Tag: Relationships

Feel Good Friday: Seek comfort in your S.O. but don’t get too Comfortable. 

Hi friends! Happy Friday to all! 
Isn’t this always the topic of discussion amongst friends? You are deeply in love with your partner. You reached a place in the relationship where you are happy, trusting and loyal to one another. However, some how, you both get too “comfortable”. 
What could too comfortable mean? It differs from one relationship to the other, but a few examples could be:

  1. Less quality time
  2. Less compliments or cute gestures
  3. Less communication
  4. Less saying “I love you”
  5. Appearance
  6. Intimacy
  7. Less hard work to make the relationship work
  8. Lacking responsibilities one once had.

That’s just a few, if you can think of more, please drop it in the comments section. 


Even though those things may seem like minor issues that couples endure, they can become bigger problems down the road. When people ask me for advice in this matter, I’ll tell them to C̶O̶M̶M̶U̶N̶I̶C̶A̶T̶E̶ Effectively Communicate with their significant other. Go into the conversation with an open mind, speak calmly, and be respectful. Also, we have to remember that nothing changes overnight. It takes time, patience and leading by example. 
Has this been anyone else? Can you admit that you’ve gotten too comfortable in your relationship before? Let’s discuss below. 

Thanks for reading!!!
Nicole Cherise ❤️

Write your Own love story

When you are in a committed relationship, we all have our lists of do’s and Don’ts. Some are from past relationships or examples of relationships that we have seen. It’s all good! However, you have to concentrate on writing your own love story from Your perspective only. 



Of course, I can sit and say that my parents were married for a 44 years, they set the example of hard working and did a great job raising 2 kids. The truth is, what worked for them may not necessarily work for Steve and I. Guess what? That’s ok. 

People, fantasize over the perfect marriage/courtship, and comparing it fairytales. Marriage isn’t perfect, it takes hard work from Both individuals. Just like in fairy tales, tragedy and triumph can take place, therefore, just Write your own. Develop your character in your relationship before determining how the story is “suppose” to flow. Then combine the two for the incredible journey.

I hope this helps! Thanks for reading!
Nicole Cherise ❤️

Where is the Love Wednesdays: balance.

Hi friends! Happy Wednesday to all. 

In our busy lives and schedules, sometimes we can get overwhelmed by the amount of places that we all have to be at once. It’s hectic and without organization, we can truly go crazy. If you are in a relationship with someone or have a family, this can be a challenge as well. What can we do? Find a Balance.


Finding a Balance in our lives helps keep us not only sane but it gives a sense of stability. We have significant others, children, elderly parents, demanding jobs/businesses, meetings, down time with friends and so on. I recommend prioritizing and go from there. 

What are your priorities? 


In my life, my list is: Faith, Family and Career. My faith is my intimate relationship with God. I need that for strength as I battle Multiple Sclerosis, life set backs and guidance to name a few.

Family, comes first! Friends are my personal picked family so they are included. My husband and son comes first no matter what. They are my back bones and their happiness and loyalty means the world to me. Therefore, I can’t put them on the back burner or place things that hold No value over them and their Needs. Of course my extended family and best friends are next in importance because I love them and they are my support system. 

Career is important because it’s how we bring home the bacon lol. Rather it’s a 9-5 job or opportunities for entrepreneurship, what we produce are a representation of us. 

Sometimes when there are distractions or an imbalance of things in your life, someone or something can feel neglected. That’s the last thing that we ever want to do. So, set your own priority list and stick to it. Communicate your intentions and goals and I’m sure all will work 😊.  I hope this helps someone today that may struggle in their area of life.

Thanks for reading friends! 

Nicole Cherise ❤️


Attraction by default?

Does this apply to anyone? 

I know that there are qualities in my husband that my late father possessed as well. No their not the same but very similar 😊.

On the flip side, I have heard cases that people were attracted to the “not so great” things about their parent. Is it because that’s what is known? Or are they filling an absent void? Let me know your thoughts. 

Thanks for reading friends!

Nicole Cherise ❤️

Where is the love Wednesday: it’s not good to change them

Hi Friends!

This is from my Bible app plan. The topic is motherhood. I completely agree with this devotional by Karen. 

Many times in a relationship, especially in a marriage, many think they can change their spouses into their “perfect image”. That’s not fair because it will cause conflict between the two. When you said “I Do” it was to all of them not just some or the parts you like of them. 

Welcome to the comfort zone 


Just a reminder for couples. Never Stop dating, don’t stop effectively communicating, get “dolled” up, be intimate, remain best friends. That’s only a few of the things that started the foundation of a relationship. Unfortunately, over time, many couples become too “relaxed” or it becomes “boring” and it’s because they have become too comfortable. 

The good news is, a couple can always spice things up or change up their “routine”. Things can get better as long as both people want to do better. 
What are your thoughts?
Thanks great people for reading!
Nicole Cherise ❤️

The truth and Love

Hi great people!

Every so often, ill hear someone say that “Love has given up on them”. I do NOT agree with that statement. Yes, we may experience failed relationships, but Love didn’t fail us, the people did.

Just as people love to say all Men are dogs and all Women are horrible, that is not the Truth. The truth is, your choices in men and women haven’t been the best ones. There are STILL good people to date, court and have healthy marriages with. If you  Change your mindset, you can change your outcome. Think about it friends.

Thanks for reading.

Nicole Cherise ❤️