I love any of you less or that I don’t want be a better family member, better friend, or church sister. God forbid if things went left and the disease progress agressively (which could happen), it’s going to be my husband and son who are obligated to step in as Caregivers. Doesn’t that mean that other family and friends can’t help? No, but you all have families as well to attend to. I’m a selfless person especially about that. Don’t stop plans, or life because of little ole me. Heck, I even feel that way for husband and son too. 

I also can’t forget the grieving that I’m still trying to process. At times, I’m just sad and want to be Still. I want to seek comfort from God’s promises and rest. While at rest, I’m mentally,  emotionally and physically calming down from stress. Losing my father and Goddaughter is a type pain that I never experienced and trust me, I’m doing my best. 


Through it all, I believe things will get better, I will get better. My relationships will grow better. I love you all and I ask that you don’t give up on me. I don’t need sympathy, just patience and understanding. Thank you 🙏🏾

Nicole Cherise

Write your Own love story

When you are in a committed relationship, we all have our lists of do’s and Don’ts. Some are from past relationships or examples of relationships that we have seen. It’s all good! However, you have to concentrate on writing your own love story from Your perspective only. 



Of course, I can sit and say that my parents were married for a 44 years, they set the example of hard working and did a great job raising 2 kids. The truth is, what worked for them may not necessarily work for Steve and I. Guess what? That’s ok. 

People, fantasize over the perfect marriage/courtship, and comparing it fairytales. Marriage isn’t perfect, it takes hard work from Both individuals. Just like in fairy tales, tragedy and triumph can take place, therefore, just Write your own. Develop your character in your relationship before determining how the story is “suppose” to flow. Then combine the two for the incredible journey.

I hope this helps! Thanks for reading!
Nicole Cherise ❤️