Tag: relationship

Shed the Layers with your S/O

Please shed your layers to your significant other. It is extremely difficult to try to figure someone out when they continuously keep on their shields.

I know many stay on defense mode because of past relationship failures and mistreatment. That is understandable, however, you can’t fully commit to someone without giving your true self. True self includes your beauty, flaws, dreams and nightmares etc.

What I’m writing isn’t Law but something that I think is worth a chance. For all you know, you could be missing out on a beautiful companionship all because you don’t want to seem “Soft” or “weak“. Think about it.

thanks for reading friends!

Nicole Cherise !

Improvement vs Changing of your Significant Other


I always had the idea that if I truly wanted my husband to change, that he would no longer be the man that I fell in love with. If anything during almost 17 years of being together, I would make suggestions of areas of improvement. I didn’t need him to be the perfect boyfriend/fiance/husband but I always him to be his best and I encouraged that. He did the same for me as well. 
A lot of times, while dating, people tend to want to “change or fix” their mate. My guess is that we have an ideal image of what we want of our mate and people try to mold them into that. Nothing is wrong with seeing the potential that your other half could have but when you try to change them, that could cause resentment. They may start to feel inadequate when it comes to you.
If there are things that your significant other needs to work on, my advice is to effectively communicate with them. Speak with him or her, not At them. My next advice is to give them a chance to improve. Nothing happens over night, so please be fair to them in that regard. Lastly, be willing to hear improvements for yourself. You can’t be the only one giving critiques and not willing to get them as well. ☺️ I hope this helps friends! What are your thoughts?
Thanks for reading friends!! 
Nicole Cherise ❤️

They should encourage a better you


So, you are in a relationship and everything was going great until they try to Change you. In relationships we can get “comfortable” in our appearance or fall short of doing the things we did to win our mate. 

Our significant other may encourage us to do better and be better, but if he or she is saying that You aren’t good enough, that’s a harsh reality. When someone we love and care about tell us that we need to redo things and change up our style, it’s ultimately telling us that we need to change who we are to become their “ideal” or “perfect mate”. 
So what do you do in that situation?

You can express your feelings in hopes that your SO will calm down with the put downs or you may have to accept that it’s not a good fit. Either way, staying true to self is key. 
You have to love yourself as yourself because becoming someone else could bring you to a dark and depressive state. Remember, there is someone out there who will love and accept you as you are.
Thanks for reading,
Nicole Cherise ❤

Motivational Monday’s : be with like-minded people

  
 Hey friends! 
Not only do I love this picture, but I love the quote that the writer made. Some people believe that in order to get to your full potential, you need to associate with others who are in the position you want or trying to achieve those goals. I have to say that I agree. The people we speak to regularly play a major role in our lives. 
With saying that, how many are associated with others who want to achieve goals like themselves? This doesn’t have to only involve career goals, it can be relationship goals, financial goals, etc. I believe that if you want to become an entrepreneur, some of your contacts should be so as well. You can’t only associate with those who do Not have the dream of owning their own business because it can be harder to achieve that dream without that extra push. Let’s say you want to get married or thinking about parenthood, yes, those are both journeys in life that are not the same for everyone, but having a mentor who is married or a parent can help give insight on things to expect. Let’s face it, sometimes we can’t get that from family because of the different dynamics and biases. 
There are many other benefits that I’m sure I missed. Does anyone else associate or have a mentor with others that are like-minded? What other benefits do you believe take place?
Nicole Cherise